Trulia Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Hi everyone, About 6 months ago I met someone after talking/Skyping for 2 months. We live in different states and met online, had a ton in common and shared many similar goals, I traveled to him and spent 5 days (he got me a hotel) I thought we had a beautiful time, he introduced me to some of his family, called me his girlfriend to a friend of his, etc. I'm normally very shy and reserved and throughout the visit he kept asking if he was what I expected, I told him absolutely, more than I expected. He would joke about how much he liked me and if I had put a spell on him, I felt we were both very attracted to each other. Before we met we had talked about being intimate and both agreed it was important to wait until we had an official commitment however he did try on the 4th night and I told him I didn't feel right because of all the conversations we had and I didn't want to do something we'd regret later (initially I was more open to being intimate but he's the one who said it was better to wait) and that i just wasn't mentally prepared for that, we made out and were very touchy feely. Anyway long story short after a week he called me and told me something was missing, he wasn't sure what it was, he was sorry and felt very bad about it. I was in shock and didn't say much, deleted him from my Facebook and that was that. A few months later I got a little buzzed and added him again, he accepted me but we didn't talk or communicate. Now six months later I get a text from him asking how I'm doing, he hasn't heard from me in a long time and hope I was doing well. Whatever picture I post he likes it whereas before he wouldn't, and we've been texting here and there over the last couple weeks. I don't want to get my hopes up, but I'm really curious why after 6 months he wants to communicate. We're both in our 30's and want to get married, I don't feel he is the type of guy who plays games, I felt he was very sincere, maybe a little confused. I know we had a strong connection and its been hard to forget that, we also come from different cultures which we had talked about and some people feel his family wouldn't have approved of him being with someone outside his race. I guess my question is for those with some experience should I just chalk this up to just friendly chit chat or could he be probing to see where my feelings are at. I just know how I am and if I'm not interested in someone I move on 100%, I have no interest in making friends or keeping in contact with someone I see no future with so maybe I'm coming from that perspective. Appreciate any insight!
brokengirl85 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Your mistake for adding him. He rejected you once, now you're opening yourself again to be rejected yet once again. If something was missing the first time, it'll continue to be missing a second, third, fourth time. Unfriend and block him. He's not the one for you. He must be lonely and desperate, and he must need sex. He's not interested in having a rekationship with you. Not in the past, not now. Move on. 1
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