mcsc177 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 (edited) I met this girl during a group dinner thing, it was Veteran's day. We didn't exchange many words but I thought she was absolutely gorgeous. I told her friend I thought she was really cute and her friend told me she was engaged. I said "well, that's that I guess". I had seen her before, thought she was beautiful but never thought anything would happen. But a lot happened. One night my friend said she was at this Casino where we had been for a couple of hours, we met up with her and her friend and somehow her and I started to talk quite a bit. We didn't really talk about much, we just kinda hung out. After that night, her and I started to hang out a lot. We would sit by these old bleachers at night and one night I tried to put my sweater around both of us because it was really cold... it didn't work but I had my arm around her. One night I told her "you know that I like you right?" She said she had no idea but she laughed. She told me she was engaged and didn't reciprocate anything. I know I'm an ******* but I kept going, I kept hanging out with her and I asked her about her ring and she said her boyfriend had asked her to marry him a couple of weeks back and she had accepted. I had my doubts about it and one night while she spoke to her family, they made fun of her "25 cent ring". I thought they were joking but after the call ended she said "that's really awkward..." Her ring was fake but she did have a boyfriend, he was in California, we were in another state. I got upset but I stuck around. I hung out with her every single day from November 14 to December 11. I came back to California for 11 days while she was going to be there, we met up twice during that time and the second time we met up we had sex. Immediately after, she told her boyfriend about it. We talked two days later and she told me she wanted to rebuild things with him, I wanted her to break up with him. I felt hurt and told her that we shouldn't talk then. We didn't talk for 2 weeks, except for some of her messages telling me how she was going to be in Texas and also one message that said she missed me to which I didn't reply. Then we talked one time on the phone and agreed to be friends. Ever since that day it has escalated to the point where she thinks she loves me and I think I love her. She has been his girlfriend for 7 years and she says that she can't just break up with him because he lives with his alcoholic parents and has suicidal thoughts. He's waiting for a military assignment but he's been waiting for a while. I told her she needs to break up with him and gain some clarity in her mind, and I told her she can't be with someone out of pity. Today I decided not to talk to her again... I don't if I'll ever even see her again. She told me "if you start to lose feelings for me during this time that we're not supposed to be talking, please let me know".That guy is all she's ever known and I don't think she should be with him even with what she told me about him and also the family backlash she will get if she broke up with him. We're both under a lot of stress because of our training, I'm the second guy she's ever been with (aside from her 7 year relationship) and she's trapped but is afraid to do anything about it. I told her if she ever decides to do something about it, to talk to me. I'm really sorry this is so long, I also know what I've done is immoral and wrong but honestly I don't regret it, I've loved this girl like I have loved no one else in my life. Am I making the right choice. Edited February 23, 2016 by mcsc177
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