I am so mentally messed up...

[loveflower]

sigh...I don't even know where to start...

 

What does it means if this person checked you out 3 times altogeher in 2 social media?

 

I find him very fascinating and irresistible. I can't forget about him. I am so lonely. but at the same time I have 0 confident in myself and I guess I am at least 5 years older than him. I feel I am not in his league.

 

basically I met this person 4 years ago once. he had a gf and later went oversea for 2 years. so basically I never thought about him in those 2 years.

 

then 2 years later he checked me out when he came back and also knew he was single because he signed up in a single group in meetup.

 

then I walked right passed by him in an event without saying hello. I know I am weird and been kicking myself then.

 

and about a year or so I got laid off and didn't want to go to any event anymore and then he went to another area to work and now no longer worked there. I am still looking for work. I have an interview tomorrow. and I am writing this now. I am really screwed.

 

he used to show up in my facebook's people you know list. now he no longer there. did he deleted me? otherwise there is no reason he disappear. other people are there. why he deleted me? I created a fake fb account and saw he uploaded lots of pic, of course they are not public.

 

what can I do? why I can't forget about him?

 

what should I do? this really suck! HELP!

[loveflower]

Any help?

 

why he removed?

 

he really shouldn't ...all his faults to make me think and now I can't forget!

[loveflower]

is it too late to friend requested him now?

 

will he think I am crazy?

 

any hope? any chance?

[Qboro90]

You're acting crazy. Lay off social media and over analyzing things that have nothing to do with reality or what this guy is thinking. If you are interested in this guy then send him a message "hey sorry for the randomness, but we're you at ______ event a while back? Could've swore we crossed paths otherwise you have a twin out there somewhere. Haha hope all is well".

 

If you don't get a reply, he's not interested, move on.

[loveflower]

You're acting crazy. Lay off social media and over analyzing things that have nothing to do with reality or what this guy is thinking. If you are interested in this guy then send him a message "hey sorry for the randomness, but we're you at ______ event a while back? Could've swore we crossed paths otherwise you have a twin out there somewhere. Haha hope all is well".

 

If you don't get a reply, he's not interested, move on.

 

so first I friend request him? but he is not on the list anymore. must removed me from his list?

 

I know I am crazy...that's why I want your people's help!

[Buddhist]

Realise it's been years since the last time you had contact with him. This corpse is not coming back to life.

[loveflower]

Realise it's been years since the last time you had contact with him. This corpse is not coming back to life.

 

Last time I saw him was 1 year ago.

 

he just came back to civilization a few months ago from a remote place. He removed where he work now...but lots of mobile uploads, travel around the world again?

 

can I still friend request after all this time and if he removed me?

Edited February 23, 2016 by loveflower

[loveflower]

I am feeling very mental...that's why I need your perspectives.

 

he found someone in the last few months?

[loveflower]

drive 2 hours for an interview tomorrow, and now here I am...

 

any input is appreciated!

[MissCongeniality]

Last time I saw him was 1 year ago.

 

he just came back to civilization a few months ago from a remote place. He removed where he work now...but lots of mobile uploads, travel around the world again?

 

can I still friend request after all this time and if he removed me?

Have you considered taking some personal time? Maybe just talking to a therapist to at least voice your concerns to I mean. Clearly you have some valid concerns, concerns you should discuss with a qualified professional.

[brokengirl85]

It's hard to follow your story but understand how difficult must be for you to write in English. Same here.

 

So, basically you're saying that you're still obsessed about this guy you met four years ago, right?

 

If you're asking for help here, my advice is to stop looking his social media. He's absolutely not interested, I assure you. If he were interested, you'd have known.

 

So, try to refrain yourself, and forget about this guy. He's not for you. I'm sorry

[loveflower]

If you're asking for help here, my advice is to stop looking his social media. He's absolutely not interested, I assure you. If he were interested, you'd have known.

 

then why he checked me out in social media? He checked me out FIRST. I never checked him out before. I only follow his social media AFTER I saw him show up in my social media.

 

so I blame him for causing me this trouble if he is not interested. He shouldn't have done that.

Edited February 23, 2016 by loveflower

[loveflower]

. If he were interested, you'd have known.

 

I don't know about that...men seem generally like me.

 

If I knew he is not interested, I wouldn't think about him at all.

 

The reason I asked is because I wonder if he is interested but thinks I am not interested so I messed things up.

[brokengirl85]

I don't understand what are you referring to when you said he started looking your social media. He sent you a friend request on Facebook? Or he followed you on Instagram? Be more precise.

 

Maybe he's testing the waters to see if you're available. Were you both in a relationship before? Have you had sex with him? Maybe he wants sex again from you?

 

Anyway, if he were really interested in a relationship, he'd have texted you, or invited you on a date, don't you think?

[loveflower]

I don't understand what are you referring to when you said he started looking your social media. He sent you a friend request on Facebook? Or he followed you on Instagram? Be more precise.

 

Maybe he's testing the waters to see if you're available. Were you both in a relationship before? Have you had sex with him? Maybe he wants sex again from you?

 

Anyway, if he were really interested in a relationship, he'd have texted you, or invited you on a date, don't you think?

 

We only met once for language exchange. then later he told me my tongue is not authentic enough for him. he was very polite in declining the exchange, I was pissed nonetheless. then he went to my home region for 2 years and then came back and checked me out on a professional social media we both members of. then he went to the event held by the media and I went. he came closer and closer to my corner and talked to another person. I got bored and went right by them with my friend to go home without saying hello to him.

 

so I don't know if by doing that I show him that I didn't recognize him, didn't care about, didn't being friendly and didn't show interest and that I was still pissed at him and that I was aloof.

 

Hope this is clear.

[brokengirl85]

Mmm. Ok. Got it.

 

Yes...no, sorry, you have a vivid imagination. This guy has nothing to do with you. I thought you too were dating in the past but you only met him frequently and nothing ever happened.

 

 

Look, try to go out with friends, even try to make an online dating profile, go on dates with guys, experiment what is it to be with a guy...do you get what I'm saying?

 

Stop being delusional with this other guy, I'm not sure why but you created this whole story that's only air. It's actually funny (sorry).

 

Anyway, my advice is to go find a guy, a real one that can love you like you deserve. Stop wasting time because life is short. Just my two cents

[loveflower]

Mmm. Ok. Got it.

 

Yes...no, sorry, you have a vivid imagination. This guy has nothing to do with you. I thought you too were dating in the past but you only met him frequently and nothing ever happened.

 

 

Look, try to go out with friends, even try to make an online dating profile, go on dates with guys, experiment what is it to be with a guy...do you get what I'm saying?

 

Stop being delusional with this other guy, I'm not sure why but you created this whole story that's only air. It's actually funny (sorry).

 

Anyway, my advice is to go find a guy, a real one that can love you like you deserve. Stop wasting time because life is short. Just my two cents

 

yes.

 

I have found 0 guy interested me online...that's the problem.

[brokengirl85]

yes.

 

I have found 0 guy interested me online...that's the problem.

 

Then you should need to improve your physical appearance, loveflower. Your hair, your makeup, your clothing, your body...

 

Try to improve how you look (yes, I know some people will get offended by this comment but hey it's the truth!!)

 

If no one is interested in dating you, I understand you get desperate when someone just gives you a little attention and you turn that into obsession. No no no. Go to the gym, run, do workout, bye sexy clothes, watch YouTube videos on how to do your makeup. Improve your hairstyle.

 

 

And then, take new pictures of yourself and create a new dating site profile. You need to start dating guys ASAP.

[loveflower]

Then you should need to improve your physical appearance, loveflower. Your hair, your makeup, your clothing, your body...

 

Try to improve how you look (yes, I know some people will get offended by this comment but hey it's the truth!!)

 

If no one is interested in dating you, I understand you get desperate when someone just gives you a little attention and you turn that into obsession. No no no. Go to the gym, run, do workout, bye sexy clothes, watch YouTube videos on how to do your makeup. Improve your hairstyle.

 

 

And then, take new pictures of yourself and create a new dating site profile. You need to start dating guys ASAP.

 

 

NO!!!!!!!!!!

 

you have a problem understanding English!

 

I meant interested me, not interested in me!

 

crazy! I just refused a good looking guy who msg me on that social media around the same the time this guy checked me out!

 

I was told by men that I am sexy and have all the assets!

[Shining One]

NO!!!!!!!!!!

 

you have a problem understanding English!

Actually, I was confused by that too.

 

I meant interested me, not interested in me!

That should be: "Interesting to me". "Interested me" is improper English and can be interpreted either way.

[brokengirl85]

Ahh ok. But read your previous message: you said "I have found 0 (zero) guys interested on me online"

 

Yes, it's kinda difficult to understand the way you write, to be honest.

 

Well, I'm glad you're sexy and succesful online. Then you should have more options. Forget about this other guy you're obsessed with. He has 0 (zero) interest in you.

[loveflower]

It turns out 'brokengirl85' is the one who has a vivid imagination. lol

 

I don't know...when in high school, the most handsome boy catched me up after school, and 'beg' and insisted me to take his umbrella 3 times because it looked like it was going to rain...I was clueless and refused him. don't know why was that? guess that was my imagination that he likes me? lol

[brokengirl85]

It turns out 'brokengirl85' is the one who has a vivid imagination. lol

 

I don't know...when in high school, the most handsome boy catched me up after school, and 'beg' and insisted me to take his umbrella 3 times because it looked like it was going to rain...I was clueless and refused him. don't know why was that? guess that was my imagination that he likes me? lol

 

Haha how funny! The guy with the umbrella :lmao:

 

Yes, I have a vivid imagination too, loveflower.

[loveflower]

Ahh ok. But read your previous message: you said "I have found 0 (zero) guys interested on me online"

 

Yes, it's kinda difficult to understand the way you write, to be honest.

 

Well, I'm glad you're sexy and succesful online. Then you should have more options. Forget about this other guy you're obsessed with. He has 0 (zero) interest in you.

 

no...I meant men in real life told me. not interested online any more.

[loveflower]

Haha how funny! The guy with the umbrella :lmao:

 

Yes, I have a vivid imagination too, loveflower.

 

 

for the record, I didn't grow up in north america! we rode bike to schools.

 

why is that funny? it just happened.

Edited February 23, 2016 by loveflower