Is Everyone Into Interracial Now a Days???!

February 23, 2016

I am going to ask this in the most respectful and "filtered" way that I could.

My desire is to end up with someone I share the same values, interests, etc. with, most importantly culture. I want someone who is not going to ask me awkward questions about what people that look like me like or do.

If everyone else is in an interracial relationship, it is fine but I starting to see a trend and the same "types" are in relationships. I mean that is great and dandy but it seems like when you see something going on in society, you unconsciously follow after.

(Am I making any sense?)

I just want someone like me....in THAT way too...my skin, hair, etc. I have my limits and standards.

I love other cultures and being around them but I am not IN love with them. Plus growing up always being around "other" people, I got sick of it. I was around my own only for a short amount of time.

The more I found out about my history, the more I just fell in love.

Any thoughts or suggestions?

February 23, 2016

After doing OLD, I can confidently say that most people are like you, they will only date within their own race or make one or two exceptions.

I have always been attracted to every race. I'm kind of one of those people who always wanted a friend of every race, to live in the most diverse and liberal cities, to eat every kind of cuisine, etc.

It sounds kind of good to say "I'll like you regardless of your skin color."

But yea, do what you wish. Everybody does what they wish in dating anyway. If you don't pick by skin color, everybody picks by face, boobs, muscles, etc, all just as superficial anyway.

But I will say it shocked me how many people will only date their own race, and in reality the number is much higher than OLD profiles suggest. I'd say it's probably about 60-65%.

BTW, skin color has nothing to do with culture. Whatever culture it is you are referring to, there's people of many races who are part of it.

Edited February 23, 2016 by JuneJulySeptember

February 23, 2016

After doing OLD, I can confidently say that most people are like you, they will only date within their own race or make one or two exceptions.

I have always been attracted to every race. I'm kind of one of those people who always wanted a friend of every race, to live in the most diverse and liberal cities, to eat every kind of cuisine, etc.

It sounds kind of good to say "I'll like you regardless of your skin color."

But yea, do what you wish. Everybody does what they wish in dating anyway. If you don't pick by skin color, everybody picks by face, boobs, muscles, etc, all just as superficial anyway.

But I will say it shocked me how many people will only date their own race, and in reality the number is much higher than OLD profiles suggest. I'd say it's probably about 60-65%.

BTW, skin color has nothing to do with culture. Whatever culture it is you are referring to, there's people of many races who are part of it.

You could be right about culture but they have a different experience because they could never walk in someone elses shoes...and I think it would've been shallow to say that I'm not attracted to them enough to date them, lol. I have seen nice looking people of all backgrounds but thats just as far as it gets with me. The thought of them living with me and small things...

I'm not going to say, lol, just so different and weird to me.

Other than that, I agree with experiencing what other people offer. I realized that Indian food is on the top of my list of favorite foods.

February 23, 2016

You could be right about culture but they have a different experience because they could never walk in someone elses shoes...and I think it would've been shallow to say that I'm not attracted to them enough to date them, lol. I have seen nice looking people of all backgrounds but thats just as far as it gets with me. The thought of them living with me and small things...

I'm not going to say, lol, just so different and weird to me.

Other than that, I agree with experiencing what other people offer. I realized that Indian food is on the top of my list of favorite foods.

Again, I don't know where you're at, but culture and race are different. Times have changed ... a lot.

There's Asians who were born and raised in Central America, blacks in Italy and France, and Indians/South Asians in Kazhakstan. I know people who fit each of those descriptions.

And when they become first generation, they take on 80-90% typically of that culture. Some are 2nd, 3rd or 4th.

It's fine to say you're not attracted to a race, but to say you have racial preferences for other reasons is weird. I was born in America and I'm just as culturally American as any white or black dude. If a woman doesn't want to date me because I'm not white, fine, but if she doesn't want to date me because she looks at my skin and says I'm not 'culturally American', you see how that's insulting?

Edited February 23, 2016 by JuneJulySeptember

February 23, 2016

Indian food is truly amazing.

I wouldn't say there is a trend, it's just becoming fact that the cultural differences between the races are getting smaller and smaller.

As for your preference, it's fine. I have a similar preference when it comes to culture, rather than race. I want similar culture so we can have lots of unspoken understandings.

February 23, 2016

June, what an enlightening statement!

No offense to this topic, yet we are genetic mutts

Plus I'm of the human race...and sometimes even then I am slow to stay in this race! My feet get tired

February 23, 2016

If everyone else is in an interracial relationship, it is fine but I starting to see a trend and the same "types" are in relationships. I mean that is great and dandy but it seems like when you see something going on in society, you unconsciously follow after.

(Am I making any sense?)

There is nothing unconscious about it. The propaganda is being pushed out there and it is being pushed hard. I find it nauseating, and I think the motivation behind it is both silly and naïve.

February 23, 2016

There is nothing unconscious about it. The propaganda is being pushed out there and it is being pushed hard. I find it nauseating, and I think the motivation behind it is both silly and naïve.

lol

10char

February 23, 2016

Someone questioning why you'd be resistant to dating outside of your race is not the same as being "pressured" into dating outside of your race. Where are you people hanging out where this is such an issue?

I'm a white guy living in a racially diverse area, yet it doesn't seem like I can't turn around without bumping into an interracial couple. I've only met a handful of people, usually white women, who have outright said they wouldn't date a black guy. But those people have generally been dismissive of other races as a whole, not just under the lens of dating.

February 23, 2016

People will date any race if they are having bad luck.

February 23, 2016

People will date any race if they are having bad luck.

Does this include the rat race?

February 23, 2016

There is nothing unconscious about it. The propaganda is being pushed out there and it is being pushed hard. I find it nauseating, and I think the motivation behind it is both silly and naïve.

Ok

Multiracial dating is the wave of the future. It may not happen in our lifetimes, but it will happen. Sooner or later, everyone will be of mixed race, if they aren't already. That is the inevitable outcome of a more globalized society. It's not a trend and it's got nothing to do with propaganda.

February 23, 2016

Op, I do think there has been a band wagon going on and I think it may have to do with the suppression of interracial desires for so long. Now, people are free to do as they want and people are curious and it's new and different.

Even saying something like 60% of people prefer their own race is still such a huge difference than what it was 20 years ago.

I am black woman. When I date, I'm not trying to push any agenda. Most of the time I even forget the race of the person I'm talking to. When you're talking about everyday problems or making jokes, you're not constantly aware of someone or your own race. I don't think anyone really cares in the end.

I think women are more picky about race than men are.

Interestingly, for men I've dated, I've never been fetishized, racialized at all, and I've dated a wide race of men. I will say that most men I've dated have been middle to upper middle class though. Most of the time dating just so happened. We had similar tastes/issues, we hung around each other, we ended up dating. Some men may find me more attractive because of my skin, but that's the same as finding someone more attractive because they're brunette/blonde/have green eyes. I also find some men more attractive because of their skintone/hair color (eye color does nothing for me).

I am pretty strongly American (i'm a descendant from a 14th century female slave and probably a white slave owning master somewhere in there as I have light-skin, wavy hair and a sharp nose.)

Hope this helps.

February 23, 2016

Ok

Multiracial dating is the wave of the future. It may not happen in our lifetimes, but it will happen. Sooner or later, everyone will be of mixed race, if they aren't already. That is the inevitable outcome of a more globalized society. It's not a trend and it's got nothing to do with propaganda.

Why push all of this interracial mixing propaganda if it is inevitable?

I don't reject interracial relationships.

I reject the pushing, prodding, and outright propaganda.

February 23, 2016

Why push all of this interracial mixing propaganda if it is inevitable?
I don't reject interracial relationships.
I reject the pushing, prodding, and outright propaganda.

Thank you! I don't think anyone gets it. I don't expose myself to much of the media so I get it.I stopped watching TV and reading stuff online for several weeks once and then I decided to watch it again.

I didn't realize how crazy this has become...people think we are being united as one, that is not the case. It is not giving you freedom to think for yourself by pushing something this personal. I am not even sure if they actually are genuine couples anymore.

February 23, 2016

Why push all of this interracial mixing propaganda if it is inevitable?
I don't reject interracial relationships.
I reject the pushing, prodding, and outright propaganda.

Pushing? Prodding? Propaganda? Who is demanding you leave your same-race significant other and date a black person? What kind of propaganda are you talking about? I guess I missed the part where all the world's governments mandated interracial relationships. Or are you considering media portrayals of interracial relationships are somehow propaganda?

This is sadly reminiscent of earlier days during the gay marriage movement, when a tiny minority of people asking for equal rights were called a radical fringe and people would say "I'm not against gay rights, I just don't want it shoved down my throat", as if they would accept gay rights only if it meant never having to look at or think about gay people.

February 23, 2016

Again, I don't know where you're at, but culture and race are different. Times have changed ... a lot.

There's Asians who were born and raised in Central America, blacks in Italy and France, and Indians/South Asians in Kazhakstan. I know people who fit each of those descriptions.

And when they become first generation, they take on 80-90% typically of that culture. Some are 2nd, 3rd or 4th.

It's fine to say you're not attracted to a race, but to say you have racial preferences for other reasons is weird. I was born in America and I'm just as culturally American as any white or black dude. If a woman doesn't want to date me because I'm not white, fine, but if she doesn't want to date me because she looks at my skin and says I'm not 'culturally American', you see how that's insulting?

I still don't believe that another race can share a culture...maybe be celebratory of it and highly appreciate it but like I said they would never understand it to its fullest extent.

Okay well...I stand by what I said, lol.

February 23, 2016

I still don't believe that another race can share a culture...maybe be celebratory of it and highly appreciate it but like I said they would never understand it to its fullest extent.

Okay well...I stand by what I said, lol.

Are you suggesting Kazuo Ishiguro somehow doesn't count as the best British author in modern history because he's "ethnically" Japanese, even though he has no real ties to Japan and is an absolute master of British literature? You think someone with his incredible intellect can't "understand [british culture] to its fullest extent"? Who made you the arbiter of cultural purity? The entire concept of citizenship is based on the notion that tribes and peoples intermarry but come together to serve a common goal (or country).

Your biology doesn't make you special, and discriminating against others or suggesting they're less capable to participate in society because of their biology is inherently racist and dangerous.

February 23, 2016

Are you suggesting Kazuo Ishiguro somehow doesn't count as the best British author in modern history because he's "ethnically" Japanese, even though he has no real ties to Japan and is an absolute master of British literature? You think someone with his incredible intellect can't "understand [british culture] to its fullest extent"? Who made you the arbiter of cultural purity? The entire concept of citizenship is based on the notion that tribes and peoples intermarry but come together to serve a common goal (or country).

Your biology doesn't make you special, and discriminating against others or suggesting they're less capable to participate in society because of their biology is inherently racist and dangerous.

How is it dangerous? I have a big heart, sympathy for all, etc. If you met me you probably would find it hard to believe I wrote this.

I did not say I wanted to exterminate people who physically don't look like me.(cool down!)

You're being dramatic.

I think that PUSH to date someone who does not look like you is disturbing and how everyone is convinced that you're a racist if you don't....

Trust me, being a racist is too exhausting and worthless.

Why is everyone talking about my culture/race belief? You're not going to change my mind.

February 23, 2016

Pushing? Prodding? Propaganda? Who is demanding you leave your same-race significant other and date a black person? What kind of propaganda are you talking about? I guess I missed the part where all the world's governments mandated interracial relationships. Or are you considering media portrayals of interracial relationships are somehow propaganda?

This is sadly reminiscent of earlier days during the gay marriage movement, when a tiny minority of people asking for equal rights were called a radical fringe and people would say "I'm not against gay rights, I just don't want it shoved down my throat", as if they would accept gay rights only if it meant never having to look at or think about gay people.

What does black people have to do with it? They like their own race too.

This is what I am talking about....

I have seen the media show a lot of black people on tv with other races as if they are OK with this...

Do you see how you randomly used that as an example? This is no mistake...

but whatever, I can't convince many of what I am talking about unless I use legitimate links or post books on here. I am pretty sure that evidence won't even allow you see what I'm talking about.

Well it would make sense for someone to say that about gays, maybe because we are not all gay and can't relate to it....hello...

Edited February 23, 2016 by circlesinfinity

February 23, 2016

I still don't believe that another race can share a culture...maybe be celebratory of it and highly appreciate it but like I said they would never understand it to its fullest extent.

Okay well...I stand by what I said, lol.

The simplest example is adoption.

If an Italian-American family adopts an Asian baby, then that child will be raised just like an Italian American, with all the trimmings. How does that make him any different from his brother who has white skin?

Anyway, I'm not going to try and convince you of anything, there's no point. But I wouldn't say what you said out in public.

Edited February 23, 2016 by JuneJulySeptember

February 23, 2016

Well culture and race aren't always the same thing. For me I'm a European Canadian. I was born here, and one my parents was born in Canada. But still I have 3 grandparents (and 1 parent) who were born outside this country.

So I'm not sure how much different culturally I would be than anyone else born or raised in this country, even if they had a different heritage.

I'm married to a white woman, although from a completely different part of Europe. But I have lots of friends of different races, and I don't find their interests and lifestyle to be any different than mine.

We all have our preferences, and I get that, but for me, I don't have any preferences for women regarding race physically, and the fact that I'm not married to someone of a different race, is more coincidence than anything IMO.

Don't get me wrong, culture can play a huge difference, but I think you're assuming wrong, if you assume most people in your country of a different race are all that different culturally to you.

February 23, 2016

OP, I don't see what the issue really is here ....you like dating ppl of your own culture/race, so the answer is obvs to date ppl of your own culture/race, right? I doubt anyone will condemn you for that, assuming you're not a member of a hate group and don't go around preaching racial 'purity' etc.

Or are you trying to make some larger point?

February 23, 2016

I always found it amusing when a woman would say in her online dating profile "I'm not racist, but I will only date my own race". Um, newsflash sweetie, excluding someone from something based on race is racism.

February 23, 2016

It takes courage to state your traditional personal preferences in today's brainwashed, politically correct, mob phycology, country.

I have friends of all races, I'm a guy and have endeavored to score with women of all races (heck, when I was a teen I'd of done half the female creatures I saw on star trek type shows). But for serious relationships I stay within my race.

I don't feel anyone should be labeled a racist for not being attracted to other races.

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