ashy555 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I met this guy about 4 years ago and we went out a few times. Due to the fact that I was not over someone else it never eventuated to anything. I'm 25 and he is 27. Over the past 4 years we have kept in touch pretty frequently though. Then at one stage he got a girlfriend. They then broke up and about once a fortnight I would get a message from him. For the next 9 months I mainly ignored him as i honestly didn't really care and had a feeling it was for the wrong reasons(one msg was at 5am). One night I ran into him and we ended up hooking up and having a good night(no not sex) We started speaking again from then on. We went on so many dates. We went bowling a few times. Went on dinner dates. Played mini golf. Went to the movies. Just caught up to have drinks. Mostly organised on his end. We played sports at the park. We played playstation. I never really expected anything from it as I couldn't shake the idea that he was bad for me and I wouldn't be able to trust him so I kept my guard up pretty well and just went with the flow (only reason being is that he was 6foot 4, built and quite attractive.. silly i know) I honestly was just having a heap of fun and so was he. We started sleeping together about 1 month in. We constantly messaged. In the past month he even started to get quite intense and I was considering ending it in person quite soon as I knew it wouldn't end well and i knew it wasn't going anywhere. The last time I saw him we had a great time but I honestly didn't feel much in regards to feelings. He messaged first thing the next morning. Then he constantly messaged me all week like normal. He then asked in a flirty matter why I didn't invite him over that week. So I said he should join me Saturday night. I was actually going to have a chat to him and tell him that we should cool the whole thing. He said it sounded great and he would see how he felt after work. I replied and also made a funny joke about how he appeared in my sex dream the previous night and to get out.(we spoke like that a fair bit) He read it that night and completely ignored me and my funny snapchat. Not even a msg to let me know he wasn't coming over. I was pretty p****d as it showed complete lack of respect for me. A week went by and never bothered to msg him. Its for the best anyway but I am just annoyed I didn't end it earlier. I was not expecting a relationship but we were pretty close and had been dating for 5 months at least. He had chased me for the last 4 years and poof. He seems to have ghosted overnight I know he didn't owe me anything as we were never in a relationship. You would just think after 4 years I would deserve a little more respect than that. I guess one morning he just decided he wasn't that into me.. :o Ego takes a little bit of a sting haha but i'll get over it. Is this really that common? I really am a magnet for losers and wish I ended it first. The main thing is i had probably the most fun i have ever had. Its a pity it had to end the way it did
Shining One Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Ego takes a little bit of a sting haha but i'll get over it. Is this really that common? I really am a magnet for losers and wish I ended it first. The main thing is i had probably the most fun i have ever had. Its a pity it had to end the way it did Is it possible that he knew you were planning to end it and decided to beat you to it?
Author ashy555 Posted February 23, 2016 Author Posted February 23, 2016 Is it possible that he knew you were planning to end it and decided to beat you to it? I don't think so. I never started acting weird or anything. I started thinking maybe he was sick of always messaging me first but he never even bothered to respond so i threw that idea out the window haha. Honestly it has thrown me. I guess its probably as simple as he's not that into me anymore or met someone else. I did have some feelings though, I can't really deny that but nothing extreme. I am just a little embarrassed or humiliated.. I am not too sure which one. Just being ignored when they know you are into them I guess.
truth_seeker Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Is it possible that he knew you were planning to end it and decided to beat you to it? This is very possible.
Author ashy555 Posted February 23, 2016 Author Posted February 23, 2016 This is very possible. Well if that is the case, it makes me feel a bit better haha but i don't think so. I always responded to him. I mean my last message to him joked about him being in my sex dream... and it was ignored :o What I did make obvious is that I was enjoying myself in the moment. I never asked for any commitment and i never even hinted at it as I didn't want a relationship with him.(my heart did, my head didn't )
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