Gary.F Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I met this really cool girl at a food festival we were both working at. I talked to her all 3 days of the festival but only for like 10 minutes each day. Somehow it came up that her brother really likes one of the fruits we sold, so I told her I could get her some for free. Things got busy though the last day, and I wasn't able to get the food to her before she left. A couple days later she sent me a Facebook friend request and we reconnected. I sent her a message letting her know I was sorry I couldn't grab her the fruit and how it was too busy. I then made a joke saying "I know the fruit was actually for you" and she got super offended. She said "thanks for assuming but no. Have a good one." I then replied back telling her I didn't mean to offend her and I was just joking around and all she said was "ok." I did remove her from my Facebook friends because I'm only friends with people I actually talk to and she think I'm an ass now. I do have a girlfriend but this girl was cool in person and I just like making new friends. I think I may have blown it though. I guess I didn't know her well enough to make a little joke but I was just acting like my sarcastic self. Anyways, should I wait a couple days and send her a sincere apology and ask to start over or something? Or should I just leave it alone and never talk to her again. Not sure if she's overreacting or if I was out of line. Thanks for the advice!
GR4 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Appologise for what? That joke was beyond harmless and she clearly has no sense of humour. Why would you want to be with someone like that in the first place. If you have a girlfriend I'm not really sure what you want to come of all this anyway to be honest.
OnlyHonesty Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 My advice is this. Speak your mind and tell your jokes, be yourself. No one is perfect and not everyone will find what you say funny. I think part of being a man is being confident enough in what you say, and not to worry or apologize for stuff like this. If you upset someone or it was a more serious matter then perhaps an apology would be warranted, but when you apologize for something like this, you are just communicating your fear of being yourself and an inability to own what you say. I think guys worry far too much about how they come across to the opposite gender and then become stifled and no longer themselves. Be who you are and say what you mean. That is my advice.
Robratory Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Eh... I think she did overreact, but if you have a girlfriend, what are you doing meeting cool girls? You have a girlfriend! Do you have a mutual agreement to play the field? If so, do you think this girl will be ok with that as well? 3
kendahke Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 She's just a chick you used to didn't know, so there's no reason to even trip about how she took the joke. Just leave her be.
todreaminblue Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 i think she over reacted but then again i believe things happen for a reason even if we never know why....leave the cool chick be.... and make fruit salad for your gf and have a date night on a beach somewhere just the two of you...with fruit salad....good luck.....deb..... 1
Wewon Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 You spoke to her for a total of 30 minutes (give or take). Seeing people's sense of humor, attitudes and sensitivities is what you would find out on the first date. Going against the grain here: Jokes may not come across well in written form, so saying, "I know that the fruit is for you" may have sounded accusatory. But that should have been cleared up when you explained that it was joke.
frus69 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I guess Im more interested in "what are you doing with her since you have a GF"??
Maggie4 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Maybe when you connected on Facebook she found out you have a girlfriend, and her reaction has nothing to do with the joke?
Spikiera Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 LOL, OP, she definitely overreacted. She needs to lighten up. I say just forget about it.
mike_89 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I don't get the joke but well, some people just take life too seriously. You wouldn't want to date someone like that would you? xd
Gershwin Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 But why are you so invested in this person's reaction to a lame joke that you registered, posted a thread about it & why is it on a dating forum if you have a gf? 2
Cherryz Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 It wasnt that big of a deal. And you did right by unfriend her. But why would you even joke like that with her if you have a gf? Because you sounded like a single guy who is into a girl you met, till you added that you have a gf. Move on! And dont put yourself in situations to cheat.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Maybe when you connected on Facebook she found out you have a girlfriend, and her reaction has nothing to do with the joke? I was about to venture the same guess. OP, what does it matter what this "cool girl" thought of your joke?
SSJROMANCE Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I was going to say don't worry about it as she has no sense of humor. But then I re-read and now I'm going to say don't worry about it as you have a girlfriend. Flirting will lead to one thing and another. Doesn't your girlfriend know what happened? Of course not...
elaine567 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 She's just a chick you used to didn't know, Exactly. >>>>>>> Move on
Art_Critic Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Just think how she would have reacted if you had told her the joke about the Rabbi, a Priest, and a Minister who walk into a bar I give very little latitude to people who have no sense of humor and take things too seriously.. you should too. On a side note.. the fact you have a GF also says volumes about your current relationship, time to bail on that and who knows.. maybe the the girl in the OP saw you had a GF and was blowing you off.
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