miss-gonewest Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 I am feeling like I really, really need to call him.... can I or is it just suicide? I posted here the other day that after him dumping my ass, telling me he never wanted to talk to me again, that he sent a text message on Friday asking if he can help me with competition I am in at work.... I didn't reply, but tried to call a few hours later. He didn't answer. Then when I'd had a few drinks, I told him that after thinking about it, it was OK for him to help me out. I then asked him to send me some info (footy scores) as I would be out and wouldn't get them (our team was playing). He replied with a bit of banter and that was that. Then I called him, but didn't talk (very drunk at this stage) so he could hear a song at this concert I was at... he answered the phone and then after a minute I hung up. THEN... WAY DRUNK AT THIS STAGE, I sent him a msg saying that if he was still in town, could we catch up. No reply. Then this morning there is a missed call on my phone (very early) from an unknown number... I think it could have been him, no one else I know would phone me at 6.15am! So, there is something strange going on here and all I want to do is TALK TO HIM... I know on here that's a crime as its all about no contact, but seriously isn't it normal for two people that loved each to be able to TALK??? I know that NC has heaps of benefits and that contacting his minimal benefits, but all I want to know is what is he trying to have here? Friendship? I just don't get guys, seriously!!!
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 12, 2005 Posted June 12, 2005 Think of someone you are really, really good friends with - your best girlfriend, your closest confidant. Would that person treat you the way he is treating you? Would you be offended if that person treated you that way? Of course you would. You may even tell them to go f*ck themselves, as no one needs 'friends' like that. The problem with this guy is that you still have so much more in mind than 'friends' that you are actually fooling yourself through the power of wishful thinking that he actually respects you and wants to be friends with you, and his 'gestures' are the mark of genuine and deep friendship. Subtract your unresolved feelings for him, and he's just another jerk-off that you would be better off without. He may have loved you at one time, but the guy who really did love you was not the same guy who 'dumped your ass' as you said. The guy who loved you is gone. Do you really want to be friends with this version of him? I know you want to reconnect with who he was when you were special to each other - but... your only connection to him will be the missed ones that leave you wondering what his motives are. People who want to be 'friends' are actually friendly. If you want to call him, no one is stopping you - but be aware that you are going out of your way for a guy who did not go out of his way for you in your relationship.
Author miss-gonewest Posted June 12, 2005 Author Posted June 12, 2005 Lucrezia, thanks for your post... it was all good and I see where you are coming from but... I was the one that drove him to end the relationship....! I always made him feel like I didn't appreciate him.. in typical fashion, he gave what he could but I wanted more...! I pushed him too hard, and now he has left. So you are right he is being not so nice, but I can see where he is coming from. And I guess I want to let him know that I am sorry... for not appreciating him enough.
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