1994O Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 So I met a girl through a friend. It's his girlfriends sister. Ended up having a one night stand with her. Asked her out on a date but she said now isn't a good time for her as she is just out of a relationship and doesn't feel ready to start dating yet. Just wondering what my next move should be? I said it doesn't have to be a date. Just causally hanging out. Any advice?
PegNosePete Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Your next move would probably be, tell your friend about this and make sure he's OK with it, before he hears from someone else!! She clearly doesn't want a date or hang out, to her it was just a ONS. She may be up for more but you're on thin ice here, having ONS with your mate's gf's sister.
smudge21 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Take her word for it - trust me, when there's excuses this early not to take things further, just accept them and move on. If you start getting involved you could end up falling for someone who never was going to commit to you. Before you know it that line of "now isn't a good time" could be ignored the moment she finds someone for who now is a good time. You hooked up, you both had fun, you've shown interest, she's said no thanks. Move on. Oh and if you think you can be just friends now, then why did you sleep with her and want to date her?
MightyPen Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Your next move would probably be, tell your friend about this and make sure he's OK with it, before he hears from someone else!! She clearly doesn't want a date or hang out, to her it was just a ONS. She may be up for more but you're on thin ice here, having ONS with your mate's gf's sister. Well, the girl also had a ONS with her sister's boyfriend's buddy, so it goes both ways.
PegNosePete Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Well, the girl also had a ONS with her sister's boyfriend's buddy, so it goes both ways. YEs, that's what I mean by telling his mate before he hears from other people. If she tells her sis then he could hear it from the other side very soon...
sagamore Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 So I met a girl through a friend. It's his girlfriends sister. Ended up having a one night stand with her. Asked her out on a date but she said now isn't a good time for her as she is just out of a relationship and doesn't feel ready to start dating yet. Just wondering what my next move should be? I said it doesn't have to be a date. Just causally hanging out. Any advice? My advice is to listen to her. Don't push her on her boundaries. That's how you should treat all women, not just your friend's GF's best friend.
Author 1994O Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 My friend knows about as does his girlfriend. No issues there at all, they are trying to get the two of us together as they think we are a good match.
scooby-philly Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 First, Yes tell your best friend. Even if he doesn't tell his gf, if he can't deny he knew, then you're in the clear of not being a jerk. I wouldn't pursue it. There's nothing wrong with a ONS. Despite what people say physical release and affection for one night can be great. But most ONS don't work. And if she is clearly telling you she isn't ready for a relationship - respect that. And respect yourself too. Do you want to wake up in a month, 6 months, 12 months, etc and feel like an idiot and have lost a bunch of time and other stuff if her words prove to be true. I had one of those and let the woman walk all over me for a year before I realized her life was nothing but a string of ONS - and any relationship she'd ever been in she destroyed. Not saying you can't hang out or be friends, who knows, maybe it will happen again. But at this point the ball is CLEARLY in her court - NOT yours.
Author 1994O Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 My friend knows as does his gf, they tried to set us up as they thought we would be a good match. I do understand where she's coming from since she's just out of a relationship. Was in that situation myself before. Like I'm not sure do I even want to go towards a relationship with her but I'd like to get to know her. Seems like a nice girl, curious to see are we actually a good match.
Author 1994O Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 My friend knows as does his gf, they tried to set us up as they thought we would be a good match. I do understand where she's coming from since she's just out of a relationship. Was in that situation myself before. Like I'm not sure do I even want to go towards a relationship with her but I'd like to get to know her. Seems like a nice girl, curious to see are we actually a good match.
PegNosePete Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 OK, you're safe then, that's good. However she made it clear that she's not interested in a relationship. She may be up for more of the same but if you want a relationship then you need to look elsewhere.
Author 1994O Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 Yeah that's fair enough. Not sure am I either but would like to get to know her all the same. Just have to wait and see I suppose.
truth_seeker Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 So I met a girl through a friend. It's his girlfriends sister. Ended up having a one night stand with her. Asked her out on a date but she said now isn't a good time for her as she is just out of a relationship and doesn't feel ready to start dating yet. Just wondering what my next move should be? I said it doesn't have to be a date. Just causally hanging out. Any advice? Tell your buddy what happened. You don't contact the girl again. She's out of a relationship and you were rebound sex. Keeping quiet will probably get her to contact you about hooking up again. Don't catch feelings for her...
Author 1994O Posted March 15, 2016 Author Posted March 15, 2016 Ended up meeting up with the girl. She started to warm up to me and she came over to my house. We just chilled, went well. She agreed to go for food but had to postpone too another day because she was caught up with college work.I asked when will we go so and she said she'd let me know. I'm paranoid normally and for some reason I'm worried she won't get back to me. I think I'm being stupid really. Am I?
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