When a man says We have history so don't be a stranger.

[Pippmc]

There is a long history between a man and me, we met about 5 years ago and the chemistry between us has always been intense, right from the first day. When a friend of mine found out we were talking, she is an acquaintance of his and it is well known that he doesn't talk to people often. Anyway, we had a friendship of sorts, until we stopped talking about a year ago. I went out with a mutual friend of ours in a group setting and he was there, after a lot of staring he finally came over to talk to me, I was the last one to message him about six months ago which he ignored, this was the third message he ignored, so I wouldn't seem likea crazed stalker I stopped. As I was leaving I hugged him and said good bye, I turned to walk out and he followed me calling loudly after me and started telling me about his depression and how hard it is for him to get out of bed some mornings, and that we have history and I shouldn't be a stranger. I wasn't the one that ignored messages, he did. How am I meant to take this? Should I try and contact him again? It was out of character for him to come after me. I still care for him, but I don't want to be ignored again.

[elaine567]

There is a long history between a man and me, we met about 5 years ago and the chemistry between us has always been intense, right from the first day. When a friend of mine found out we were talking, she is an acquaintance of his and it is well known that he doesn't talk to people often. Anyway, we had a friendship of sorts, until we stopped talking about a year ago. I went out with a mutual friend of ours in a group setting and he was there, after a lot of staring he finally came over to talk to me, I was the last one to message him about six months ago which he ignored, this was the third message he ignored, so I wouldn't seem likea crazed stalker I stopped. As I was leaving I hugged him and said good bye, I turned to walk out and he followed me calling loudly after me and started telling me about his depression and how hard it is for him to get out of bed some mornings, and that we have history and I shouldn't be a stranger. I wasn't the one that ignored messages, he did. How am I meant to take this? Should I try and contact him again? It was out of character for him to come after me. I still care for him, but I don't want to be ignored again.

 

People who are depressed often isolate themselves, they stop speaking to friends and family and hide themselves away. They may not have the energy or the motivation to do anything.

I guess he is saying, "I may not always respond in the way you want me to due to my illness, but do not give up on me."

Clinical depression - Symptoms - NHS Choices

[Pippmc]

Thank you, I was being selfish. I will check in with him every now and then.

[Toodaloo]

I have a friend with severe depression. Its rare that she responds but I know that my messages mean a a lot to her.

 

Don't date this guy but be friends with him. It really doesn't take that long to send a joke or something every now and then.