JiltedJane Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 This week with my bf has been weird. Up till this week we were really really good. I dare say things kept going upward. This week it seems to be slowly plummeting. We saw eachother twice, the first time he wouldn't touch me but blamed it on being sick. He did have a fever. The last time he was much better, but Gave me his cheek when I went to kiss him. We did end up having sex after I asked if he was ok. The whole night though something felt really off- like he was forcing himself to be there or do things. The only thing that gives me comfort is that when we went to sleep he was more " cuddly" than usual. A few times I actually tried to pull away or reposition myself and he would move closer or reposition himself to always be touching me. Since I saw him two days ago, i had to contact him and his responses were one or two word answers. We have hit the three month mark, so could it be that he's just gotten comfortable and doesn't need to be over the top? Am I being paranoid? Or does it seem like he's losing interest?
madjac74 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Being "over the top" in a healthy relationship should never stop especially in a new relationship. Something is wrong...confront him
Author JiltedJane Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 There's no chance of him getting comfortable or moody?
Redhead14 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 (edited) There's no chance of him getting comfortable or moody? Of course, there's those possibilities. You need to sit back. Don't reach out to him. Be responsive/receptive, but give him space. That will be the best way to gauge what his interest level is and, if he's just in a period of evaluating the potential to move the relationship forward, he needs the space to think and focus clearly. This is the point in a relationship where this often happens - 3/4 months more or less. You don't really know what's going on and it's important to stay out of his head so that you don't start rushing at him and trying to pull him in. It's the high road for dealing with this if you want to have the best chance for it to continue. Go with what you do know, he's been sick, he's been cuddly, etc. Focus on the good things you've been experiencing in order to keep yourself in a positive frame of mind. And, generally, in a more established relationship, when a man pulls back a little, it's not usually about you. He just needs time to work out whatever he's dealing with. If he's really still connected to you, he will come out of it and will tell you what's been going on during this time. If he doesn't, it may be a sign that he's moving on, but don't assume. If a man does this often or for extended periods of time, there's something else going on with him. At this point, however, it may be that he's evaluating the relationship. For now, sit back and relax. When he "comes out", be receptive. If he's not talking or being clear, it's just time for you to address the relationship status. Edited February 22, 2016 by Redhead14
Author JiltedJane Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 Other than being sick, he has had a ****ty few weeks which he has been fine telling me about and has asked for help. He usually has such a positive, breezy vibe though.
Author JiltedJane Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 Gentleman- do guys really step back at the three month mark?
PegNosePete Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Gentleman- do guys really step back at the three month mark? Much too vague question. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. This very much depends on the guy and the circumstances and the feelings involved.
Author JiltedJane Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 we've established that we're bf/gf. no fights or any hiccups. any personal problems hes had he's always come to me for and i've been very supportive. he also gets plenty of guy time- i work every other weekend. so we see each other 2-3 times a week. keep in contact daily (but not constantly contacting). hes always in a good mood- the other night was just such a change of character for him and no contact.
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