louisthomas Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 If my girlfriend wants to text me that's fine, I ll reply but I usually don't text her Every now and then but say I have seen her 5 days straight, the next day I'll be perfectly fine not texting her. I don't do it on purpose, it's just I have nothing to say really or I'm busy If something big happened I would call or text her of course I mean I just see it as we both have jobs and our own lives so I feel like I don't always need to be in communication Does that make me a bad boyfriend?
thecrucible Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Some couples do something like texting each other goodnight even if they don't get to text/talk to each other during the day. You could try that? Have you just started dating or have you been together for a while?
losangelena Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 No, I don't think that makes you a bad boyfriend. My ex and I would routinely skip texting each other the day I left his place after being there for like four or five days. I don't think it's a big deal, honestly.
Author louisthomas Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 Some couples do something like texting each other goodnight even if they don't get to text/talk to each other during the day. You could try that? Have you just started dating or have you been together for a while? not with anyone right now thats what i do when i'm in a relationship
blackcat777 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Quality of communication is important, not the quantity. Too much texting can be detrimental to a relationship, because then there's no new exciting news to share in person. Personal interactions are much more important than texts. But a lot of people are glued to their phones, which isn't always healthy. If she is unhappy, explain to her that you're just not a texty person (which is perfectly reasonable). Listen to her feelings... and maybe counter-offer to hit her up with a goodnight phone CALL instead. 1
katiegrl Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 not with anyone right now thats what i do when i'm in a relationship In your OP, you referred to her as your girlfriend, and to yourself as her boyfriend, and just spent five days straight together, but you're not in a relationship? Does your girlfriend know that?
Redhead14 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Most secure women don't want constant contact. What they want is reassurance from the man in the form of quality communication initiated by them on a regular/reciprocal basis. If they need constant contact, there is something wrong. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 I don't think you are a bad BF but the real Q is what level of contact does your GF want / need? Somewhere, somehow, after you talk you should be able to find a happy medium. You may end up reaching out more then your ideal but she will also have accept perhaps less contact then she wants. So my advice is work with her to find what works for your relationship.
Gershwin Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 You're not a bad bf, you two may just be incompatible!
Qboro90 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 If my girlfriend wants to text me that's fine, I ll reply but I usually don't text her Every now and then but say I have seen her 5 days straight, the next day I'll be perfectly fine not texting her. I don't do it on purpose, it's just I have nothing to say really or I'm busy If something big happened I would call or text her of course I mean I just see it as we both have jobs and our own lives so I feel like I don't always need to be in communication Does that make me a bad boyfriend? Been there I know exactly what you mean. During hs/college I literally could not understand wtf the girls I was seeing possibly had to say every single day. Baffled me. "Yo I just talked to you and saw you yesterday... Nothing has happened, I got nothing to say!!" Lol Finally I matured and was able to understand that you have the daily "hey how are you" texts and short communications for her, because it makes her feel better and good about you and the Rs. At the end of the day, is it really that big of a deal and take that much time outta your day to just send a text and say what's up? You're preaching to the choir as far as taking a stand and being adamant that we don't need to talk every single day and the relationship would be better even if we didn't blah blah blah. I've done it all man, trust me. I've given the speeches about how our convos could be more meaningful if we went every other day instead of every day. It's not worth it. The only time you can say something is if you're doing those daily small talk chats and she gives you guilt about having to go, or being at work, or having other **** to do. Then you can say that you can't spend 1hr on the phone with her or text back paragraphs all day long. But other than that, when you find the right girl who you care about, you'll do the little things like "hey babe, having a busy day at work but just wanted to see how your days goin" texts. That's all they really want. And that's how you leave yourself and out and ensure she knows you can't talk long "bout to hit the gym, just checking in to see how your day went?" .... It's something you'll be fine with doing once you realize how little effort it requires
Recommended Posts