blvrryface Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 We were together for three years, we broke up 3 months ago. He lurks through my tumblr on a daily basis. I dont think he knows I know that he does this. A few days ago he sent me a message on facebook asking "what is it?" i replied 15-20 mins later and he never replied, he didnt even open it. he was always a confusing guy, a walking contradiction almost and he is a prideful guy. Im surprised he said anything to me at all to be honest, but why did he even hmu at all if he wasnt even going to respond. My friend said that its probably because hes scared but i doubt it. 1
angel.eyes Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Why haven't you blocked him on your social media accounts and phone? If you had, you wouldn't be dealing with his confusing pattern of communication...i.e. breadcrumbs. 3
Satu Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 It means .............................. nothing. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means he might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of him on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying. 1
Author blvrryface Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 I dont mind if he lurks, i believe its normal. Also i still care about him and i dont mind if he tries to talk to me. tumblr is public even if you block someone the person is still able to see your page anyway. My confusion lies on the fact that he hmu and didnt even respond? its just confusing to me 1
Satu Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I dont mind if he lurks, i believe its normal. Also i still care about him and i dont mind if he tries to talk to me. tumblr is public even if you block someone the person is still able to see your page anyway. My confusion lies on the fact that he hmu and didnt even respond? its just confusing to me If you're that bothered by it, you can always get in touch with him again.
carotini Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 As random strangers on the internet we can't get inside his head and figure out his behavior. You broke up 3 months ago. Wondering about why he sent a message is a waste of time. It means nothing. Block him and move on with your life. 1
RandomTraveller Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 As always first of all I write that I'm no expert. Just like you I'm almost 3 months after break up. Anyway my 2 cents opinion, based on what I read around here, and on books about break up: He could write to you cause: - He maybe wants to satisfy his narcisist side of his personality - He maybe had withdrawal symptoms, after all we all know that "love" even in the worst forms can be just like a drug, and he was in need of a dose - Maybe he was in a really bad moment and hope that you would cheer him up These are the first things I think when my ex texts me. We broke up in a very bad way. And I know that she doesn't love me and really care about me it's just to satisfy her damn ego. She left me. That's what gives me the motivation to NOT answer her. To ignore her. Because **** her honestly, if she would care even a little bit about me, she would pick up her damn phone and call me or simply make sure to meet me somehow. But since she doesn't care **** about me all she has been doing is sending those kind of texts, like: - How are you? - What are you doing right now? - WHY you don't you reply to my messages??? And other random rants
angel.eyes Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Why haven't you blocked her, Random Traveller? Why are her texts still coming through for you to read??? Half of the confusion and angst in this section comes from the bread crumbs people get from their exes. Simply blocking the ex would prevent so much unnecessary confusion and frustration. 1
RandomTraveller Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Why haven't you blocked her, Random Traveller? Why are her texts still coming through for you to read??? Half of the confusion and angst in this section comes from the bread crumbs people get from their exes. Simply blocking the ex would prevent so much unnecessary confusion and frustration. I really dunno what to say about this. I just can't do it. I still prefer to see what she writes to me. Btw she is not blocked on whatsapp. But she is blocked everywere else including Facebook. Whatsapp is the only exception!
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