j1036 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 (edited) were together 9 months. now here's where its complicated i was living with another ex but current girl new this until my lease was up then we would get a place so its not like i was hiding something. anyways i had surgery and unable to really see her for a month. i wanted to have it before we moved in together, i thought she was fine with it. evidently i was pushing her away i now find out but didn't know cause i was recovering on meds. over next month sh said it doesnt feel the same and she cant forgive me for leaving her like that as i said id be fine in a week. we hung out twice ,once was weird she was distant second we were kissing . we had some arguments cause she wanted to take it slow and we stopped talking for a few days. v-day i get her flowers after we havent spoken for 3 or 4 days. she calls next day at midnight and we talk and gonna hangout next week . next day or 2 she says she was talking to her ex and was getting attached needless to say now she says she wants nothing to do with him or me that she agrees if i woulda waited for surgery till we were together we would still be together that she felt alone .needless to say i was and still am a wreck . we talked today finally i keep texting and calling her she never responds she blocked me . till today only cause i tried reaching out to one of her friends. basically she said she doesn't want it anymore , she cant forgive me for making her feel alone , she also suffers from depression but that yeah we would still be together if i never had surgery. so i agreed to not call anymore but its been only 2 hrs and i wanna call again, this hurts so much but would going no contact hlp getting her back. its like i never intentionally hurt he i just need her to forgive me and she wont. do i have any chance of getting her back? Edited February 21, 2016 by j1036
jofor Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I am very sorry to hear you are going through this tough time- surgery, recovery and now feeling alone. She seems to be very trusting of you, what a great attribute. She also seems to care for you, because she felt abandoned for a month. Nine months is a long time to be together, this must be hard. Can you tell her that you will give her some space and then be a man of your word- really give her some space? Could you both agree to not see anyone else in this time, perhaps a month? This might give both of you some time to reflect, prioritize and to really see how important the other person is. This might be a sacrifice. But it might show both of you were your priorities lay.
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