NYC-BigKat Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I know I know that u should never ever cancel dates with a girl u like but I felt weird after she refused to skype with me so I could be sure what she looked like. We um...we talked for a few days & I liked her & she said she liked me & texted pics of each other & stuff but my friend says anyone can text anyone's pics to someone pretending to be them right? So anyway I wanted to skype & she said she'll see if she can get her skype acct working & stuff but to go book the movie tickets in the meantime so I said okay will do. I got really really so so close to booking the tickets online but I got nervous & stopped & I asked her again if we could just skype for a few minutes & then she says no lets just do facetime so I said okay but then she says she cant 'cause our phones aren't compatible . So um...she kept pushing me to book the tickets & to hurry up 'cause she was already dressed & walking to the train station & that's when I decided not to go & she went crazy on me . She sent 17 texts in a row calling me a loser, a liar, how I play so many games & stuff, & a coward & that's why I'm single. I feel bad hearing this & hope this isn't all true but not doing the skype made me just a tiny bit uneasy. I guess I dodged a bullet but still feel down though .
NoLeafClover Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I would have canceled too. Had a similar situation where the girl wouldn't even want to talk on the phone but was fine to meet in person without even talking. Yeah ok, good luck with that. You are not a loser for wanting to feel things out and make dure you're not getting played. People who don't want to show a certain side of them are most likely hiding something. 3
smackie9 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 And BTW skype is through the internet, and has nothing to do with what your phone is. 1
smackie9 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I would have canceled too. Had a similar situation where the girl wouldn't even want to talk on the phone but was fine to meet in person without even talking. Yeah ok, good luck with that. You are not a loser for wanting to feel things out and make dure you're not getting played. People who don't want to show a certain side of them are most likely hiding something. Ya she was probably an uggo and had a hard enough time getting dates. 1
truth_seeker Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I know I know that u should never ever cancel dates with a girl u like but I felt weird after she refused to skype with me so I could be sure what she looked like. We um...we talked for a few days & I liked her & she said she liked me & texted pics of each other & stuff but my friend says anyone can text anyone's pics to someone pretending to be them right? So anyway I wanted to skype & she said she'll see if she can get her skype acct working & stuff but to go book the movie tickets in the meantime so I said okay will do. I got really really so so close to booking the tickets online but I got nervous & stopped & I asked her again if we could just skype for a few minutes & then she says no lets just do facetime so I said okay but then she says she cant 'cause our phones aren't compatible . So um...she kept pushing me to book the tickets & to hurry up 'cause she was already dressed & walking to the train station & that's when I decided not to go & she went crazy on me . She sent 17 texts in a row calling me a loser, a liar, how I play so many games & stuff, & a coward & that's why I'm single. I feel bad hearing this & hope this isn't all true but not doing the skype made me just a tiny bit uneasy. I guess I dodged a bullet but still feel down though . You did the right thing. The facetime excuse would have gotten me to bail, too. What a jerk to send you all of those messages...
Author NYC-BigKat Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 You did the right thing. The facetime excuse would have gotten me to bail, too. What a jerk to send you all of those messages... Thanks but I never am one to cancel dates its usually the girls job to do that stuff u know. She sent me a msg a few minutes ago telling me that she's not that mad anymore & if I can please book the tickets for tonight. What is wrong with her & why is she doing this after last night??
smackie9 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Thanks but I never am one to cancel dates its usually the girls job to do that stuff u know. She sent me a msg a few minutes ago telling me that she's not that mad anymore & if I can please book the tickets for tonight. What is wrong with her & why is she doing this after last night?? psycho.................or she is broke ass and is looking for a free meal ticket....in this case a free movie ticket.
Versacehottie Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Thanks but I never am one to cancel dates its usually the girls job to do that stuff u know. She sent me a msg a few minutes ago telling me that she's not that mad anymore & if I can please book the tickets for tonight. What is wrong with her & why is she doing this after last night?? Hmmmm, I have a different take. I actually would be very put off by your "test" regarding skype. You've seen photos that should be enough. I would be kinda irritated that you made me feel like I had to keep jumping through hoops to prove who I was and that it was good enough for you and looked good enough for you. Take a leap of faith based on the photos. If I understood correctly, she offered you an alternative to facetime which was comparable to skype. Then with technical difficulties and running out of time, it just wasn't possible. She was willing to take a chance on you--why not you with her? tHat's how I see it. Ok, she probably showed her character and maturity by flipping out on you. That may be a dealbreaker and maybe it should be. Basically if you had annoyed me to the point that she seemed to be annoyed and she was a girl with maturity and options, maybe she should have/would have just walked away and be like "fine". And then not accept your communication anymore. And then to flip then next day (today) is a little emo rollercoaster. So IMO with the situation, you were more in the wrong. Her reaction and change of mind though today should be telling you something. I might still go if I was in your shoes because I don't see any real harm in taking a leap of faith. I was just out with my friends (a couple, bf/gf) last night and before their first date same thing. He said he was tired and wanted to postpone a planned date after they had been talking for about 2 months. She flipped on him, and cursed him out. He still stuck to his guns and didn't let that sway his decision that he was too tired. Somehow he fixed it in the week that followed and ended up taking her on their first date and they've been a solid couple ever since. Actually a few of my (girl)friends have done things like this in the first date or couple of dates, only to end up solidly with that guy. Not advocating it necessarily, it's just an observation. 2
ilovemefirst Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 You went with your gut. I wouldn't feel bad. She sounds kinda psycho for sending 17 texts and then next day trying to get u to go out with her again? NEXT! 1
truth_seeker Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Thanks but I never am one to cancel dates its usually the girls job to do that stuff u know. She sent me a msg a few minutes ago telling me that she's not that mad anymore & if I can please book the tickets for tonight. What is wrong with her & why is she doing this after last night?? Immature, unstable, comes to mind. She's the type of girl who will be very happy and affectionate one minute, and destroying your property the next. 2
brokengirl85 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 I know I know that u should never ever cancel dates with a girl u like but I felt weird after she refused to skype with me so I could be sure what she looked like. We um...we talked for a few days & I liked her & she said she liked me & texted pics of each other & stuff but my friend says anyone can text anyone's pics to someone pretending to be them right? So anyway I wanted to skype & she said she'll see if she can get her skype acct working & stuff but to go book the movie tickets in the meantime so I said okay will do. I got really really so so close to booking the tickets online but I got nervous & stopped & I asked her again if we could just skype for a few minutes & then she says no lets just do facetime so I said okay but then she says she cant 'cause our phones aren't compatible . So um...she kept pushing me to book the tickets & to hurry up 'cause she was already dressed & walking to the train station & that's when I decided not to go & she went crazy on me . She sent 17 texts in a row calling me a loser, a liar, how I play so many games & stuff, & a coward & that's why I'm single. I feel bad hearing this & hope this isn't all true but not doing the skype made me just a tiny bit uneasy. I guess I dodged a bullet but still feel down though . Looks like she was really interested in meeting you, scary interested. You did the right thing. She doesn't sound like someone transparent. Block her and try to find a girl you're sure to meet at least. If you don't trust a girl by talking to her or looking at her pics, follow your gut. Most of the times is right, if not always.
Mrin Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Ok so here's my take: 1. The "we must Skype" thing you have is pretty off putting. It is a first date and that's why you keep it to coffee or a cocktail. Something cheap, low commitment and even if she turns out horrible you probably would have done it (whatever the activity is) anyhow. 2. The cancelling at the last minute was a weak move IMHO. You don't cancel when she's dressed and headed to the train station unless your mom dies or something. 3. All that being said, her loony reaction told you everything you needed to know about her. How she deals with adversity. How she fights. Smackie's right - bullet dodged there. So there you go - two wrongs actually did make a right. 5
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 I have stopped responding when a guy asked me to Skype. Every single time. I don't see what's the big deal of meeting up for a cup of coffee and a chat. I am not prepared to put in awkward phone time/skype time AND a first meeting with random strangers just to find that there is no connection in person. "In person" interaction is the the ultimate step so if you live in the same city, why not skip the preliminary steps? If I am prepared to take a chance in not having seen a video chat of you, I don't see why you can't. The only thing that I wouldn't do is msg you after. I would just write you off and move on to the next prospect. 3
Gershwin Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Her overreaction is probably a combination of being cancelled on on the day (hours before movie date?) & exhausted from OLD, more so than she was catfishing you with fake pics.
Lois_Griffin Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 You said you connected with this girl on Facebook. Doesn't her Facebook profile already HAVE years of photos of her that you could see? I wouldn't be comfortable doing Skype or video chatting either before meeting someone. In either event, she sounds like a fruitcake being so desperate about wanting to go out. 1
Eighty_nine Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Hmmmm, I have a different take. I actually would be very put off by your "test" regarding skype. Ditto. I'd just assume forget the date- I'm not so desperate for a date that I'm going to have an awkward Skype convo or phone call to prove who I am. 3
five2nine Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Well if it were me I wouldn't want to Skype and I would feel offended you think I'm a liar. I wouldn't beg to see you the next day either. She must have really liked you or thought you were cute to do that.
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