GunslingerRoland Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 What do you do when you aren't on a date? Do those things as a date. If you like working out, go to the gym together, if you like shopping, go shopping together. Go to a movie, go for a walk, go for a hike. Go for a drive, go out and have a drink. Hang out with other people... And if you are starting to regularly spend days together, you should probably start cooking together. Eating take out a few days a week is expensive and fattening. 1
Miss Peach Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Most suggestions seem to be catered for teenagers or are more special occasion dates. One guy actually planned for me a 'teenage' date. It was a lot of fun and one of the dates that still sticks out in my mind today. He was great at coming up with date ideas.
Author hannahsmith Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 If it is awkward or you need to be told what to do, maybe you guys are not a good match? In my experience when I am into a guy and he is into me a large part of the attraction is that things feel organic, we have a lot of fun together, we can talk about a lot of things and I don't have to twiddle my thumbs and think about what we should do or talk about or only have two options: eat or watch something. What do both of you like to do? Do you get along effortlessly? Do you talk about anything? To be honest. I have been thinking this but I thought I would ask anyway for ideas or for future dates with other people. We have a lot of hobbies in common, but I don't want to just do our hobbies together and not have the opportunity to feel like a couple. If we just do the things that we would enjoy anyway, sometimes it doesn't feel like we are making time for each other, because we would do that regardless, for example go hiking. I have been thinking that we might not be the best match though :S
SwordofFlame Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 To be honest. I have been thinking this but I thought I would ask anyway for ideas or for future dates with other people. We have a lot of hobbies in common, but I don't want to just do our hobbies together and not have the opportunity to feel like a couple. If we just do the things that we would enjoy anyway, sometimes it doesn't feel like we are making time for each other, because we would do that regardless, for example go hiking. I have been thinking that we might not be the best match though :S That doesn't make sense to me. So to feel like a couple, you need to each do things that only one of you are into? Like you go to a baseball game with him and he takes you to a ballet?
Qboro90 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 I've been dating someone for 5 months now and I am late in the dating game even though I am quite old. So it's hard to ask my friends without looking like a loser. What do you do on your dates or at your boyfriend/girlfriends house? We don't really do anything other than go out for food or watch tv. It is a bit awkward when it's 'go out for food or watch a film?'. What do you do at your boyfriend's/girlfriend's house if you stay for a weekend? How do meals work? Sometimes you have to realize that just hanging out at home and watching tv/movie on the couch or having dinner together is enough. If you're bored that's another story. But if you don't mind staying in and just hanging out "doing nothing" then don't assume that your partner is bored or you need to manufacture activities to do. Some couples are very active and find things to do, others are perfectly happy just hanging out together at home. Depends on the individual. But don't think you need to force it just to make it feel like you're being active enough when you see one another. 1
thecrucible Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 But don't think you need to force it just to make it feel like you're being active enough when you see one another. I think it's good to do things as a couple but I agree with this too. You should be able to enjoy each others' company enough to be able to sit at home and relax at certain points without becoming bored and restless. I learned something from a previous relationship - that a true intimate bond can't be formed from being active together, you can't use activities to generate emotional intimacy. Basically I was with someone where I would focus more on what we did together than our emotional connection I think the activities became some kind of distraction from the fact we weren't bonding as we ought to have done. 1
Larryville Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 I actually think it's really important to be able to 'just sit and not do much' together. But don't think you need to force it just to make it feel like you're being active enough when you see one another. Huge… if someone is right for you you don’t have to do a damn thing. That way regardless of what you do or where you go will be cool. You can hike thru a dumpsite and will enjoy it, your interaction should be seamless. Why above quote is so important. If you feel the NEED to entertain whoever you are with not a good match because they will eventually become bored with you. If it is awkward or you need to be told what to do, maybe you guys are not a good match… 1
fitnessfan365 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 My GF and I will be lazy once a week on Sundays. We spend a lot of time "in bed" as well as watching movies/shows, cooking together, etc.. Then her parents usually do a family dinner at night where her brother/sisters also come with their sig o's. So that's always a good time too. However, in general we try to be pretty active. We workout together and also love hikes. Plus day trips to Santa Cruz/San Franchisco, traveling, etc.. There are also fun low key dates like bowling, lazer tag, the drive in, trying new places to eat, etc..
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