hannahsmith Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I've been dating someone for 5 months now and I am late in the dating game even though I am quite old. So it's hard to ask my friends without looking like a loser. What do you do on your dates or at your boyfriend/girlfriends house? We don't really do anything other than go out for food or watch tv. It is a bit awkward when it's 'go out for food or watch a film?'. What do you do at your boyfriend's/girlfriend's house if you stay for a weekend? How do meals work?
smackie9 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Going out dancing is fun, or throwing a dinner party with another couple or some friends, going camping, go out for a hike, be a tourist in your own city and checkout the sites. 2
mortensorchid Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 If you really need help in thinking of things to do but you're embarrassed about asking others, Google it.
Redhead14 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I've been dating someone for 5 months now and I am late in the dating game even though I am quite old. So it's hard to ask my friends without looking like a loser. What do you do on your dates or at your boyfriend/girlfriends house? We don't really do anything other than go out for food or watch tv. It is a bit awkward when it's 'go out for food or watch a film?'. What do you do at your boyfriend's/girlfriend's house if you stay for a weekend? How do meals work? We pick out recipes and then we cook together. We play cards, scrabble. We go out for drives to explore, take roads we've never been on. We go to places that offer live music. Hiking, walks, bike rides. Festivals, flea markets. Bowling. 2
newmoon Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 are you talking about just when you're inside? because there are endless amounts of activities outside that could easily keep you occupied. if you are looking for outdoor/date ideas try looking through groupon or living social listings... those will generate tons of ideas of what to do locally for fun. for indoors/weekends my bf and i usually do netflix, we cook meals together and will go out together to get the ingredients at a nearby market, we go for walks in the neighborhood with the dogs, we play a board or card game sometimes, at my house we do a project if i have one (like painting, moving some furniture). sometimes i will request that he bring some ingredients for something special i want to cook, and vice-versa. i don't actually invite him over unless i have something in mind to do, and i don't like being invited over when he hasn't planned something either. it's ok once in a while to just sit and not do much, but just sitting about.. that'd be incredibly boring very fast. 2
ses Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 We usually watch tv or eat meals with his family. We'll go out occasionally for dinner but we enjoy spending time with each other at home since time is limited. You should look up events in your area and suggest different events that pique your interest.
SolG Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 i don't actually invite him over unless i have something in mind to do, and i don't like being invited over when he hasn't planned something either. it's ok once in a while to just sit and not do much, but just sitting about.. that'd be incredibly boring very fast. I actually think it's really important to be able to 'just sit and not do much' together. From my perspective that time, maybe after you've made and had dinner together, just being and chatting is vital. Sometimes all the rushing around 'doing' things is actually an impediment to 'knowing' each other. I say don't fear unprogrammed time, embrace it. 3
CarrieT Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 We approach dates via sites like Goldstar which has deeply discounted or free events that get us out of a comfort zone; we might see plays we wouldn't ordinarily see, or events like ice skating or vintage book fairs. 2
Author hannahsmith Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 If you really need help in thinking of things to do but you're embarrassed about asking others, Google it. Most suggestions seem to be catered for teenagers or are more special occasion dates.
Author hannahsmith Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 are you talking about just when you're inside? because there are endless amounts of activities outside that could easily keep you occupied. if you are looking for outdoor/date ideas try looking through groupon or living social listings... those will generate tons of ideas of what to do locally for fun. for indoors/weekends my bf and i usually do netflix, we cook meals together and will go out together to get the ingredients at a nearby market, we go for walks in the neighborhood with the dogs, we play a board or card game sometimes, at my house we do a project if i have one (like painting, moving some furniture). sometimes i will request that he bring some ingredients for something special i want to cook, and vice-versa. i don't actually invite him over unless i have something in mind to do, and i don't like being invited over when he hasn't planned something either. it's ok once in a while to just sit and not do much, but just sitting about.. that'd be incredibly boring very fast. Thanks Those are some good ideas. I think I mainly mean inside. We do occasionally do other things, like the cinema or climbing, but I don't want everything to be as planned. I would like a bit more spontaneity and for it to be a bit more casual, but not just sitting around watching tv.
soph-walker Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 For the times the weather's not great, I think it's nice to cook a meal together, it can be quite sensuous!
Toodaloo Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Most suggestions seem to be catered for teenagers or are more special occasion dates. Just because you are older doesn't mean that you can't do the stuff they did. Why not go and get in touch with your inner child with this guy? Why do kids have to have all the fun? 5
angel.eyes Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Most suggestions seem to be catered for teenagers or are more special occasion dates. I'm curious, what were some of the dating suggestions that were teenager-specific?
d0nnivain Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I never spent much time indoors at a date's house where we were looking for things to do. We were usually just so into each other. Other distractions included: 1. TV 2. Movies 3. board games 4. each reading our own books, sort of playing footsie on the couch 5. talking 6. cooking together (& I'm a lousy cook) 7. playing with the dog Tons of options open up if you leave the house: 1. dinner 2. dancing 3. museums 4. tourist-y things 5. shopping 6. antiquing 7. garage sailing 8. theater 9. mini golf 10. bowling 11. going to the beach 12. amusement parks 13. wine or beer tasting 14. ziplining 15. hiking 16. biking 17. playing a sport for the exercise not competitively (ex. you hit the tennis ball toward the person so they can return it) 18. taking a drive to see what we can find 19. visiting friends 20 having a picnic 6
Emilia Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I like post #15 but I also like to get hammered. I remember going on a 1st date with someone I had known for a while. We got absolutely shltfaced and tumbled home at 3am. He tripped on his way to my bed and landed face first 1
Mrin Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Date of Fate: 1. Pick a starting location. Like a bar or pub 2. Have a drink. 3. Befriend someone that works there. Like the wait staff or bartender. 4. Tell your new friend that you're on a date of fate and ask them where is the one place you should go next. Only allow them to give you one place. 5. Go there. You have to go there no matter how stupid it sounds. The only reason you can nix it is if you've already been there on this date of fate. 6. At new place - repeat the process... 3
thecrucible Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I'm not in a relationship now but with previous long term boyfriends we did things like - go sightseeing (there are always local places you haven't seen yet), go walking in the mountains (since we're in Scotland), check out local events that interest us, go running together, eat out at a new restaurant etc. I think if you have enough in common, it just comes naturally that you find things to do together. I am always up for trying new things.
strawberryshortstack Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 I've been dating someone for 5 months now and I am late in the dating game even though I am quite old. So it's hard to ask my friends without looking like a loser. What do you do on your dates or at your boyfriend/girlfriends house? We don't really do anything other than go out for food or watch tv. It is a bit awkward when it's 'go out for food or watch a film?'. What do you do at your boyfriend's/girlfriend's house if you stay for a weekend? How do meals work? Nothing wrong with watching a movie if that's what you both want. As for my partner and me (We've been dating about 4 months), we enjoy low-key activities, since we're usually seeing each other after long days at work - movies, a game of Scrabble, playing with his kitty while we chat, etc. We typically get takeout, order in, or have already eaten independently before we see each other. If we both have the energy, we might go out to dinner together. We usually time our overnight visits with days we can sleep in the next day, and either have a leisurely morning with breakfast and a quick walk around the neighborhood, or breakfast out and a walk at the marina or a drive up to Point Reyes if neither of us is working that afternoon. 1
angel.eyes Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Point Reyes is stunning! There and Big Sur are two of my favorite spots. 1
MissBee Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 I've been dating someone for 5 months now and I am late in the dating game even though I am quite old. So it's hard to ask my friends without looking like a loser. What do you do on your dates or at your boyfriend/girlfriends house? We don't really do anything other than go out for food or watch tv. It is a bit awkward when it's 'go out for food or watch a film?'. What do you do at your boyfriend's/girlfriend's house if you stay for a weekend? How do meals work? If it is awkward or you need to be told what to do, maybe you guys are not a good match? In my experience when I am into a guy and he is into me a large part of the attraction is that things feel organic, we have a lot of fun together, we can talk about a lot of things and I don't have to twiddle my thumbs and think about what we should do or talk about or only have two options: eat or watch something. What do both of you like to do? Do you get along effortlessly? Do you talk about anything? 1
Toodaloo Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 I like post #15 but I also like to get hammered. I remember going on a 1st date with someone I had known for a while. We got absolutely shltfaced and tumbled home at 3am. He tripped on his way to my bed and landed face first Did you tell him he landed the wrong way up?! 3
Emilia Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Did you tell him he landed the wrong way up?! He crashed out snoring 2
Haydn Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 A girl once took me to a `Seance` for a date. In her words.. `it`ll be a laugh` We were about 17 and frankly bored. Indeed it was. Someone wanted to talk to me from the other side but i couldn`t recall for the life of me knowing anyone called `Bartlett Sampson` and it seemed that i owed them 500 quid. But other good ideas i think have already been mentioned. I like the picnic one. In the summer a good barbecue. But getting Rat-arsed is always a winner! 3
Toodaloo Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 He crashed out snoring I guess he didn't get breakfast cooked for him in the morning then!!! 2
Emilia Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 I guess he didn't get breakfast cooked for him in the morning then!!! He was talking into the big white telephone while I was sleeping on
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