rocksocks Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 [22m] Met up with girl Friday night, everything seemed to be going well. Yesterday (Saturday) knew she might go hiking, texted her asking if she made it to the hiking trip. Got no response. Move on? I get that there may have been no signald during the actual hiking part, but no response even later seems obvious.
Robratory Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Now watch, you'll read in the news tomorrow that she fell off a cliff while hiking, and you'll feel sooo guilty! You might try texting her in a couple of days, but just once. If she doesn't reply, then yes, move on. Not much else you can do. 1
katiegrl Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 [22m] Met up with girl Friday night, everything seemed to be going well. Yesterday (Saturday) knew she might go hiking, texted her asking if she made it to the hiking trip. Got no response. Move on? I get that there may have been no signald during the actual hiking part, but no response even later seems obvious. Move on from what, you had one date. Just live your life, meet/go out with other girls, if she responds when she returns from hiking, fabulous, if not, no big deal.
AMJ Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 If she's like me, then I'd feel a little bit claustrophobic if a guy texted me the morning after our first date, asking me if I made it to my hike. That's more step 2 type relationship contact. She's probably still deciding whether or not she wants date #2, but you've moved on to checking up on her all day. I just think in the early stages any expectation about frequency of texting/calling/contact is a bit much. Also- she was hiking. She was busy. She was out of cell phone range. It doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't want to see you again, it means that she didn't want to respond to your text yesterday. Maybe she was exhausted when she got home and didn't want to get involved in a text-a-thon. 2
Jabron1 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 [22m] Met up with girl Friday night, everything seemed to be going well. Yesterday (Saturday) knew she might go hiking, texted her asking if she made it to the hiking trip. Got no response. Move on? I get that there may have been no signald during the actual hiking part, but no response even later seems obvious. 'Met up' is vague. Do you mean a date? Or did you just get her number? Either way, I would put her on the backburner. Ping her again in about a week. If there's still no reply, forget all about her.
Brapting Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 (edited) [22m] Met up with girl Friday night, everything seemed to be going well. Yesterday (Saturday) knew she might go hiking, texted her asking if she made it to the hiking trip. Got no response. Move on? I get that there may have been no signald during the actual hiking part, but no response even later seems obvious. Assuming that you were clear enough in your intent to her, attractive women get hit up all the time. As an experiment, create a female OLD profile with a picture of a reasonably good looking woman...and watch the hundreds of messages, views and obvious indications of interest that it will get from guys. Clearly, unless you are Brad Pitt...the same logic does not apply the other way around...for a guy. I know that as a guy, I can sometimes fall into the trap of assuming that women view men, attraction, the world...as I do. If a woman went out of her way to meet up with me...or show any interest at all...I would assume that it was on! Because it doesn't happen all that often...I would subconsciously project and assume that the woman in question would view the meeting, or text, or interaction...the same way that I would. This is plain misguided, largely because unless you are Brad Pitt, most attractive women will be coming from a place of abundance compared to you and the majority of men that they meets or show interest in them...and a sought after woman cannot have sex or a relationship with everyone that shows interest! On top of this, male attraction is like a light switch. Man sees woman + man likes what he sees = Man attracted and wants relationship or sex. This decision is very logical and linear and can come pretty quick for a guy. Once the decision has been made...it stays fairly stable over days and weeks. Generally female attraction is more like a dimmer switch that is guided by emotions and emotional states, it can go up or down slowly and where it is at will determine if she finds you attractive and what decisions she will make with regards to this . A woman can be really pumped and loving your company on one day...but when you text her later, those emotions may have dissipated and she is a different person who will make different choices about what she wants. There is no real hard and fast magic bullet for this...apart from getting yourself into a place of abundance. Approach, approach, approach. There are 3.5 billion women out there. Talk to them, set up meetings and dates with as many of them as possible. Give them the opportunity to come into your world for a bit...experience the unconditional fun that you have to share. You are the chooser here, not any one woman. You already have the quality in you, now to work on the quantity of women sampling that quality. So don't move on...keep moving. The fun is in meeting women and sharing your fun and yourself...not on some assumed end goal like sex or a relationship. Push for both of these things...but only because it is fun to do so...not because you are invested in the outcome. Edited February 21, 2016 by Brapting 4
Erik30 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 It's only been a day. She was probably too tired and didn't feel like texting someone she barely knows. Just wait till she texts back. If she doesn't, you can text her again in a couple of days but her interest might be low. (And if you do, don't mention anything about your previous text she ignored) 3
angel.eyes Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 When I go hiking, my focus is on hiking, nature, and my fellow hikers, not on immediately texting some guy I went out with once, especially given the way you phrased your text. It sounds more as if you're checking up on her to make sure she wasn't lying to you, rather than genuine interest in her hike. Genuine interest would be asking how I liked my hike, where I went, etc. Not whether I actually went hiking. That comes off as controlling and insecure. I'm allergic to that. Give it a few days, then if you still haven't heard from her, text again. If there's still no response, move on at that point. Out of curiosity, was she day hiking or backpacking? 2
soph-walker Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Crikey, it's not been 24hours yet, she might be thinking of a good reply to send to you. I agree with others, make contact again in a couple of days and if it's a no, then you have your answer 3
d0nnivain Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 You just met her. She was busy yesterday but you intruded. Give her until Monday Just because we have the technology capability to be in touch 24/7 doesn't mean some person you just met is obligated to do so. 4
iphone_user1 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 (edited) Give it a couple of days, then another text. If no reply, just leave it there. In my case, when I leave my house to go out visit someone, have lunch or do any other outdoor activity, I don't use any social media. I turn off the internet connection and totally connect and focus on what I'm doing. I go back to the social media thing ONLY at home. So if I go on a trip for two days, you won't know nothing about me for those two days unless it's an emergency or I'll turn on the internet connection to just send a short text to someone close so they know I'm alive LOL but since you two barely know each other... Well, give it a break. Edited February 21, 2016 by iphone_user1 2
Author rocksocks Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 You just met her. She was busy yesterday but you intruded. Give her until Monday Just because we have the technology capability to be in touch 24/7 doesn't mean some person you just met is obligated to do so. To be fair, I've know her for a while, we've hung out multiple times downtown (with friends). She came out with me and my friends Friday night, and everything seemed to be going well with lots of mutual touching (knees resting against each other, rested my hand on her knee, etc.) Unfortunately as the night ended, I leaned in (she was showing me where the Uber was) and placed my hand on the small of her back, and she seemed to spin away (first time she moved away when I touched her). 1
angel.eyes Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I leaned in (she was showing me where the Uber was) and placed my hand on the small of her back, and she seemed to spin away (first time she moved away when I touched her). It doesn't sound as if she's as enthusiastic as you are. Since it was a group outing, is it at all possible she saw you as just friends hanging out and was unpleasantly surprised when you made a move? 3
Satu Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 (edited) A friend of mine once called me just as my wheels were living the runway. Did I take the call? No. I learned to turn my phone off. Maybe she doesn't like to text when she's hiking. She might be ............. busy..... phone switched off ..... Edited February 21, 2016 by Satu
Author rocksocks Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 It doesn't sound as if she's as enthusiastic as you are. Since it was a group outing, is it at all possible she saw you as just friends hanging out and was unpleasantly surprised when you made a move? Maybe, but I had placed my hand on the small of her back multiple times that night and she didn't try and move away at those points. Just that last time as we're getting ready to leave. 1
angel.eyes Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Did you do or say something that offended her and made her change her mind? At any rate, she knows how to contact you and she knows you're interested. 1
Author rocksocks Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 Did you do or say something that offended her and made her change her mind? At any rate, she knows how to contact you and she knows you're interested. Not that I can remember, which is why it was confusing. 1
angel.eyes Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 Well something happened during the interaction. How else would you explain her suddenly becoming standoffish to the same gesture? Occam's razor.
Jabron1 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 To be fair, I've know her for a while, we've hung out multiple times downtown (with friends). She came out with me and my friends Friday night, and everything seemed to be going well with lots of mutual touching (knees resting against each other, rested my hand on her knee, etc.) Unfortunately as the night ended, I leaned in (she was showing me where the Uber was) and placed my hand on the small of her back, and she seemed to spin away (first time she moved away when I touched her). When it comes to a woman's interest, they like to keep their cards close to their chest. A man must judge her on actions. In this case: 1. She refused a kiss 2. She ignores a message One more ignored message, and I would forget about her - that goes for her initiating at a later date too. Approach other women in the meantime.
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