Gabi Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 (edited) So when i met my girl we asked each other about our earlier lives and i told her that i had a girlfriend before and i broke up(This was before i fell in love with her). She told me the truth though that she had one. Then came the questions related to sexual encounters with the ex. I made up some story that time saying yes i did but not the hardcore stuff. Although i never said more than that till now. (Please note she doesnt care if i was a virgin or not. She told me she is ok with her guys past. Only thing important is his present) Actually i never had a girlfriend before and no sexual encounters too so yes i did fake the story to her just to show myself like a dude at that time i met her. Whenever she asks me to tell stories about my ex(For fun ofcourse) then i always try to tell her to forget about this topic as i dont wanna lie to her. Do you think i should tell her the truth about it? Its not like that truth has anything to do with our current relationship but. Will she be really mad at me for lying about this as in my whole relationship i have never lied to her till now Edited February 21, 2016 by Gabi
smackie9 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 My ex never told me I was his first....not until like 30 years later lol. Anyways I don't think she will have an issue because I have a feeling she knows, that's why she keeps asking. 2
MidwestUSA Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 It's not really appropriate for her to be asking about your ex (existent or not). Turn the focus back on her, and emphasize that the PRESENT and future are what counts. 'Honey, let's talk about us, and not the past'. She shouldn't be asking. Is she insecure? I don't care if it's about 'fun stories' or not, it doesn't matter anymore. 2
Robratory Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Eh... it was a white lie, so I'm going to suggest that you stick with not wanting to talk about it. In general, don't talk about former girlfriends with current girlfriends. People usually do tell each other at least about their important previous relationships, but they shouldn't tell unflattering stories about their previous relationships. If a girl says mean things about her ex, she'll probably say mean things about you too when you become her ex.
MidwestUSA Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 My ex never told me I was his first....not until like 30 years later lol. Anyways I don't think she will have an issue because I have a feeling she knows, that's why she keeps asking. Entirely possible, in which case maybe he should 'fess up. Hopefully, she'll see it as a cute white lie.
Author Gabi Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 It's not really appropriate for her to be asking about your ex (existent or not). Turn the focus back on her, and emphasize that the PRESENT and future are what counts. 'Honey, let's talk about us, and not the past'. She shouldn't be asking. Is she insecure? I don't care if it's about 'fun stories' or not, it doesn't matter anymore. umm not really. She is very secure in this matter. Its not like she pushes me to tell and she understands but yea she is curious as i never told more about my ex. I dont mind her asking about my past too so its not a problem but i was just wondering if i was doing a bad thing by hiding it from her
ExpatInItaly Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 umm not really. She is very secure in this matter. Its not like she pushes me to tell and she understands but yea she is curious as i never told more about my ex. I dont mind her asking about my past too so its not a problem but i was just wondering if i was doing a bad thing by hiding it from her Take it from another woman, we don't ask about our boyfriend's exes "for fun." She's on to you or she's not as secure as you think.
smackie9 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I like asking about their first time.....those stories I find amusing. If she was your first....mmmm yaaaa she's gonna know. 1
Qboro90 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 umm not really. She is very secure in this matter. Its not like she pushes me to tell and she understands but yea she is curious as i never told more about my ex. I dont mind her asking about my past too so its not a problem but i was just wondering if i was doing a bad thing by hiding it from her Take it as your chance to establish your maturity with her. When she asks about your ex turn it back around and inquire "why are you so curious about my ex's and past relationships? I really don't want to think about what I did with them or anyone else. I'd hope that you and I can focus on our relationship instead. Not like I'm dying to know what your ex liked to do in bed you know" You don't need to bring up the fact that she's your first at this point. That's something you should do when your relationship is at a more mature and stable level, which it's not at yet. If you've been vague and she doesn't know how long your pretend ex and you dated for then just make something up.... "Was a little under 2 years, and before that I wouldn't consider any girls serious... Couple months here and there but no one was able to keep my attention... Until you babe ;)".. But if she asked you what boobs felt like and you said "a bag of sand" ... Then you might have to come clean. But until then, no need
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