Linlin46 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I went on a first date with this really nice guy. We were kissing in my driveway. I invited in the house. We had sex. Question is he hasn't had sex in a year. When we do "it", he only seemed to care about doing the act itself and nothing else. It was fast and passionate. But was it a selfish thing on his part or was it like that because he was overly excited because it had been so long since he had sex?
TX-SC Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 First time sex with a person often leaves a lot to be desired. If you do it again, see if things change. If not, move on.
Author Linlin46 Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 Thanks for the advice. I'm not going to give up on him after our first date and first time we had sex. I've known him slightly through a mutual friend. I guess I'll find out on our next date, hopefully it won't be another wham, bam, thank you mam, then a half hour of laying in each other's arms. I'm wondering if we do have sex again if I should guide him to, you know, "go down on me" like he did to me last night? I don't want to seem too pushy.
TX-SC Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Nothing pushy about that. You need to set the tone here so that you both enjoy it. If not, this may end up being a very unsatisfying relationship for you.
losangelena Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Thanks for the advice. I'm not going to give up on him after our first date and first time we had sex. I've known him slightly through a mutual friend. I guess I'll find out on our next date, hopefully it won't be another wham, bam, thank you mam, then a half hour of laying in each other's arms. I'm wondering if we do have sex again if I should guide him to, you know, "go down on me" like he did to me last night? I don't want to seem too pushy. What's pushy about that?
blackcat777 Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 There is also the route of letting him know explicitly how good it made you feel and how much you loved it when he did XYZ.
Author Linlin46 Posted February 22, 2016 Author Posted February 22, 2016 Thanks for all the advice. If there is a next time I'll just ask him for what I want/need. I can't tell him what I liked because it was just intercourse and that's all. But if thing get better and heat up like I want, I will definitely be sure to tell him how much I liked what it was that he did!! Thanks Again.
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