Toodaloo Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 There'll be absolutely no further dates from here with him. Another thing that's put me right off- when I saw him for date 3, he had asked about how many dates I'd had since him. I'd been on 4 dates with one guy (it turned out we just didn't fit right and was a mutual thing to not go any further), well he said 'oh I can't believe you've dated someone else to the point of 4 dates, you don't waste any time do you!' and also he's previously asked more than twice how much male attention I receive and asked if the size of my boobs have always got unwanted male attention. I wasn't able to meet him on a couple of nights he suggested and about 3/4 times on these evenings he messaged me asking 'how my date was going' and 'enjoy your date' as though the reason I wasn't free was because I was on a date and not actually because I was genuinely busy with other plans. He has also asked how much male attention I receive on dating websites. Think that's a jealous streak in him. Not good. Soph... Dear Lordy if I knew this I would have told you to kick his sorry behind to the kerb and not look back. Don't worry. We all meet a few every now and then. Keep your head up and keep looking. Keep going out, keep being sociable, keep doing the things you enjoy as well as this whole dating thing. As for the "you don't hang about" comment. I had that the other day from my cousin. I had been dating a guy for a few weeks and was keen on him. Really liked him but one day he did the "poof" as I call it and disappeared. I waited a couple of weeks then got up and carried on. My cousin was shocked by this. The reality of it is that if I hadn't, I would have missed the guy I am now quietly seeing/ speaking to...! I think this one may be an upgrade on the last! Guys I think do have a harder time of it in some ways to get dates but I also think that some men are unrealistic in their thinking and assuming that women sit at home eating Ben and Jerrys and thinking about them all the time... They forget that we have lives and those of us who are realistic and in control of our emotions will get up and get on with it. Good luck and chin up chook.
Author soph-walker Posted February 24, 2016 Author Posted February 24, 2016 Soph... Dear Lordy if I knew this I would have told you to kick his sorry behind to the kerb and not look back. Don't worry. We all meet a few every now and then. Keep your head up and keep looking. Keep going out, keep being sociable, keep doing the things you enjoy as well as this whole dating thing. As for the "you don't hang about" comment. I had that the other day from my cousin. I had been dating a guy for a few weeks and was keen on him. Really liked him but one day he did the "poof" as I call it and disappeared. I waited a couple of weeks then got up and carried on. My cousin was shocked by this. The reality of it is that if I hadn't, I would have missed the guy I am now quietly seeing/ speaking to...! I think this one may be an upgrade on the last! Guys I think do have a harder time of it in some ways to get dates but I also think that some men are unrealistic in their thinking and assuming that women sit at home eating Ben and Jerrys and thinking about them all the time... They forget that we have lives and those of us who are realistic and in control of our emotions will get up and get on with it. Good luck and chin up chook. Haha you are right, men must expect us to climb onto a dusty shelf until the next prick decides to show us some interest, sod that! Was him asking about male attention really such a bad thing though? I genuinely didn't mind it or think it was odd- what does it say about a man if he asks such questions? I'm thinking I may allow myself a break from dating, I've procrastinated a little as I said I would have a break before Christmas and yet here I am again. Time to regroup and maybe try again later. Chin is firmly 'up' though, that's for sure:laugh:
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