salparadise Posted February 22, 2016 Posted February 22, 2016 She wants to be in a serious, committed relationship for at least 6 months. So what we are doing right now doesn't count for those months. We haven't had a exclusive talk yet. We haven't had sex either, I've never waited this long (8 dates). I've kissed her but that's it. She won't come to my place and doesn't want me at her place because her kids are there. Too many hoops to jump through. Her expectations are unreasonable. I agree about waiting until a solid relationship has been established to introduce the kids, but six months is a fairly long time even if counted from the beginning. You have serious doubts about the instant family and need to get a feel for what it would be like––is she an organized, effective parent with well behaved kids, or is it a chaotic situation? Chaos would probably be a deal breaker even if you were open minded about it all. She won't go to your place, won't allow you to hers. So dating is limited to restaurants, conversation in the car or walks in the park? How the heck are you going to progress? No sex, eh? Wonder how long she intends to hold out? Two different baby daddies- double the complexity and probably going to be a rare occasion that both kids are with their daddies at the same time, meaning alone time for the two of you will be almost non-existent. This would be extremely difficult if she was doing everything in her power to grease the skids and make the situation attractive to you, but she's doing the exact opposite. It's a shame if she's someone you're really interested in... but my guess is that this imposed difficulty is indicative of her personality and is not going to change. With only a month invested, I'd have to say sorry, too complicated... that you really like her but most aspects of the situation aren't going to change and you need something less constrained.
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