meh1 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 i need to rant. i met my now exboyfriend online nearly 5 months ago, we met up after a few weeks of texting. He was separated and had been for 18months with plans to divorce this year. I always had some doubts about his situation and spoke to him about this and he welcomed my quesitons and said he would always be honest with me and answer any qyestions that i had. So, during our relationship i was nursing my mother through a horrible illness from which he knew she would never recover and knew how hard this was on me. I sadly lost my mother a few weeks ago and he supported me fully at the time of her death and at the funeral, meeting my extended family and friends (i had never met any of his family as he said they were close to his ex and took the separation hard). A few days after the funeral, i spent the night at his and we slept together for the first time (my first time ever - which he knew about). i recently found out that he has been back on the same site we met on, under a different user name, messaging and texting other girls. I obviously dumped him, but he denied it. He hasn't even tried to conatct me since - i kinda thought he would try to text me to grovel, but nothing. i wouldn't have taken him back anyway. can i have someone's advice on this as i feel i can't grieve for my mother due to thinking about this horrible specimen of mankind.
bathtub-row Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Your mother and your feelings about her are far more important than this guy. He sounds very immature. I don't know what it will take for you to get past it but, really, you guys weren't together for very long. Your emotional attention toward him may be your way of avoiding dealing with the loss of your mom. I lost my parents several years ago and it is truly a difficult thing to deal with. I'm really sorry for your loss, and for having to deal with a guy who has behaved the way he did. You were very smart to drop him. Your mom would be proud. Now, count your blessings that you found out what he was like and try to spend time with your family. They probably need you right now.
Author meh1 Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 thank you. i know you're right. It had been 13 years since i was in a relationship and so was a big deal for me to trust someone so implicitly and he abused that. just frustrating that he will now move onto someone else and do the same thing again, hurting people. i do hope karma gets him.
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