hilaryzo Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Hi Guys, So I've been dating this guy for 4 months. After our second date he told me he likes me and told me again on our third date. Since then, we've been on numerous dates and he even said that he's glad that he met me. We are extremely comfortable with each other and I have met his friends, who are really nice. We even spent this Valentine's Day together and it was amazing. We have been intimate with each other and I am the first girl he's been with. However, he's yet to Define The Relationship. He hasn't mentioned anything about me being his girlfriend, but it feels like we are a couple. He has made the first move at most stages of our 'relationship' and I'm wondering if he's waiting for me to say something about becoming official. If anyone could give me some advice on what do next that'd be helpful. Thanks!
Forevermore13 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Just take the leap and ask him. From an outsiders perspective, it's not an issue. Maybe he's questioning the same thing, actually, it's very likely You have to ask questions and clear your mind 3
joseb Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 If you are the first girl he has been with, then I doubt that he has any idea he needs to "define the relationship". 1
road Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 If you are the first girl he has been with, then I doubt that he has any idea he needs to "define the relationship". Also how old are the both of you? And now I know what DTR means. ROTFALMAO
Redhead14 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Hi Guys, So I've been dating this guy for 4 months. After our second date he told me he likes me and told me again on our third date. Since then, we've been on numerous dates and he even said that he's glad that he met me. We are extremely comfortable with each other and I have met his friends, who are really nice. We even spent this Valentine's Day together and it was amazing. We have been intimate with each other and I am the first girl he's been with. However, he's yet to Define The Relationship. He hasn't mentioned anything about me being his girlfriend, but it feels like we are a couple. He has made the first move at most stages of our 'relationship' and I'm wondering if he's waiting for me to say something about becoming official. If anyone could give me some advice on what do next that'd be helpful. Thanks! There is nothing wrong with a woman getting clarity for herself. Asking the question doesn't change the outcome. In other words, if you ask, the answer doesn't change because you asked, it's just what the answer is. If he says he's unsure, you give him a little time to focus and think about it (and you give him a little time, not a month or continue to string yourself along. Set a time limit for yourself -- a week tops, but expect an answer). At the end of the time you want to give, if he hasn't responded or addressed it, you bring it up again. If he can't/won't answer or doesn't give the answer you hope for, you move on. Address it once, give a little space, get clarity and move on if necessary. And, the reason you give him a little time if necessary is because he's been enjoying himself obviously and maybe just not focusing on that and now it's been highlighted for him. He has made the first move at most stages of our 'relationship -- I might say wait a little longer though. 6 months isn't unreasonable IMO to wait for that to happen from him. Since he's been doing it himself, you might want to wait a little longer and see if he does, but not much longer. Even with saying that, if you find yourself dwelling/questioning it, it's OK to bring it up just to be able to manage your emotions and expectations. but it feels like we are a couple. -- This is how women allow themselves to be strung along. Sure, it FEELS like you're a couple to you, but does he feel that way or even thinking that way? I am the first girl he's been with
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