stemgeek Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Has anyone had any experiences in general regarding dating for introverted and socially awkward males? People who have little to say in a conversation and let others do most of the talking? I've heard some people say that very outgoing extroverted girls may actually get along well with an introvert because a really talkative girl may very well enjoy having someone who will always be there by her side to listen. How ever, I've also heard others say that these type of guys are the stereotypical boring "nice guys" or "doormats" who get dumped by girls easily for being too boring. As a introverted guy who hasn't really entered the dating scene yet, how difficult is it for socially awkward people to date?
Phenx Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 I think you just need to take more chances and try new things with people. But to answer your question, it does seem introverted people have a more difficult time dating. That is because introverted people are inherently less prone to social interaction in general, which means less chance of being successful with opposite sex it seems. Although, it does seem that introverts generally are intelligent and excel at their own goals which is of course a very attractive quality. It is probably very important for you to get better at interacting with people in general while at the same time learning how to deal with dating because being social is a part of dating. You need to figure out a plan for yourself to become the man you want to be and start doing it. If you have no confidence now, screw it, just pretend you do and it WILL come with time. Doesn't matter if its crappy jokes or not or w.e, some people will laugh and some will not say anything but at least believe in yourself and have some confidence. If you take a girl on a date for example, you gotta be a gentleman. You have to be conscious of your words and the way you talk to people. Make sure you are in control of the situations and don't let anyone screw with you ever. Basically, be a freaking man. Idk though, its easier said than done.
Alamo657 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) Has anyone had any experiences in general regarding dating for introverted and socially awkward males? People who have little to say in a conversation and let others do most of the talking? I've heard some people say that very outgoing extroverted girls may actually get along well with an introvert because a really talkative girl may very well enjoy having someone who will always be there by her side to listen. How ever, I've also heard others say that these type of guys are the stereotypical boring "nice guys" or "doormats" who get dumped by girls easily for being too boring. As a introverted guy who hasn't really entered the dating scene yet, how difficult is it for socially awkward people to date? I think the quiet guys could still date before the digital age, but now it's not possible anymore. There is too much inter-connection going on, people are constantly sollicited with projects, success and movement. You're either pro active about your life, or people do not notice you (well they do, but in a negative light). That's how society is today. Psycho girls with low self esteem are the only people who are attracted to loners, because they might enjoy the companionship. But even then it's not for a long time, or not for a stable relationship. Basically, in our age, you have to achieve things others than just earning your own bread, otherwise people do not care about you, because they can't make any use of you in their social circles. It's the age of entertainment, you either entertain yourself, and others, or you end up alone and unhappy because you're not enjoying what our society offers. Edited February 20, 2016 by Alamo657
elaine567 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 As a introverted guy who hasn't really entered the dating scene yet, how difficult is it for socially awkward people to date? Work on yourself before you enter the dating scene, it can be brutal. As an introverted guy you are not going to turn into Donald Trump overnight, but girls are NOT going to be impressed by anyone who cannot hold a proper conversation or who finds normal social events scary. 1
AMJ Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Explain what you mean by socially awkward? I don't think there's anything wrong with being a shy introvert. Yes, dating is going to be more difficult. But why can't you date other shy introverts? I don't really buy into "opposites attract". Socially awkward is a problem in terms of dating- and life, really. Social skills are necessary for your career, your social life, and yes, dating. 1
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