Grey40 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) Ok so I never post on these forums, but I really need help here guys because I really don't want to blow this opportunity (if it is one). Basically, I messaged a girl on Plenty Of Fish dating app, and we hit it off pretty well, then we it went REALLY well to where I wasn't even sure if it was real. We both went on kik (an anonymous messaging app) The texting got extremely flirty and sexual and she was asking me what I would do to her in the bedroom and kept saying she was horny and everything, she asked me questions like "if we get serious how would you spoil me" stuff like that. Said I was really hot and wanted to give me a bj etc..really graphic sexual details, role playing and sending me pics asking which ones showed off her ass or boobs better etc..This convo went on for almost 4.5 hours. Then the problem is that before I could really get her number or set up a date of some kind she just stopped messaging and then I beleive deleted the app (kik tells you when people read your message, and it hasn't been read). I sent her one or two more messages but she hasn't responded in over 24 hours now. What do I do? I don't have her number and she deleted her account on plenty of fish. I'm starting to wonder if I was being used for fun or for some ego boost. I found her Facebook through heavy searching but I'm afraid if I message her on there she'll think I'm a creep and wonder how I found her. Please help guys. I don't want to believe this was too good to be true. To clarify, I had asked her to hang out earlier in the day and she agreed but said on a day that she's not working..and she told me she had work that night (she's a waitress). Edited February 20, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Author Grey40 Posted February 20, 2016 Author Posted February 20, 2016 I guess all 66 people are stumped lol. Should I even bother pursuing her?
road Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 I would never let my posts get that wild. You should of used your time with her to get her number and set up a date. I don't know you could try to leave her a message on FB telling her you would really like to date her and sorry if you did anything to upset her. Though I think, she will only think you are a stalker. Maybe best to move on.
6Pack Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 I guess all 66 people are stumped lol. Should I even bother pursuing her? If it were me, I would not pursue it...I have had weird encounters like that with online dating as well...it was probably someone not serious...like you said, she needed an ego boost, or playing some kind of game, etc. Either that, or you said or did something over text that caused her to lose interest. It could be anything, either your fault, or not. Do not worry about it. Just keep looking and talking to other girls, would be my advice. Just curious, what is your age, and what region do you live? If you are youngish and single, you should be aiming to go to one of the bigger cities; this is where the jobs, and the best dating scenes, are located these days.
kidm Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 She future faked you and disappeared. pursuing her? if she deleted her profile and she didn't provide her number, I think that's her telling you she's not interested and this was an online game for her. How do you plan on pursuing her? contact her on her social media account? That screams creepy stalker. 1
smackie9 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Someone is either phishing or is a hooker. As the saying goes....if it's too good to be true, it probably is.
Author Grey40 Posted February 20, 2016 Author Posted February 20, 2016 Thanks for replying guys. I thought it could be people messing with me, but hey invested a long time (4+ hours) which to me seems a little too much time if they were just messing with me, they could have ended the conversation quicker than that. The pictures she sent me we're definitely real, because they are all on her Facebook account, unless someone downloaded her photos and are stealing her identity to mess with people online which I highly doubt. I left her a message on FB, I'll see if she even responds to it or not. Most likely I got played but maybe there was a legit reason why the conversation stopped in not sure. At this point I have nothing to lose, if she thinks I'm a creepy stalker then so be it..she shouldn't have made me think she wanted sex and have plans to meet up with me and then just disappear. If anything it shows I cared enough to find her. We'll see what happens. Anyone else experience this stuff? It was very bizarre to say the least.
smackie9 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 I have see threads about LDR's that went on for a year only to find out it was someone phishing. I'll stick to my original warning.
6Pack Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Yep, I have heard of weird scenarios where people string others along for long times, as part of an attempt to get money, etc. It could be anything: 1. Another male using social media and online dating to find out what other guys are saying/doing with online dating (doing research, trying to steal skills from competing males) 2. A person trying to game you for money 3. Someone looking for compromising photos of you to blackmail you etc etc. Most of the time, if a girl is getting THAT freaky with you (a stranger to her), sending you naked pics before ever meeting you or speaking with you on the phone, its a scam (or game) of some sort. I realize that some people will still "get freaky" over conversation, but never assume its real. I do recall, back in the early 90's, in the old AOL chat rooms, there was a good deal of women who were using that platform to cheat on husbands, young girls looking to get laid out of curiosity, etc (I saw all of this first hand). But that was before people realized how dangerous online interactions can be. By the late 90's, scammers had caught on to the potential for scamming people using these online platforms (social media and otherwise). 1
Author Grey40 Posted February 20, 2016 Author Posted February 20, 2016 Yeah I could see def how it could be a scam. She or whoever never asked me to send pictures and she never sent naked pictures to me either. Good news is I didn't give out much info or any pictures. Also Kik is one of those apps that all conversations are deleted and nothing is or can be saved, not can people be traced. The other strange thing is that they never asked me for money on any way. So I'm not sure it was a scam but clearly not real the more I think about it. Her Facebook account appears active and real, though she hasn't posted anything since October. Found her LinkedIn too haha and she works as an attorney basically involving social services and social media. So maybe she was doing research on how guys react to sexual behavior. Damn this really messed me up. Should I be worried I've been hacked or compromised?
Erik30 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 She decided to end communication by deleting the app, so apparently being able to contact you doesn't mean that much to her. It kind off sounds like she was bored one night and used you to have some fun. 1
Satu Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 She had a bit of fun get you hot and sweaty and went 'poof.' It was never real. She was just amusing herself. 1
angel.eyes Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 If you're looking to date, focus your energy on asking for a date, not wasting hours randomly sexting on an anonymous app. Chasing after a sexting partner who has removed your ability to communicate with her is a glorious waste of time. It's a pointless chase down a deserted rabbit hole. May as well just bang your head bloody against a concrete wall. Either way, no date will be forthcoming. 2
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