Therapist is 35, I'm 16. Platonic affection or more?

[chieftadoe]

OP, are you sure you're 16?

 

Your sentence construction, grammar and style does not reflect a 16-year-old's writing.

 

Even if you are a gifted Oxford-Cambridge scholarship student, your writing is way too matured and 'established' for a 16-year-old!

 

I do a lot of reading. I don't see my writing as being particularly out of the ordinary...Anyway, even if I did happen to be some really intellectual adult posing as a 16 year old, I'd at least have the common sense to "dumb down" my writing, duh.

[katiegrl]

(Deleted). Decided not to.

Edited February 20, 2016 by katiegrl

[scorpiogirl]

You posted this before, presumably under a different name. I don't have the time, nor inclination to go back and check.

 

But I know this story.

 

As before, I suspect this is all in your mind, if it's even true.

If this therapist was trying to get you, surely she would have made progress in the months since you first came here with this story.

 

I would've thought she'd have moved beyond all the innuendo by now.

[elaine567]

People on therapy often get very attached to their therapist and may misinterpret the relationship completely.

 

"Person centred therapy", is, I guess, what this therapist was about.

 

" Rogers identified six conditions which are needed to produce personality changes in clients:

relationship,

vulnerability to anxiety (on the part of the client),

genuineness (the therapist is truly himself or herself and incorporates some self-disclosure),

the client's perception of the therapist's genuineness,

the therapist's unconditional positive regard for the client, and accurate empathy.

 

This emphasis contrasts with the dispassionate position which may be intended in other therapies.

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Person-centered_therapy

[katiegrl]

I do a lot of reading. I don't see my writing as being particularly out of the ordinary...Anyway, even if I did happen to be some really intellectual adult posing as a 16 year old, I'd at least have the common sense to "dumb down" my writing, duh.

 

Since you do a lot of reading, combined with your obvious intelligence (assuming you *are* only 16)...why have you not determined for yourself that her behavior is inappropriate and reported her?.

 

You appear to be extremely articulate and insightful (again, assuming you are only 16)...so I find your confusion about this quite curious.

 

Something's not jiving.

[hippychick3]

OP, are you sure you're 16?

 

Your sentence construction, grammar and style does not reflect a 16-year-old's writing.

 

Even if you are a gifted Oxford-Cambridge scholarship student, your writing is way too matured and 'established' for a 16-year-old!

 

As for your problem, whatever age you really are, your therapist sounds like bad news. Find a real professional that can help you deal with your issues - be it the age fantasy - or the other problems that this so-called therapist is assisting you with.

 

Very true...I have 2 adult children who have asked me to edit their essays for high school and college applications. Although their vocabulary is advanced (they're smart kids, if I do say so myself ), their sentence structure and grammar is not quite "there" yet and needs some help. The writing style/structure in the posts of the OP certainly appears to be one that would not be evident in a 16 year old's writing.

[d0nnivain]

chieftadoe

 

 

Her behavior is inappropriate. It's unprofessional.

 

 

Think about it this way. Her training exercises with you are like a test. But she's getting all the answers wrong. If you got all the answers wrong on a test, do you deserve a passing grade? Of course not. You are supposed to learn stuff. If you fail to report what's happening even though you may not be bothered by what she is doing what will happen when she moves on to other patients? Is it fair of you to let her go along when she will then be put in a position to real damage another patient in a vulnerable position?

 

 

If you don't report her because you aren't all that upset about this, report her because the next patient might not be a strong or insightful as you are.

[feb87]

Please, please, please tell someone about her behavior. This is unacceptable. A competent therapist knows that if his/her service is doing more harm than good, then she/he needs to refer the client out to someone else. This woman is not your friend, should not be your friend, and should definitely not be a therapist.

 

Consider it from a different perspective: if she were your English teacher, would you consider this normal? No, far from it. The roles are very different but you know that if she were your teacher, you would definitely be telling your parents about her erratic behavior.

 

She appears to have a buttload of unresolved issues, and I think she might be taking advantage of your vulnerability in the process. Someone in supervision must have told her how inappropriate her relationship with you is, and that is causing her to bring up terminating but not appropriately doing so.

 

I am no trained counselor, but you could also be projecting your feelings/desire for a mother figure onto this woman. I would either find a much older therapist or a male therapist (mature enough that he knows what he's doing). It is her job to protect you, but she's taking advantage of you.

 

Tell one of your teachers, tell a parent, tell someone-- but don't just seek advice from strangers on the internet. We are all dying to report the situation, but since we're all hiding behind cloaks of anonymity, it's impossible.

 

Good luck, and I hope this is resolved soon.

[stillafool]

OP, are you sure you're 16?

 

Your sentence construction, grammar and style does not reflect a 16-year-old's writing.

 

Even if you are a gifted Oxford-Cambridge scholarship student, your writing is way too matured and 'established' for a 16-year-old!

 

As for your problem, whatever age you really are, your therapist sounds like bad news. Find a real professional that can help you deal with your issues - be it the age fantasy - or the other problems that this so-called therapist is assisting you with.

 

^^^^^THIS!^^^^Is exactly what I was thinking. Are you sure you're only 16?

[William]

OK, since this thread is rife with direct trolling callouts and other allusions to trolling and mention of other web sites and other members and a whole bunch of blatantly off-topic and violative content, no middle ground. Direct suspensions of everyone involved since you all know the rules and purposely defy them and the staff of this web site. I'm sick and tired of it and you've got to go. Done.

 

 

Edited to add the link to the site-wide announcement regarding this issue which has been running for awhile, so there's no ambiguity:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/announcement-if-you-think-post-thread-troll-79.html

Edited February 20, 2016 by William
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