pisces_gurl Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 So I have recently started a new project. There is a team and we come in interaction with each other. I noticed a guy checking me out and felt some romantic vibes from him. Due to the fact that I am single and extremely romantic, I quickly developed a crush on him. He added me on social media networks. I was more than happy as I was crushing on him. Coincidentally, I got a meet a very old acquaintance of mine today. We were randomly chatting and I told her about what I am doing these days. She had previously worked for the same project too but left in a short time. When I asked that why did she leave. She said, "Do you know about this guy (my crush). He used to hit on me and other girls so much. I was so frustrated that I left the project." Then I controlling my feelings said, "Oh that guy! Yeah, he sent me a request on social media too". To which she responded, "Yes he will keep doing that and he is always stalking girls" I was extremely hurt to hear that. I thought of dating this guy and maybe even something more. I thought he was attracted to me and that is why approached me. I didn't have the idea that he was a stalker or kept hitting on girls. What should I do? Should I trust the girl? By the way, I know the guy from last 5 days And I don't know much about the girl. I have talked to her like once or twice. Both are basically new people for me.
truth_seeker Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 I would suggest proceed with caution. She could be bad-mouthing him because she liked him and he didn't make a move on her. I think you should give him a chance but don't get too excited over him. Test him out. Question: why do people fall in love with people they hardly know???
truth_seeker Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Another warning: Every girl who has liked me and I didn't like them has deleted me from social media and bad mouthed me... some even hurting my chances with women I did like. You're best bet is to hold onto the info she told you but get to know the guy yourself.
Redhead14 Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 I will give you a crude analogy: I have a ferret. She poops in the corners of her cage away from where her food is. She does this because she knows that pooping in or around her food source will make her sick . . . And, be happy you had a heads up from those messages, you got a birds eye view of who this guy is.
Popsicle Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 He sounds like a player. You for sure will not be special to him.
Buddhist Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Then I controlling my feelings said, "Oh that guy! Yeah, he sent me a request on social media too". To which she responded, "Yes he will keep doing that and he is always stalking girls" I was extremely hurt to hear that. I thought of dating this guy and maybe even something more. I thought he was attracted to me and that is why approached me. I didn't have the idea that he was a stalker or kept hitting on girls. What should I do? Should I trust the girl? By the way, I know the guy from last 5 days And I don't know much about the girl. I have talked to her like once or twice. Both are basically new people for me. Keep in mind what she says and watch what happens. You will easily know the truth of it or not by what his actions are. She might be telling you the absolute truth. A lot of guys just get off on having admirers and they have no interest in following it up at all. If he doesn't escalate and ask you on a date you can tell that she was telling the truth. You have to remember some people have very fragile ego's and they need the attention to prop themselves up. That often becomes confusing flirting that never goes anywhere.
stillafool Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 I don't understand why a young, single guy who hits on lots of girls is called a stalker. Isn't that what he's supposed to do at his age? Sew his wild oats.
Buddhist Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 I don't understand why a young, single guy who hits on lots of girls is called a stalker. Isn't that what he's supposed to do at his age? Sew his wild oats. The problem isn't that he's hitting on them. The stalker component is alluding to the apparent habit of cultivating detached interest and never escalating it beyond that. IE, wanting a connection via social media and maintaining the interest in person but not wanting a date or anything else. Much like a stalker who will follow someone around, stand outside their house and that's all they do.
Alamo657 Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 So I have recently started a new project. There is a team and we come in interaction with each other. I noticed a guy checking me out and felt some romantic vibes from him. Due to the fact that I am single and extremely romantic, I quickly developed a crush on him. He added me on social media networks. I was more than happy as I was crushing on him. Coincidentally, I got a meet a very old acquaintance of mine today. We were randomly chatting and I told her about what I am doing these days. She had previously worked for the same project too but left in a short time. When I asked that why did she leave. She said, "Do you know about this guy (my crush). He used to hit on me and other girls so much. I was so frustrated that I left the project." Then I controlling my feelings said, "Oh that guy! Yeah, he sent me a request on social media too". To which she responded, "Yes he will keep doing that and he is always stalking girls" I was extremely hurt to hear that. I thought of dating this guy and maybe even something more. I thought he was attracted to me and that is why approached me. I didn't have the idea that he was a stalker or kept hitting on girls. What should I do? Should I trust the girl? By the way, I know the guy from last 5 days And I don't know much about the girl. I have talked to her like once or twice. Both are basically new people for me. Well ... 1) Maybe that guy has poor social skills and mistake girls being friendly with being interested in him. That doesnt make him a creep 2) Maybe that girls didn't like him and then , as all girls who reject average men do, labelled him a creep for even trying to flirt with her (how dare he !) 3) And maybe you should see for yourself if he's the "stalker" she says he is, maybe all of this is just gossip. Be careful, but don't judge that guy by the gossip of a woman who barely knew him.
katiegrl Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 So I have recently started a new project. There is a team and we come in interaction with each other. I noticed a guy checking me out and felt some romantic vibes from him. Due to the fact that I am single and extremely romantic, I quickly developed a crush on him. He added me on social media networks. I was more than happy as I was crushing on him. How long has this been going on? A week, two weeks? Longer? Reason I ask is because if he's not asking you out, then chances are your friend is right, he is big flirt who simply enjoys the attention from different women to pump his ego. If he had asked you out and you were dating him, and there were major sparks flying between the two of you, that would b different. I'd say your friend was probably jealous and attempting to sabotage. But again, if he has not asked you out...then move on, your friend is probably right. 1
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