ThatEnglishGuy Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Hi guys and girls. So I met this girl on a night out with friends last weekend and after a few days of texting and a little talking on the phone, I asked her out and we went to see a movie last night. I was told by friends that I should have done a dinner date as the cinema will mean barely any talking and eye contact etc. Until a few months ago, I'd been in a long term relationship so it was my first first date in many years so something "easy" was fine with me. I was kind of nervous going into it but from the moment I picked her up, I felt very comfortable and confident. The whole thing went pretty much as well as I could have hoped. Conversation was flowing, we laughed a lot and complimented each other, we held hands almost through the entire movie, I had my arm around her as we walked back to my car and we kissed as we said goodbye. We both said we had had a good time and should do something again soon. So, that's the hard part done with, right? I have just a few questions about the next step. Firstly, am I right to think that there is chemistry there and that she's into me? And should I text her this morning? We're just waking up in England and the fact I'm on this forum probably tells you that she was the first thing on my mind when I woke up. I thought about texting last night but it was around 11-12 and I figured she'd be going to bed soon. Now I'm thinking maybe say good morning and mention that I had a good time last night? Finally, how long should I wait before asking her out again? I'd definitely like to see her again. Thanks in advance for any answers/advice.
Robratory Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Sounds like things went very well! Yes, she found you attractive enough to kiss, but don't think beyond that. Nothing more can be safely assumed. As for texting, sure, it's a good idea, and any time time after 8 am your time is fine. Just say that you had a great time, and see how she replies. Depending on how happy she seems to hear from you, you might ask her out again right then. Otherwise, wait a few days, and when you do ask her out, do it at least three days ahead of time (i.e. don't ask her on Thursday if she wants to go out Friday).
MidwestUSA Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 You ask her out again ASAP! If the vibe is good on a first date, it's nice to confirm a second before the first ends, but that ship sailed. So yes, text her, let her know you had a good time, and ask her out. And NOT to another movie. Bad first date move, but you'll learn. Good luck! And, I always appreciate a text asking if I got home okay. I'll initiate that myself, tho, if he doesn't, letting him know that I had a good time as well. If I don't want to see him again, I won't text. That she didn't text you may or may not be a sign, I don't know. 2
smudge21 Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Definitely time for the nice meal and a drink or two, somewhere with people around, not too quiet but also not too loud. So not a happy meal or Weatherspoons.
Gershwin Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Definitely ask her out again since you want to. Don't go on waiting for too long, I don't know where the 3 days rule came from bcs I'd assume a guy isn't interested if there is no mention of second date or days pass before he contacts me again.
Toodaloo Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Its nearly 5pm over here now... Been waiting all day for an update! Come on! How did you get on?
Maggie4 Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Ask her out right away, but not for a date too soon like the next day. In the meantime don't keep texting meaningless chitchat, you are not her chatty girlfriend. Make everything you text mean something.
GenuineAttraction Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 The hard part is sort of done. But in general dating isn't hard. This is where most guys screw it up actually and it becomes difficulet. As you say in your email, you're already sold on her and want another date. Take your time. Wait to call her sometime middle of next week and set up a date. If she texts or calls you first, assume she wants to see you and make the definite date immediately. Then get off the phone. Men think they have to "DO" something. Most of the time it's best to just let it be. If you wait, she will be thinking about you, and she won't say no to the date. This will give her time to talk to her friends, herself, or whomever else. You are already sold, so...at this point just keep your emotions in check and demonstrate self control. Just rinse and repeat. Oh and don't text and talk on the phone with her all day. It also kinda ruins the mystery for her, and takes away from your conversations in person. Plus so much can be miscommunication accidentally. It's best to let the romance happen in person.
brokengirl85 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Nice!! Looks promising Now, send her a message and propose a second date now. Show interest but don't be needy. Good luck!!
Author ThatEnglishGuy Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 Thanks for the responses everyone. I'll be honest though, I didn't actually find time to come on here before I spoke to her again! Spoke to her on Friday but didn't ask her out again until today (Saturday) and we're going to dinner on Tuesday evening so I must be doing something right for her to agree to a second date! We live fairly close by each other so I was thinking of inviting her over but thought it was probably too soon for that and she may get the wrong idea. I take on board the comments about over-texting. I don't overdo it, or at least I don't think so. I won't text her two or three times without a reply and although we have been texting from first thing in the morning till last thing at night every day, it's not like we exchange hundreds a day in between. We'll say good morning and exchange a few texts but most of our conversation takes place an hour or so before we go to our respective beds each night, with me usually initiating it with a message asking how her day was and it ending with us saying good night. Anyway, time to prepare for the second date! I know a nice place I used to go to with my ex quite a bit. It's not overly fancy but is intimate and very much a couples place. Any ideas for further moves I should pull or anything? Will she be expecting anything more? Thanks again!
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