marklewis7887 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 I like this girl i've been hanging out with and I'm sort of nervous how to tell her how i feel about her i feel like if i do i'll come off as cheesy/clingy/desperate is there a way to tell her without coming off like that? she has shown interests in me to
mikeylo Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 I like this girl i've been hanging out with and I'm sort of nervous how to tell her how i feel about her i feel like if i do i'll come off as cheesy/clingy/desperate is there a way to tell her without coming off like that? she has shown interests in me to She probably knows that you like her.She also probably likes you.There are 2 possible options: 1. tell her 2. Dont tell her If all the people on this earth felt that if they told someone they loved them etc., they would sound clingy/desperate, then no one would have ever gotten in a relationship. What you do is : meet her in a private spot, away from the crowd , look into her eyes and say " I like you ". Rest is history 1
Author marklewis7887 Posted February 15, 2016 Author Posted February 15, 2016 She probably knows that you like her.She also probably likes you.There are 2 possible options: 1. tell her 2. Dont tell her If all the people on this earth felt that if they told someone they loved them etc., they would sound clingy/desperate, then no one would have ever gotten in a relationship. What you do is : meet her in a private spot, away from the crowd , look into her eyes and say " I like you ". Rest is history should i tell her what i like about her
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 You should tell her that you would like to take her out on a date. That will let her know of your intentions. 2
mikeylo Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Except her boobs and body ,lol ! What do you like about her ? tell us so we can edit
Author marklewis7887 Posted February 15, 2016 Author Posted February 15, 2016 Except her boobs and body ,lol ! What do you like about her ? tell us so we can edit personaily, shes cute, funny, caring, easygoing 1
Author marklewis7887 Posted February 15, 2016 Author Posted February 15, 2016 You should tell her that you would like to take her out on a date. That will let her know of your intentions. i asked her to movies and dinner last week she said "are you asking me on a date? i said yes and she said "id love to go on a date with you" 2
mikeylo Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 i asked her to movies and dinner last week she said "are you asking me on a date? i said yes and she said "id love to go on a date with you" So sweet of her.And what did you do because last week is gone
Author marklewis7887 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 So sweet of her.And what did you do because last week is gone well we went lats wednesday and had a great time
Wisewords Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 good for you man. congrats. see all u had to do was tell her and ask.
NYC-BigKat Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 I like this girl i've been hanging out with and I'm sort of nervous how to tell her how i feel about her i feel like if i do i'll come off as cheesy/clingy/desperate is there a way to tell her without coming off like that? she has shown interests in me to I used to ask friends how to go about doing this stuff & most of them say just to be honest & to compliment her looks and pay loads of attention to her & all but then my uncle says just show her as in kiss her. So u choose.
Versacehottie Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 i asked her to movies and dinner last week she said "are you asking me on a date? i said yes and she said "id love to go on a date with you" marklewis7887: it all sounds like it is going excellently. keep on, my friend.
joseb Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 I don't understand. The original question is from today. Yet now the OP is saying he asked her on a date already last week. Something does not add up...!
Versacehottie Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 I don't understand. The original question is from today. Yet now the OP is saying he asked her on a date already last week. Something does not add up...! I think he is being truthful. I think he has been hanging out with her, ie took her to the movies in the last week and some other times hanging out. He now feels like it's come the time to tell her his feelings/intentions and is scared about it. That's how I interpreted it. I think some guys still get nervous in spite of the fact that she is agreeing to hang out with him and confirmed she'd love to go on a date with him. I think he's nervous because he's going to spill his guts a little and doesn't want to be cheesy. btw, OP, so far what you are planning isn't cheesy. And she sounds like she is right there, likes you as well.
Popsicle Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 You want more emotion, I get it. Yes, tell her how you feel. She may be excited about it.
Author marklewis7887 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 Ok this is long. So I've tried to meet this girl before but it never came to fruition. She started dating this guy in November right before we were suppose to go on a date, and she cancelled ours. Last month she snapchatting me saying she'd be in my town. (she lives ahour away).We met for coffee in the morning and she came over that night cuz she had to enroll in college. she spent the night with me but nothing happened. She made it clear that she was happy with her bf and dint want me to think anything was gonna develop. Well then her bf started throowing a big fit about her going back to school to finish up because he never got to see her. So they broke up. well we ended up having sex together twice now. I was kinda "eh" about it cuz of her whole situation. One night she got really drunk and i basically ignored her while she was here and she got upset. Then i saw her messaging her girlfriend saying :im so afraid mark is gonna fall in love with me" (while she was drunk). Part of me was thinking of just telling her she cant stay anymore BUT i like the company and i do have some feelings for her. Then I was worried she was just using me for a place to stay while she has to be here for school (she stays twice a week,cuz she has classes twice a week) but then i sat back and thought of how she wil buy me dinner, she cleaned my apartment for me(she bought her own cleaning stuff), bought me a vaccum and had me come down to her parents house one night to hang out so basically im just confused on what the hell to do. i have feelings for her but this ex of hers shes known for 8 years and she "loves" him, even though she basically was lying to him while she was staying with me. i sort of discussed it with her and she said she liked me and she thinks about me but shes just got so much on her mind with shcool, work and her ex i asked her a few weeks ago out to dinner and a move. she said "are you aksing me on a date" i said "well yea" and she said "id love to go on a date with you" and we went and she seemed to have a great time. she also will randomly kiss me to or slap my *** its just confusing, like was she unhappy with her bf and thats why she decided to come meet me? what shuld i do
road Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 She broke up with her BF, good She had you met her parents, good She is going out on dates with you, good She is putting out for you, good She brought you a vacuum and is cleaning your place, good So - I forgot - did you have a question Enjoy her company, take your time, just date her one day at a time and see where things go.
Author marklewis7887 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 She broke up with her BF, good She had you met her parents, good She is going out on dates with you, good She is putting out for you, good She brought you a vacuum and is cleaning your place, good So - I forgot - did you have a question Enjoy her company, take your time, just date her one day at a time and see where things go. it's not a clear cut as it seems it's hard to tell if she's truly into me. i dont wanna jump the gun
Author marklewis7887 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 Let' say you are dating a girl how can you do stuff for her (cook, take her on dates) without coming off that you are really trying to hard to get her to like you i try not to plan stuff to much in advance which i think is good or make a big deal about what im doing so does anyone have any tips i just dont want it to come of that im trying to hard
smudge21 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Why are you worried about this - you're already dating, which indicates you're both into each other (unless she's blindfolded and tied to your bed unaware of the date she's currently having) so just be yourself. If you want to take her out and spoil her, then do so. If you want to stay in, cook a nice meal, watch a film, then do that too. The fact is, you're dating, so date away. For reference purposes, I would say a happy meal is being a bit tight (unless there's some comedy value in there) whereas a helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon whilst sipping champagne as a squadron of fighter jets zoom overhead spelling out her name in a cluster of explosions, would be a tad too far. 1
scooby-philly Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 @smudge21 ROFL.....at that last line @OP Agreed - just be yourself. If you like to cook - cook. If you like photography - take pictures. If you like the gym, go to the gym. The best relationships are based on both people being, accepting and loving themselves and then falling in love with the other. If you're worried about being yourself then you might hide something. That is often what leads to the long-term "growing apart" thing. I mean, obviously the biggies are financial, sexual, lifestyle, and children. but you see a lot of couples end after 3 years, 5 years, 25 years if one or more th people were hiding some part of themselves or not being authentic. It's better to be happy alone than to be less than authentic in a relationship.
Author marklewis7887 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 Good points. Just trying to find a good line. Don't want it to seem like I'm always doing something for her
red.velvet Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Don't overthink it. Be yourself. Be nice to her. Be considerate. The fact that you're dating means she has some interest in you. Be you. As long as you are yourself and are true to yourself, there won't be any regrets if it doesn't work.
smudge21 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Then don't do something for her... try to accept that it's highly unlikely she's chosen you to date because you take her places all the time (although it does happen). She's chosen you because of you. Many of us screw up sometimes because we meet people who are clearly into us from the start and then we fall for them and start changing, thinking we need to be this, that or the other just to keep them with us... all the while forgetting that they came to us for who we were to begin with. The line "you've changed" is used far too often in break ups and it's simply because it's true. Be yourself and do something that both of you will enjoy. Oh and in case you're interested, I Googled "hiring fighter jets to bomb the crap out of protected famous landscape to spell out girlfriends name" and it does look like it's pretty pricy and comes with a 20 to life prison sentence. That could harm the relationship a tad.
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