K2z Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 I don't actually care what he thinks, or if he knows I hate him, I just want him to feel really guilty about what he did. That's what I want with my ex too. Unfortunately, since all ties are severed and will remain so forever, there is no way for me to perceive any of her guilt. Whether she suffers or whether she lives in perfect bliss, I will be none the wiser. This is at least half of the pain in my world.
carotini Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 He's not going to feel guilty. In the title of your thread you said you want him to know you hate him. He doesn't care. You need to get this guy out of your head and move on with your life. Good luck.
Author 2much4 Posted May 13, 2016 Author Posted May 13, 2016 Not sure how to change the title of the thread so I'm going to do it like this: I'm pretty much past the angry phase now. There is one thing though. I do act civil around my ex (I just look childish if I'm not) but every time I as much as aknowledge him I feel like I just threw my self-esteem out the window (as a resume, we work together, he cheated). I'm not sure if I'm being irrational? Would any of you be civil to a cheater once youre over it? My pride tells me its disgraceful, my sense of decency tells me I'd only make myself look bad if I'm not.
PinkElephants Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 Would any of you be civil to a cheater once youre over it? My pride tells me its disgraceful, my sense of decency tells me I'd only make myself look bad if I'm not. I'd absolutely be civil. Your ex sent a picture of him kissing the OW; the fact that he bothered to contact you with the intent to hurt you means that he's still emotionally invested. Furthermore, his ego depends on you having a reaction. You get angry, that means he's worth getting worked up over, he derives self-worth from that, he feels good. If you behave angrily or even standoffish he's going to not only feel good about himself, he's going to know that you're still emotionally invested in him and that you're unhappy which is a victory for him. So smile. Be classy. Let him know he's not even worth an eyebrow twitch and you're happier and lighter now that he's not latched to your ankles. Act like nothing he does bothers you and walk away as soon as you can. Let him know you don't have time for him, you're not going to engage in any foolishness and your life is far too good to worry about him. It'll probably confuse the heck out of him. 2
TimmyC Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 Your kidding?!!! He what?!!!! That's the most manipulative and discusting thing I have ever heard someone do. F***k that d***h. You can do so much better. He seems to be a narcissist, he must be getting a joy out of knowing he upsets you. A guy like that isn't even worth the dirt at the bottom of your shoe. Beat him by being happy and finding someone better TRUST ME. Once he realises he can no longer contact you to hurt you because you've found someone better it will fry him. Much more than any hate message will. You'll only be giving him what he wants. Stay strong girl you got this. Tax it as a lesson, and keep on progressin' 1
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