Monkleyz Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 Me and my ex broke up I'm June last year however by the end of August we had started talking again and met up and after a night together she wanted to give us another try because she "missed being herself and you're the only one Im me around" and she was "jealous other girls were trying to be with me". We got back together and worked on things however we got to the same stage in our relationship and she's dumped me again (via text) blocked me on Facebook and cut me put her life. I didn't do no contact at first I tried to send her flowers saying can we talk to no reply. She briefly contacted me over email but just to sort out returning something of mine. When she returned my stuff she returned the necklace I gave her juts before we broke up but didn't return to he ring I gave her when we first stated dating. Shes has paintings and sculptures I did for her and still has pictures of me and her on her Facebook. She has told a mutual friend "I've not just lost my bf but also my bestfriend", "I don't want to change him" and Ive been told she does still love me but things keep getting in the way of that. I decided 4 weeks after the break up (2 weeks since I spoke to her last) to send her a letter explaining the positive changes I'm making in my life and that if given the chance Id want to work on this with some valentines day flowers. She text me "(me) this has to stop. We are not getting back together and no amount of flowers or letter will change that. Im feeling harassed. Ive moved on and you need to find a way to deal with this that doesn't involve contact me" Now this response wasn't the one I was expecting it was cold and emotionless and I can't believe she's moved on after being in each others life's for 5 years especially when she was bringing up marriage, babies and us moving in together in September. What do I do here guys I don't want her to feel "harassed" but I do believe we're soul mates all her friends and family have said this in the past and in a way I dont think we spent enough time apart during the last split to really see ourlives without one another. I do believe in fate and how me and her met could only be explained by fate maybe I need to give her time and space but I also fear her stubbornness of me wanting a "third chance" she even said a "third chance?" and some bad advice she's getting from someone who wants her for himself and her maybe starting to see other people will prolong fate. I'd really appreciate a female view on this or anyone who has experienced either side of this and have you given more chances than 2?
Satu Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 Snip She text me "(me) *this has to stop. We are not getting back together and no amount of flowers or letter will change that. Im feeling harassed. Ive moved on and you need to find a way to deal with this that doesn't involve contact me" You should respect her wishes and leave her in peace. Any more approaches from you will just annoy her. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care. 1
Author Monkleyz Posted February 18, 2016 Author Posted February 18, 2016 Yeah I'm starting to see I haven't given her enough space since the break up and this is pretty much a carbon copy of what happened last time but I think we got back together so fast I'd expect the same this time. She even sent me a near copy of that message last time (were not getting back together give me space ect) and I respected her wishes then.
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