BC1980 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 If she didn't love me, she wouldn't spend 24 hours with me a day, she wouldn't confess her love for me daily, she wouldn't talk about us having a kid together, she wouldn't say we are soulmates if she didn't love me. Girls wouldn't say that if they didn't love you Actually, people can say all those things and not really love a person. People can say all types of things IN THE MOMENT but not really mean those things for the long haul. Sometimes, people say stuff because they want it to be true. She wants to move on from her ex, so she might be trying to convince herself that she loves you. Even if she weren't a rebound, saying that you are soulmates/want kids together/spending 24/7 together after 2 months is crazy behavior. I would be extremely skeptical of anyone who was saying these things 2 months in. You are not looking at her actions. She is still in contact with her ex (social media stalking, initiating texts and leaving voice mails). She has left you once and gone back to him. Posting you all over social media is another red flag. She is doing so for validation or to get back at her ex. This relationship is headed for a major crash and burn. All the signs are there, so it would be best to get out now. Personally, I could never tolerate a BF who is still texting and call an ex. I bet she would leave you cold if he wanted her back. 1
Droksie Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 [] Im giving you guys maximum of 2 months before you make a second thread about her leaving you liek nothing. NEVER listen to what a woman says, watch her actions not her words. From the posts i can clearly see you are already attached to her but know this - no matter what she says she doesn't love you, she is using you to forget her ex. 2
Author Daking123 Posted February 12, 2016 Author Posted February 12, 2016 [] Im giving you guys maximum of 2 months before you make a second thread about her leaving you liek nothing. NEVER listen to what a woman says, watch her actions not her words. From the posts i can clearly see you are already attached to her but know this - no matter what she says she doesn't love you, she is using you to forget her ex. I'm watching what she do and it's spending her time with me
Blanco Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Everyone should stop responding. OP clearly has things under control and only started this (and the other) thread about this relationship to show you dummies what it looks like to know you've found your soulmate after 11 minutes of dating. Stop hatin'! 1
quattrob Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Everyone should stop responding. OP clearly has things under control and only started this (and the other) thread about this relationship to show you dummies what it looks like to know you've found your soulmate after 11 minutes of dating. Stop hatin'! If that was the case, I'd rather be a dummy.
fireflywy Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Why did you seek out advice if you already have your mind made up? I hope it works out for you but there is a strong possibility you'll be back here posting about a breakup.
Author Daking123 Posted February 18, 2016 Author Posted February 18, 2016 I made a post last week about a girl I've been dating for 2 months. - she dumped her ex for me, we talked for a week then she went back to him - left him 2 days later, came back to me then left me 2 weeks laster for him - a month later she came back She I saw she was stalking his social media Calling him behind my back and texting him So for the past 3 days she has been texting him about "She's sorry" Called him "my love" "her baby" But was also saying she didn't want him back. I haven't broke up with her yet I'm trying to wait until she knows she wants me 100%
Redhead14 Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 I made a post last week about a girl I've been dating for 2 months. - she dumped her ex for me, we talked for a week then she went back to him - left him 2 days later, came back to me then left me 2 weeks laster for him - a month later she came back She I saw she was stalking his social media Calling him behind my back and texting him So for the past 3 days she has been texting him about "She's sorry" Called him "my love" "her baby" But was also saying she didn't want him back. I haven't broke up with her yet I'm trying to wait until she knows she wants me 100% You will be waiting for a long time . . . don't wait. Be good to yourself and let her go. Don't be her doormat/crutch. Move forward with your own life. Tell her that too. She will need a ton of time to move on from that guy. And, I'm not bashing her and saying she's some evil person. She's young, is/was in love and hurting. She's confused and needs time. Give her that by letting it go. She can't move on herself if you're letting her distract herself by using you as an emotional towel.
strawberryshortstack Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 She's happy. Its sad that people are so negative here. While I agree that people can be too negative, and agree that she may very well be happy *in this moment* - but two weeks after ending a three year relationship, she cannot possibly be ready for a meaningful new relationship. Eventually the blinders will come off and the OP will get hurt if he allows himself to become any more emotionally involved. This isn't negativity - this is realism combined with having been there personally, on both sides of the situation.
Redhead14 Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 While I agree that people can be too negative, and agree that she may very well be happy *in this moment* - but two weeks after ending a three year relationship, she cannot possibly be ready for a meaningful new relationship. Eventually the blinders will come off and the OP will get hurt if he allows himself to become any more emotionally involved. This isn't negativity - this is realism combined with having been there personally, on both sides of the situation. Oops, shystrawberry, I added to your post. I mean't to respond to the poster you addressed but I can't seem to get out of this one for some reason but . . . She's happy. Its sad that people are so negative here. -- SHE's happy, he isn't. Most of the "negative" posters here are mature, experienced daters and have had long-term relationships and have observed many dating scenarios. We can only give an OP the benefit of that knowledge and experience, it's up to them to decide to apply that advice. There is no point asking for advice if they aren't willing to consider it at least. And, it so happens that the OP has determined that us "haters" were right, yet, he still hasn't done what he knows he should do . . . that's what's sad. And, the bottom line is if an OP is unhappy, we support the OP, not the partner (unless, of course, it's obvious that the OP is playing a significant role in the problems being addressed here. That may actually often the case, things are left out sometimes conveniently). Nevertheless, in this case, all we see is his unhappiness. That's where the focus lies, not on the partner. 1
lilmissjava Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 My ex got into a new relationship less than a week after we broke up. FB official and everything. They broke up a few months later - and again a few months after that, now they live together, again. All this within a year. Some people can move on that fast. I for one couldn't.
OnlyHonesty Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 My ex got into a new relationship less than a week after we broke up. FB official and everything. They broke up a few months later - and again a few months after that, now they live together, again. All this within a year. Some people can move on that fast. I for one couldn't. The fact that they broke up so many times and their relationship resembled a yo-yo would suggest otherwise. 1
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