GunslingerRoland Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Like someone else mentioned 95% effective means 5 pregnancies out of 100 people using it for a year. Condoms would be pretty useless if they failed 5% of the time. Actually 5% is probably about the odds of getting pregnant with absolutely no contraceptives. A few things to think about though. Why are you moving in together? Most relationships where people move into together before getting married or engaged don't work out. Is it just for convenience? To save money? If the relationship is really important to you, then you should consider waiting. And if it's not, then you shouldn't live together in the first place. (After a couple of years you are common law married in most places)
ChickiePops Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Thanks for so many replies. I appreciate it Well we both are totally ok with using condom, however i suggested we do Condom+Pill to be super safe but she is unsure about it since there are lots of side effects to it(She doesnt have much knowledge about it yet, maybe just few misconceptions) I never heard about sponge, IUD. Will check them out. Can anyone tell me in brief what is exactly done in those? Regarding "what if it happens". Yes she has said she wont abort obviously since its illegal in her country and she doesnt want to do that since it will hurt the body in long term future So i guess i will just go with condom and keep using the brand i was using before(Durex). Has she never been to a gynecologist? Why haven't you guys educated yourselves about this if you're so scared? This is how people actually DO get pregnant. By having zero knowledge of how contraception works. If you guys are having sex, she needs to be making yearly visits to a gyno for checkups. Both of you need to take more responsibility for yourselves. Also the likelihood of any permanent damage from an abortion is minimal. The likelihood of permanent damage from having a baby when you're not ready is 100%. 1
stillafool Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Bottom line is you both need to use some form of birth control before you have sex.
salparadise Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Use condoms 100% of the time. That would be a start. If I took that advice, I'm sure that on my deathbed my one big regret would be never having experienced the full pleasure of being engulfed a hot, wet, willing vagina. That's one of many things I like about fifty year olds... inherent risk factor lower than condoms. OP, ask her to consider and consult with her doctor about an IUD. And tell'em to trim the damn string very, very short!
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 If I took that advice, I'm sure that on my deathbed my one big regret would be never having experienced the full pleasure of being engulfed a hot, wet, willing vagina. That's one of many things I like about fifty year olds... inherent risk factor lower than condoms. In the mean time, the STD's are going sky high in the retirement communities. 1
Gaeta Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 If I took that advice, I'm sure that on my deathbed my one big regret would be never having experienced the full pleasure of being engulfed a hot, wet, willing vagina. That's one of many things I like about fifty year olds... inherent risk factor lower than condoms. OP, ask her to consider and consult with her doctor about an IUD. And tell'em to trim the damn string very, very short! I was not telling him to use condoms 100% of the time for the rest of his life. C'mon. At this moment, she is not on any contraceptive, he has to use condoms 100% of the time. She sounds inexperienced. She needs to see her doctor and talk contraception with him/her. There are contraceptive pills now with little to no effect. There's the hormone patch, the hormone shot, diaphragm, name it. The IUD is not for everyone. My Gyno would not put an IUD to a young woman who never had a pregnancy. By the way I got pregnant with an IUD.
PogoStick Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 They give IUD to anyone in the US (even teens) and it's the most effective reversible contraception available. It's improved and safer than the IUD from 30 years ago. Don't be scared by old stories. It's meant to be kept in for years. The downside is the high initial cost because it's inserted by a Gyno. The upside is after that there is nothing to think about or remember on a daily basis like the pill. And, no systemic hormone use.
SoleMate Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) Condoms would be pretty useless if they failed 5% of the time. Actually 5% is probably about the odds of getting pregnant with absolutely no contraceptives. Interesting guess but quite wrong. Actual facts here: http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/pdf/contraceptive_methods_508.pdf Typical use of male condoms only, in a young fertile couple having regular intercourse, say 4 times a week, will result in pregnancy for 18% of those couple over the course of 1 year. Obviously, assumptions and individual circumstances vary. The typical pregnancy rate over the course of 1 year with no contraceptive use is 85%! https://www.arhp.org/Publications-and-Resources/Quick-Reference-Guide-for-Clinicians/choosing/failure-rates-table (Assumes a fertile couple in prime reproductive age having regular PIV with ejaculation.) Perfect condom use is explained here: http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/health-info/choosing-contraception-based-effectiveness/ It requires a lot of discipline and planning ahead, and commitment by both partners. Half of women between the ages of 15 and 44 in the United States experienced an unplanned pregnancy (source above). Pregnancy is a life-changing event. OP, get your gf to a doctor to get prescribed an effective method. There are so many great choices these days....effective and with minimal side effects. The worst side effect of all is an unwanted pregnancy, so please think carefully and only take advice from a qualified source. Edited February 20, 2016 by SoleMate no contraceptive rate
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