Is it wrong to be happy about his ex having a miscarriage?

[RileyBee]

My boyfriends ex miscarried their baby after one month. We haven't been together that long but when i heard he was going to have a baby with someone else i was overcome with jealousy. I wanted him to myself and be the one to give him something as special as a child. The thought of HER giving him that experience sickened me. So when he said she had a miscarriage i was thrilled. He's been kind of blah about it. I'm afraid he can see my mood change and knows that I'm happy about it. I'm trying to play it like i feel bad but I'm just so happy and feel like a weight has been lifted!

[AverageJoe1986]

My boyfriends ex miscarried their baby after one month. We haven't been together that long but when i heard he was going to have a baby with someone else i was overcome with jealousy. I wanted him to myself and be the one to give him something as special as a child. The thought of HER giving him that experience sickened me. So when he said she had a miscarriage i was thrilled. He's been kind of blah about it. I'm afraid he can see my mood change and knows that I'm happy about it. I'm trying to play it like i feel bad but I'm just so happy and feel like a weight has been lifted!

 

People are complicated and usually more selfish than they themselves know. I can understand that you may feel a sense of relief, but the lack of sympathy evidenced here for the woman who has had this happen to her is quite repulsive.

[Saracena]

I'm trying to play it like i feel bad but I'm just so happy and feel like a weight has been lifted!

 

 

Completely agree with AJ above. In addition, insincere and sneaky. Two qualities which I abhor and would be red flags for me.

[ZA Dater]

Never wish bad on people, simply wish them success.

[TheArtist]

I can understand why you would feel relief, but I'd definitely keep it to yourself. You will probably find that the feeling passes and you feel a massive sense of guilt creep in since this is probably one of the worst things that can happen to a woman. We can't always help how we feel so enjoy it while it lasts, but it might be worth looking into miscarriages to really get an idea what people go through.

[Lorenza]

Turn on your sense of empathy. Try to go through in your mind what it would feel like to lose a baby. Being happy about that woman's miscarriage is mostly damaging to you, because negativity of that sort always comes to haunt you in one way or another. Our thoughts dont go away, they always leave a mark.

[basil67]

Agree with the others. A sense of relief would be understandable, but feeling thrilled is downright wrong.

[joseb]

So I'm struggling a little with the maths here...how long are you and your boyfriend together, and how long ago did he split up with his ex?

[brothers343]

Just by the thought you had you have open a gateway to an unforseen future. A future that can deniably have serious ramifications. Don't ever smile at someones misfortune, especially when it's as serious as this.

[Gaeta]

So your boyfriend got his ex pregnant while in a relationship with you?

[sandylee1]

I totally understand your relief..but don't crack open the champagne in front of him.

[soleilesquire]

In answer to your topic question:

yes, it's actually pretty sad

[Toodaloo]

The loss of a child that is wanted is a terrible thing.

 

However I am glad for the childs sake it will not be coming into this world with all this mess.

 

Listen to your boyfriend. Hold him, take care of him.

 

I know you are understandably happy however it is his child that he has lost. Respect that.

[jen1447]

Is it wrong to be happy about his ex having a miscarriage?

 

Yes. Yes it is.

[stillafool]

I can't imagine anyone being happy about the death of a baby. My, my he may find out your true character and go back to her.

[Methodical]

My boyfriends ex miscarried their baby after one month. We haven't been together that long but when i heard he was going to have a baby with someone else i was overcome with jealousy. I wanted him to myself and be the one to give him something as special as a child. The thought of HER giving him that experience sickened me. So when he said she had a miscarriage i was thrilled. He's been kind of blah about it. I'm afraid he can see my mood change and knows that I'm happy about it. I'm trying to play it like i feel bad but I'm just so happy and feel like a weight has been lifted!

 

Something is off. Your bf's ex miscarried after ONE month. You haven't been together long. What...2 - 3 weeks max? And in those 2 -3 weeks you know he's the one and you want to have his child?

 

You're immature and have obviously never been thru something as devastating as losing a child, born or not!

[Maggie4]

I give you credit for asking the question. And you probably already know yes, it is wrong. There are people in the same situation, who'd be secretly happy about the miscarriage, but pretending to be sad, faking it so naturally that even themselves are not aware. They never questioned themselves or feel any guilt, because they never faced their true feelings, let alone write it down and post it on the internet.

 

As for his ex, there is a good chance she will get pregnant again very soon. Something to do with the hormones right after a miscarriage, it happens a lot. It's like the body immediately wants to try again. And your bf may want to as well. A shared misfortune can be the strongest bond. So sctually there is no reason for you to be happy about this.