newmoon Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 i wear lingerie every single night whether i am alone or with someone, it;s just my preferred sleep style. lingerie can have a numbing effect... if they see you in it every single night it's not as special you should probably not pick it yourself, allow your bf to select what he wants to see you in.
xxoo Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 I am open to all advice. I can see where this was not the best of choice. Lets say I wanted to try something more 'classy'. You have suggestions? What about a black teddy with garters? Personally, when I'm in this mood, I just do the garter belt and stocking and skip the rest 1
DivorcedDad123 Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Sit down with him and , in a matter of fact way, start shopping for lingerie on your phone. Then ask him to shop with you online. You'll get a good idea of what he likes. 1
Author Gaeta Posted February 19, 2016 Author Posted February 19, 2016 I am very limited in my choice because of my breasts size. Designers think because you're a size medium than your breasts have to be medium too. I need something seamless. Till my next finding it will be tank top and my favorite mini-mouse boxer pants. 1
Author Gaeta Posted February 19, 2016 Author Posted February 19, 2016 Sit down with him and , in a matter of fact way, start shopping for lingerie on your phone. Then ask him to shop with you online. You'll get a good idea of what he likes. That's a good idea, thanks 1
phineas Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 Their nice to see a woman in but honestly I cant remember the last time I slept next to a woman not naked. But, i'm not living with a woman. These are women I was dating so if they spent the night we would have sex then sleep naked & have sex again in the morning.
MissBee Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 My point is not that he looked at me 2 minutes only. My point is he turned off the lights. We never turn off the lights during intimacy. I don't want to sound like I'm giving a simplistic answer...but at the end of the day our thoughts are just our thoughts and may have absolutely nothing to do with his thoughts. If he is your boyfriend, just ask him if he liked it or not or what...that will provide significantly more clarity. Why he turned off the lights, we can only guess, so just ask lol. Maybe it meant nothing or maybe it meant something...communicate with him. In my experience, sure, lingerie is appreciated, but if a man likes you and is attracted to you they just want to see your body and have sex with you, regardless of what you wear. I do have sexy underwear and a few lingerie items which come in handy for teasing but when it comes down to it I haven't noticed many men to be significantly caught up in that. 2
Els Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 On one occasion he mentioned he liked nice lingerie. I said I was gonna get something really nice when I have time. He said No, he found me in my old pj's he keeps me in my old pj's!. This is so confusing! And contradictory! Why don't you ask him what on earth he means by that? I think lots of guys can take or leave lingerie - my guy likes it when I put it on, sure, but he seems to like it every bit as much when I don't! But your guy turning off the lights is a rather odd reaction. Honestly it sounds to me like he just didn't know what to do, you put on something sexy and he didn't do anything for you, so he was trying to make it look more romantic by making things dark??? But that's a huge guess. Yeah, I think you should just ask him.
candie13 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Well, perhaps his idea of nice lingerie and your idea of nice lingerie are not similar. Some men are intimidated by fancy or too provocative / aggressive lingerie - remember Chandler from Friends who was terrified of bras ? I dunno ... If it ain't broken, don't fix it, in my humble opinion. And if you want to turn the heat on, just... ask him what he might fancy. Maybe it's having sex standing up against the wall, maybe it's something as easy as wearing a pair of high heels in bed... Just talk to him. Some people may be a bit funny when it comes to stepping out of their usual sexual routine. I think sexuality is to be shared & enjoyed, so talk to him, you'll get an idea of his turn ons and how to slowly bring those details to surface. Just ... really, be kind & smooth & non confrontational. He doesn't have to like your nightie... I still think it's cool You made a step in that direction. It's only wise to readapt your sex strategy based in your partner's reaction, to make sure You both enjoy it. Sex with lights off is not a step forward, it's a step backwards. It looks like he might enjoy to discover your body / reveal your body when You are wearing regular clothes rather then when You show off your body in a nightie that leaves nothing to the imagination. It's all in one's head... Learn to read what his sources of pleasure are.. Maybe it's not clothes, but positions. Maybe it's scent - You could play with body cream while staying in your old (obviously sexy) pjs. Maybe... it's toys... Go with an open mind and accept the obvious without feeling hurt or rejected: that nightie just doesn't do it for him... Have fun exploring
Author Gaeta Posted February 20, 2016 Author Posted February 20, 2016 Some unexpected development. We were talking on the phone last night and he said we should visit a sex shop this weekend, for fun. I said sure. Now I am really, really, curious about what he's gonna check in there !! I was starting to think he was conservative but now.... 3
phineas Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Some unexpected development. We were talking on the phone last night and he said we should visit a sex shop this weekend, for fun. I said sure. Now I am really, really, curious about what he's gonna check in there !! I was starting to think he was conservative but now.... For your sake I hope it isn't a strap-on for you to wear. 1
AMJ Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 On Valentine evening I put one on. When he sees me he says: OH that's very nice! You got this for me?? He kind of look at me not knowing what to do then he turns around AND TURNS THE LIGHTS OFF!! We NEVER had sex the lights off, lol !! Thoughts? Oh no! That would make me really upset! I probably would have asked him about it right then and there, honestly. Maybe he didn't like your lingerie... 1
WaitingForBardot Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 For me, good-quality lingerie, made from good materials (the key), accomplishes two things: The visual and the tactile. The visual component is primarily that it makes my wife feel sexy (psychological), the tactile component is that it makes my wife feel sexy (tactile). Given that I'm like most men and driven through the visual, the visual might well overwhelm the tactile leaving it to a significantly subordinate role during sex. Perhaps turning off the lights gives it an opportunity to be in the drivers seat for awhile. 1
Author Gaeta Posted February 20, 2016 Author Posted February 20, 2016 Ha, ha, here comes the kink. Have fun! I pray he doesn't have a weird fetish lol 1
Author Gaeta Posted February 20, 2016 Author Posted February 20, 2016 For your sake I hope it isn't a strap-on for you to wear. haha thanks for the laugh. I hope so too !!
Otter2569 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 I find shorts or panties and tank tops very sexy. Some lingerie can be a little over the top and may not b his style. Ask him what he likes and do some shopping together - win/win!
blueskyday Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 (edited) I've been with guys who love stripper lingerie, guys who like see through innocent baby doll nighties, guys who want white tanks and no bra with little sleep shirts, and guys who like simply naked. I vote for silky slip style short nighties. Think 1930s Hollywood. Some have a low scoop back and neck, and they show off a woman's figure quite nicely. Most men love the simplicity and the incredible feel of the material. Plus, they are comfy, and are quick to come off. I wear them all the time around the house with a short silk dressing robe. I sleep in the nude, and that's what most guys love. Skin. �� Edited February 21, 2016 by blueskyday
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