2005tahoe Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 Ok, I have been getting conflicting info on initiating contact after getting a girls phone number from OLD. I send 1 followup text after getting the number just to say HI and leave it at that unless they respond with a question, so, thats that. But I have been talking to 3 different women from OLD. Names are changed: Jennifer: Met OLD texted the first day, asked to meet up but she had plans for the weekend, we first made contact on the thursday before. No big deal, right? She wants to meet that same night, exactly 2 hours after first contact, but I already had plans. Then I suggest another time, she said she had plans all weekend, ok, so I go NC. Today I get a text saying "why havent I heard from you?" I told her that I didnt think she was interested anymore so I didnt try to reschedule our first meet after being turned down twice. Asked a final time for tonigh or tomorrow. Tonight she had a dinner to go to and havent heard about tomorrow yet. No big deal, right? Karen: Met on OLD, Text a good bit, she was going on vacay the next day but still texted. I initiated contact most of the days but she carried on conversation. I sent a message one night and she didnt respond, so I didnt contact her for the next day, on the second day she text me with a "hey" and we pick up conversation. Its happened again, I sent her a message monday night about still being awake, still no contact. Brittney: Met OLD, hit it off well, lots in common, texted the same day, called her that night and talked for an hour. Said our goodnights and the next day texted her after lunch saying "I hope you are having a good day" she responded with it being a rough day, one of her students died the night before, I completely understand the stress and wished my condolences, sent about two more text between each other and the last message was me telling her that I hope she was going to get some rest after she got off of work. Nothing since. SO!!! My dilemma is I get two different stories about making contact. 1) I have been told that if I want to talk to them send them a text or even call, depends on where I am with them. I have been told that the MAN always initiates contact. I have done that before and looked needy, so, I have not done that with these. 2) I have been told that if they are interested that they will initiate contact or respond to the last call/text or even reach out too. With all 3 women, the last message sent has been one from me, I dont send multiple text or call multiple times, I only do it once. The more I try to understand, the more I am puzzled. Communication or contact shouldnt be that difficult. I am looking for advice on what you would do with each individual woman. Please help?
bu2002 Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 Ok, I have been getting conflicting info on initiating contact after getting a girls phone number from OLD. I send 1 followup text after getting the number just to say HI and leave it at that unless they respond with a question, so, thats that. Once you have obtained a phone number from messaging them online, then ask them out. Send an initial text just to break the ice, preferably something funny just to get them in a positive mood. Maybe a reference to something y'all chatted about online. Once she responds, the second text can first attempt to coordinate. Have a time and place in mind. I would have two different nights as option for her: "Hey, I'd like to get together. Let's meet at XYZ for drinks on either Day A or Day B. Let me know which day works best for you". That's it. The other chit chat is unnecssary and prolongs the end goal.
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