staggerlee71 Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 (edited) Just looking for some feed back. Ex girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. It was a sad break because we both felt like we didn't know why. So I went no contact. About a month of NC, she text me during the big storm to make sure I was safe and to say she started watching one of my shows and is caught up. She always made a point that she wanted to watch with me. Replied cordially and the texting was flirty. NC for 3 more weeks and I saw her at her job, my old job. Spoke with her the night before on the phone so when I saw her it wouldn't be weird and because its her current job. Convo was about how she missed me and a little on what went wrong. but also how I need more than her. Basically we were both playing our relationship so cool that we avoided all communication and needs. dated around a year. dysfunctional I know. So I saw her at her office and was greeted with a huge smile and hugs. long hugs, in the middle of the office. When I left, same hugs but add a kiss. In the middle of the office. Something she was so against when I worked there. Anyway, I asked her to meet for a date Saturday and she is excited to go. My confusion...she is online dating. Ive known for months. I saw her profile. it truly doesn't bother me, in fact it tells me she has nothing going strong cause she is seeing me. However, I know she is dating. bet she is tonight as this her night without kids. Of course I am online too and have something going. I am going out with her because I have feelings for her but they are in check. 3 months in check. I am going to go have fun, enjoy her company because I know I will, we will flirt because we are already. I text to set up date and It was littered with flirty banter. I am confident in myself right now and she sees that. I feel confident in myself. safe to say we are both confused. My question... Does she see this as opportunistic, taking advantage of me cause she knows I love her, or is she curious? more to the point, am I coming across as having little self respect? desperate. I'm not interested in playing hardarse. I really just want to have some fun. There is plenty of electricity. I just don't want to be lumped into ego boosting guy like the guys she is chatting up online dating Edited February 18, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited for paragraphs ~ V
PegNosePete Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 It seems to me that she is checking out her other options while coming back to good old Mr Reliable Doormat in the meantime. As soon as someone better comes along you'll be history. You shouldn't be dating others while you still have feelings for your ex. That isn't fair on anyone.
stillafool Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Well you were the one who went NC not knowing really why you broke up. What's a girl to do? She is perfectly right to start dating others. What is wrong with that isn't that what people do when they break up?
loveiswar101 Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 Basically you are not together. There is nothing wrong with dating and both of you keeping your options open. My issue here is why are you seeing her. There are can only be two reasons for this. a. you are over her and seeing her as a friend. Unfortunately this is a small lie as I get the feeling you still have feelings for her and friendship is not an option. b. you want to get her back. This is the obvious reason (was posted in second chances). With this you have to decide is it good for you, do not get to invested here as it looks like she is just testing the water. Who know what she wants, it really what you want. It could be a slippery road my friend to go down. I just want you to understand the consequences if this date goes pair shaped and you knock yourself back.
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