Apparition Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 What is love to you? Simple question. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mg4514 Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 I'm convinced that true love can only be described as the bond between a parent and child. (Of course, not all parents and children share this bond). Any other relationship is a temporary agreement to tolerate one another. Sometimes this agreement lasts a lifetime, though this is increasingly rare. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 What is love to you? Simple question. It is many things, but this is one part of it: "Love is total commitment to a persons wellbeing." 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Brando Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 Simple question? I think it's wanting the best for someone and wanting them to find happiness no matter what choice they make in life and who they find their happiness with. Along with showing respect and understanding no matter what journey they choose in life... Redundant sentences?? Lol not a simple question btw... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Brando Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 I'm convinced that true love can only be described as the bond between a parent and child. (Of course, not all parents and children share this bond). Any other relationship is a temporary agreement to tolerate one another. Sometimes this agreement lasts a lifetime, though this is increasingly rare. I agree. Fits my definition. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Apparition Posted February 18, 2016 Author Share Posted February 18, 2016 I think it is very simple because it comes naturally and you feel it there waiting to explode out of your body and into the person you love. You want to surround them with everything you have and give them your all. For me, love is about purity. It's about being there for the person whose bad qualities register into your brain yet you still think they are beautiful and you still want them in your life, you want to love them, to see them grow into the best version of themselves they can be, to support them through the most difficult times they can face as an individual. For them to turn those bad qualities into positives. Pure love isn't just "there". It takes time to build, the obstacles you face as a couple will test your strength, your ability to survive in the relationship and how pure the love you both have for each other is. It is like dirty water. You wish to purify it so you can drink it and sometimes we make the mistake of drinking the dirty water before we purify it. Just like love, it takes work to make it pure. We take the person with their baggage, their bad qualities and most of the time we brush them under the carpet until the honeymoon phase is over. Then the relationship is no longer enjoyable because those issues each individual has comes into the relationship to play. Whether it's jealousy, anger, commitment issues, a tendency to cheat or it could be something so small like the fact you both do not match sexually. So what do you do? Do you end the relationship? Or do you stick around because you love this person and want to make it work? Well, if the water is still dirty, do you drink it? Or do you create a filter to purify it? I think you get my point here. I am trying to say that I believe true love takes work and the end result is pure love. It takes a lot of work to get there and when someone is so eager to throw you away because they don't want to stick around for the bad, well, f*ck them. It is their loss for losing the person who was willing to stay and make things work out for the better in the end. You deserve PURE love. Someone who will stand by you no matter what to ensure you make the relationship work. And it is simple because you either do or you don't. Don't drink the dirty water. Drink the purified water. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 Well certainly a complex question, with many different "right" answers I think. I like the above analogy, although I reject the notion of "pure" when it comes to human, and our emotions. I feel my boyfriend and I love each other. After 14 years together, we are well past the doe eyed honeymoon phase. We have our faults, our weaknesses, our regrets - but our love for each other keeps us binded, through the highs and the lows. We have been through some real tests. Not just fincial disasters, mental and physical health issues, but we have both cheated as well. We have had moments of "I love you so much - if something else will make you happier, I will set you free" That's a hard one. One we have both uttered it... And the response has always been that I want nothing else to face this world - with you by my side. And it really came from a place of love. When I said it, I had no idea how I could possibly continue living without him, but if I wasn't the one to make him happy - I would break my heart so that he could be happier. And he has done the same, offered to sacrifice his heart and happiness, if it would be better for me. But the answer is always that we are what each other need. That we enrich each others lives. And that our love is so strong, we are able to find forgiveness, we are able to find strength in each other. Love beyond the flaws, the hurt and the lows. We have never intentionally hurt each other. And we know that. We know that the love is there, and that we are humans and capable wrongs - but love prevails. The beauty overshines the darkness. Together we are better than apart. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Raina314 Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 Aziz Ansari: Love, Online Dating, Modern Romance and the Internet This is a long article, but it sums up everything I believe about what love means. For me, it's not undying passion or perfect compatibility. It's recognizing that you work better in a unit with someone and devoting yourself to building that unit to be as strong and as mutually beneficial as it can be. That's it. Link to post Share on other sites
OneLov Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 I think it's many things. But one cliché I often hear is love is totally selfless. That's something I think "true" love is not. Putting someone's needs constantly before your own is unhealthy and the relationship is unbalanced. I think true love is like having a really great career. It doesn't feel like a job and you enjoy the hell out of it. It brings you much satisfaction and motivates you to accomplish more. I think its the ability to inspire another; to make him/her believe and realize his/her potential. To believe so much in yourself and that other person that you are willing to make sacrifices for that inspiration. It fills you up with such great feelings you can't help but inspiring greatness in others. True love is not needy, jealous, trifling, or fickle. Link to post Share on other sites
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