five2nine Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 How long is normal to wait until you have the exclusive/relationship talk? I have verbalized that I want to be more than a few random dates but he seems hesitant/not interested. He keeps talking to me though but I feel like it has scaled back from his enthusiasm in the beginning. I'm not sure if I'm wasting my time or if I just need to wait a longer. We've been talking for almost 7 weeks but met almost 3 weeks ago. My friends tell me go slow but I do like him. I'm worried he doesn't feel it on the same level.
PogoStick Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 That's not much time for feelings to develop. Pressuring him too soon may cause him to end all chances of a future relationship. 1
katiegrl Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 How long is normal to wait until you have the exclusive/relationship talk? I have never felt the need to have that type of "talk" in my relationships.... but I think the general consensus from reading these boards is around three months. Three WEEKS seems really soon.... but I suppose that would depend on how much time you spent together and how close you've become in that three weeks' time. The fact he's pulling away now is NOT a good sign though.
Author five2nine Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 I think the general consensus from reading these boards is around three months. The fact he's pulling away now is NOT a good sign though. Yeah... okay thanks
smackie9 Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 When a guy is really into a girl, the attraction goes off like popcorn in a microwave. If things are not heating up and getting more exciting by now....it's a fail. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 It varies from person to person but if you are sensing reluctance from him 3 weeks of knowing each other is too fast for him. If it's too long for you, you are not compatible. Personally I'd give it some more time but I would have the talk before you have sex.
Miss Peach Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 In my relationships it's been between 1-3 months. Most of my exes and current BF told me they knew pretty early on though. I want to know before I have sex. I agree that if things aren't picking up it might not be a good sign. My BF didn't pick up though and he said he knew after the second date he wanted more from me but wanted to make sure he didn't scare me away. It's difficult to tell much after 3 weeks IMO.
Shanex Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 (edited) When a guy is really into a girl, the attraction goes off like popcorn in a microwave. If things are not heating up and getting more exciting by now....it's a fail. That's true, but the other side of the coin is these RS can fade away just as fast. It boils down to many factors though, age, how often they meet up... three weeks is a short time anyway. Edited February 18, 2016 by Shanex
Gaeta Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 All that time you talked together before meeting doesn't count. So you met 3 weeks ago. How often do you see each other? Exclusivity depends on several factors, one of them is age. Younger people tend to date longer before addressing exclusivity. In our 40s and 50s it's different. My boyfriend and I talked about exclusivity on our 5th date. The man I was dating before him asked me to date exclusively on our 3rd date. I personally would not date more than 5 dates (1 month) before talking exclusivity. If a man met me 5 times and he still doesn't know if he only wants to date me then I let him go. Dating exclusively is not a marriage, or an engagement, it's just an agreement to not see other people while you get to know each other. If someone runs at that, let them run. 2
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