How my dumped GF got me back.

[cornbread103]

Gonna write this as quickly as i can. There isn't any more info here. Your circumstances are NOT different to anyone elses. Just follow this n you will have the best chance.

 

1. I broke up with her for betraying my trust. I really hurt her the way i did it. She was in pieces. She text me apologising i was in NO mood to argue so there was no point contacting me. Everything she said made it worse. in the end she just said sorry and i will leave you alone.

 

2. She wrote out emails to send but never did. She was in pieces but decided to leave me alone.

 

3. From my point of view i expected her to contact me. I was 100% broken up but when she didnt contact me i started to wonder what i had lost.

 

4. Two weeks later i see a pic of her looking v attractive on IG. It was the only thing i didnt have her blocked on. I started doubting my choice.

 

5. I start to feel bad and miss her. I write out a text to send but can't. As the days go on and she doesn't contact me i think shes moving on so i feel it's now or never. I decide to text her.

 

6. She replies but sounds quite mad still, but agrees that we need to talk.

 

7. We talk for 3 hours. She doesnt break down or actually give anything away. The more she is not telling me she wants me back, the more i suddenly decide i do want her back.

 

8. In the end i finally get it out of her that she wants to try again. She apologies prefusely, it comes from the right place. After a few hours of not knowing what is going on, i'm happy to hear that and agree to take things real slow and try again.

 

That is the only chance you have. Have self control. The dumpee will take a few weeks to realise what they have done. Give them that space, wait and take that time to move on n look at if u actually do want them back.

 

She played it perfectly and made me realise what i was doing. If she had kept on at me it would have driven me far far away.

[cornbread103]

One more thing i want to add. She got on with her life.

I heard through a friend that she was leaving town and had a pretty amazing career option come up. That also pushed me into making a move faster.

 

Don't worry about making sure they know about stuff. If they do want to know, they will find out.

 

This is not guaranteed to work obviously. The main thing is NC, make all the steps to move on like she did and have self control.

[Brando]

Ya..you're a rare case and there are a million variables and most of those variables point in the direction of people not reconciling.

[cornbread103]

Definitely not saying it will 100% happen. But that will give you the best chance. Go NC, move on, stay attractive, dont put any pressure on.

 

Same old advice. Just want to reitterate that it can work

[Brando]

Definitely not saying it will 100% happen. But that will give you the best chance. Go NC, move on, stay attractive, dont put any pressure on.

 

Same old advice. Just want to reitterate that it can work

 

Correct. I agree.

[Brando]

I've done similar things. I broke my GF's trust at the time and she broke it off with me. I sent her something like "thank's for the memories, I respect your decision and have learned a lot from our time together." A week or so later we were back together and life was good.

 

So, it's much more possible if it is a heat of the moment type breakup IMO. I think most cases on here the break up was more calculated and one partner has fallen out of love. In that case nothing is bringing them back.

 

I just hate for anyone to read your story and hold on to hope where there should be none. Anything is possible, but hope kills healing...

 

Not knocking your post or anything....people should read and take what they can from your experience. Thanks for sharing.

[cornbread103]

True yea. I think a lot of times, especially with girls. They have made their mind up to break it off months, sometimes years before they do. And when they finally do break it off, they are over it and whatever you do, it won't work.

 

With guys we can be more explosive and reactive. It took me two weeks to cool down from everything. I needed that time.

 

But yea, this is no way guaranteed but i jus wanted to show that NC and focusing on you is the best way to get through it. You will never win by having contact with them or being scared to break away

[mightycpa]

I was 100% broken up but when she didnt contact me i started to wonder what i had lost.

Just wait until this rears it's ugly head again:

I broke up with her for betraying my trust.

Then you'll have wasted everybody's time.

[ilovemefirst]

Yeah it works when your relationship was not toxic. My ex broke up with me, because he thought i was too boring in the sack..seriously? We had a perfect relationship, and that was his dealbreaker. Well of course imoved on with whatever self respect i had left and moved on. I was much happier without him, and i guess that bothered him. He came back and i showed him where the door was!

[darkbloom]

So wait, you never worked out the issues from her betraying your trust that started the whole breakup in the first place?

 

Yikes

[BeFierce]

Gonna write this as quickly as i can. (I'll even write it quicker than you lol

 

1. I broke up with her for betraying my trust.

2. Two weeks later i see a pic of her looking v attractive on IG. It was the only thing i didnt have her blocked on. I started doubting my choice.

 

3. I decide to text her.

 

4. She replies but sounds quite mad still,

 

5. In the end i finally get it out of her that she wants to try again

She played it perfectly and made me realise what i was doing.

-FIN-

 

1. She made it known that she can't be loyal, and you broke up.

2.She fixes her hair up and uses a filter on Instagram. That makes you aroused.

3.You initiate the talk, and overlook her trust issues, cuz of her pro filtering skills

4.She's the one who wronged you and she gets mad

5. You take the "prize" back, cuz her Instagram photos made you realize what you were doing.

 

 

WTH brah? lol

[BeFierce]

Just wait until this rears it's ugly head again:

Then you'll have wasted everybody's time.

 

This is the first time I'm completely agreeing with you on everything. lollll I never thought I'd see this day lolll

[Brando]

This is the first time I'm completely agreeing with you on everything. lollll I never thought I'd see this day lolll

 

Oh.... I read it wrong...I thought he broke her trust.

 

So you dumped her, saw her looking fly on IG and texted her. She apologized and you took her back. Lol come on now.

 

Shoulda stayed broken up.

Edited February 18, 2016 by Brando

[Brando]

Oh.... I read it wrong...I thought he broke her trust.

 

So you dumped her, saw her looking fly on IG and texted her. She apologized and you took her back. Lol come on now.

 

Shoulda stayed broken up.

 

I don't know. I'm confused somewhere. Good luck...

[mightycpa]

This is the first time I'm completely agreeing with you on everything. lollll I never thought I'd see this day lolll

Well, you know.... even a stopped clock is right twice a day.

 

(BTW, you're the clock).

[kztar]

This is GOOD stuff, however from personal experience, girls stick around but when we are gone we are gone. My ex ex still contacts me because I was his college sweetheart 7 years ago and he did me dirty, played me and all this college "fun stuff". I sure loved and cared for the guy but those times are over. I entertain him sometimes for my own personal fun but I would NEVER ever get back with him. He is a pure JOKE lol.

 

So to those guys who are trying to get back with their exes, just make sure that the girl didn't get to her final breaking point because by then, NOTHING will bring her back. She will prefer being single even if you are the last man on the planet. LOL

[BeFierce]

so true kztar when we have reached breaking point-we are gone-gone with the wind. lolll but i still wouldnt entertain him theres much more fun stuff to do for ur enjoyment.

Edited February 18, 2016 by BeFierce