jmsgerald Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 Hi everyone, I am having a hard time doing NC with this woman i have a daughter with.I really need any advice I can get here.The baby is just over a month old.I only want to involve in the child's life without any drama of the mother.I am just wondering how to go about this. Thanks
stillafool Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 I don't know anything about this but can you maybe have her mother or sister deliver the baby to you for visitation? All I can think of is a go between person to help you.
Brando Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 It's tough. For a while it should be like a business arrangement. Schedule a pickup, meet for the pickup, exchange any information necessary about your child, skip exchanging small talk or any info about things that do not pertain to your child and walk away. I broke up with the mother of my child a few years back and she did this to me. For a while she made everything very business like. Fortunately for both of us and our little girl we have managed to become great friends. She is actually helping me out with a breakup I am going through at the moment haha. I don't know your history with this girl or anything about either of you. Just keep it structured, short, simple and about your child. Maybe ask family to help in the exchange?? Eventually when you are healed I would consider having some kind of working coparent relationship with her. It has made my life a whole lot easier. 1
stillafool Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 OP, how can we help you if you don't come back?
Author jmsgerald Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 I am sorry.I am at work.I just used my personal laptop to send the message.Let me know what question or information you may need regarding this situation.I must tell you that i really dont wanna deal with this woman anymore.I am even contemplating just leave and not bother with the child anymore.I am not the type that sit around and feel bitter about things.
Author jmsgerald Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 It's tough. For a while it should be like a business arrangement. Schedule a pickup, meet for the pickup, exchange any information necessary about your child, skip exchanging small talk or any info about things that do not pertain to your child and walk away. I broke up with the mother of my child a few years back and she did this to me. For a while she made everything very business like. Fortunately for both of us and our little girl we have managed to become great friends. She is actually helping me out with a breakup I am going through at the moment haha. I don't know your history with this girl or anything about either of you. Just keep it structured, short, simple and about your child. Maybe ask family to help in the exchange?? Eventually when you are healed I would consider having some kind of working coparent relationship with her. It has made my life a whole lot easier. Thanks.I like your idea.We were together for 2 years.I wanted to marry her before but i notice that she is way too aggressive for me.Any time she couldnt get her way,there would be issue and attitude to deal with.And i am reasonable in my interaction with her.I always put my foot down once she was asking for asinine demands.That always leads to argument. Look,when i am dealing with people regardless of who they are to me,i use my head,not my heart.I let my head rule my heart. She couldnt stand that.She would yell and all these tanturums but i dont budge. She broke it up.I cut her off immediately.I dont beg people to be with me.I treat people with respect but hey i dont want drama at all.
Author jmsgerald Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 OP, how can we help you if you don't come back? See my response below .And thanks
LifeNomad Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 the best and safest way is going thru the child support/custody process. That is assuming you are 100% sure you are not getting back with her. If you guys are still maybe talking it our or thinking of working it out maybe wait a few weeks to see what happens If you see no progress or are sure it wont happen, unfortunately going thru the child support/custody process might be the best way. This way its court ordered and she cannot deny or dispute the days/times she is to be with you. Since the baby is only 1 month old however im not sure how or what kind of schedule you could get
LifeNomad Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 It's tough. For a while it should be like a business arrangement. Schedule a pickup, meet for the pickup, exchange any information necessary about your child, skip exchanging small talk or any info about things that do not pertain to your child and walk away. I broke up with the mother of my child a few years back and she did this to me. For a while she made everything very business like. Fortunately for both of us and our little girl we have managed to become great friends. She is actually helping me out with a breakup I am going through at the moment haha. I don't know your history with this girl or anything about either of you. Just keep it structured, short, simple and about your child. Maybe ask family to help in the exchange?? Eventually when you are healed I would consider having some kind of working coparent relationship with her. It has made my life a whole lot easier. Hi Brando sorry to ask but are you the one breaking up with yoru current gf/partner? the reason I ask is cuz I have been thinking of breaking up with mine but I don't know how, and I feel the only person that can really understand what im feeling would be my ex since she broke up with me and probably felt how I feel now, just no way I could ever ask her for advice about that
Brando Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 Hi Brando sorry to ask but are you the one breaking up with yoru current gf/partner? the reason I ask is cuz I have been thinking of breaking up with mine but I don't know how, and I feel the only person that can really understand what im feeling would be my ex since she broke up with me and probably felt how I feel now, just no way I could ever ask her for advice about that Don't be sorry to ask. Start a new thread...explain your situation and have everyone give you their 2 cents. I will give mine then.
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