d0nnivain Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 Toodaloo So happy it ended up being most positive then you expected. Are you going to cancel the date with the other fellow? Perhaps if these two don't work out, share in your profile that you iron sheets. While I too love the feel of crisp hotel sheets, I'm too darn lazy to iron sheets. Any man who wants to feel cherished ought to be thrilled to find a woman who cares about such details. 4
road Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 Its not that they are eager - that is great! Its the assuming I am off dating loads of other blokes and that if I am busy then clearly I must be out with some other guy. Its the tone and phrasing. "Oh are you up to anything nice?" would have been fine. "Oh are you going off on a date with another bloke" really isn't. Makes me feel as though I have to justify myself when actually I am doing nothing of the sort and am volunteering in a soup kitchen! Oh anything nice? Is him being sneaky asking is there competition. Oh you have a date? Is him being direct if there is competition. As a man I do not want to date a woman that is multi dating. If I like her still after the 1st date I will want a 2nd date soon and if she wants to keep seeing me after the 2nd date she will have to be exclusive. What can I say, men do not like to share their toys. 1
LoveRefreshed Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 So long as I don't see a post in a few weeks/months from you complaining about a jealous boyfriend, I will remain vindicated. Glad you decided to not be defensive and give it a shot! Like I said, there is two reasons I can think of that are fair- are you multidating- i.e. do I need to concerned with safey (sexual/physical from jealous other guys), can I multidate without concern of her becoming jealous, or is she multidating because I'm going to step aside if so. 1
AnnaGem Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 I wouldn't go on the date. I think it was extremely inappropriate of him to ask you that question...even if it appeared to be some endearing level of insecurity. In my experiences to date, any person that has been endearingly insecure right off the bat, has resulted in being dramatic and controlling down the road. Follow your gut and cancel the date. Don't worry about what others think.
AverageJoe1986 Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 I wouldn't go on the date. I think it was extremely inappropriate of him to ask you that question...even if it appeared to be some endearing level of insecurity. In my experiences to date, any person that has been endearingly insecure right off the bat, has resulted in being dramatic and controlling down the road. Follow your gut and cancel the date. Don't worry about what others think. All she needs is a DeLorean, a flux capacitor and enough road to get up to 88 miles per hour. 3
AnnaGem Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 All she needs is a DeLorean, a flux capacitor and enough road to get up to 88 miles per hour. serves me right for reading only 3/4 of the thread! 3
dispatch3d Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 You'd think after one girl flipped at him he wouldn't ask the same question to a different girl he barely knows. Anyhow glad it went well, told you 1 hr>1 text!
neowulf Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 I know you will all say so don't go. Problem is I am a woman of my word and I said I would so now I feel I must. Urgh. Sometimes dating just sucks. Agreeing to go on a date isn't some binding contract. If your gut tells you this is a waste of time, then bail. You don't owe a complete stranger anything. So long as you don't go and stand him up (pet peeve), I don't see the issue here. People need to get over their sense of entitlement. It's just a date. No one's picking out curtains. Enjoy your movie! *edit* BAD NEOWULF! READ THE ENTIRE THREAD BEFORE COMMENTING! Sorry Toodaloo Glad it worked out. 5
Author Toodaloo Posted February 19, 2016 Author Posted February 19, 2016 BAD NEOWULF! READ THE ENTIRE THREAD BEFORE COMMENTING! Sorry Toodaloo Glad it worked out. Don't worry Neo - I do it all the time! Now never mind enough road how do I get this wretched De'Lorean to stop breaking down so I CAN get to 88 miles an hour... I tell you it should have been a Mondeo... much more reliable... Doc shoulda listened to me! 2
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