kendahke Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 (edited) hey guys i'll try to sum it up as much i can i've been with my gf over a year now we broke up twice before, so this is our third try if you like to call it like that. Anyway she used to get upset with me for really unreasonable stuff like going out with my friends or getting busy in collage... and i always say sorry-i don't mean it-for everything just calm her down a lil bit. Two weeks ago she got mad at me because i didn't reply to her text and told me that i don't deserve her :/ that got me really frustrated and i told her i had enough putting up to this and she should grow up and stop crying for silly stuff, now she is cold towards me and told me that she really loves me but what i said hurt her so bad although i've apologized a million times. yesterday she said that she will forgive me but she needs me to behave well and talk to her more often but when i ever text her she ignores me completely??????? I really love her so much and i know she loves me and would never cheat on me but i can't seem to understand her and i don't know what to do to make this right The going out with your friends--how, exactly, did this go down the last time you two had a fight? What about you going out with your friends raises her ire? It just sounds like you two are incompatible if you keep on breaking up, getting back together, breaking up, blah blah... that kind of mess isn't going to work and it doesn't make sense to keep putting yourself through a meat grinder trying to make it work. If she's saying that you don't deserve her, why is she hanging around someone who doesn't deserve her? What does that even mean? You teach people that how they treat you is OK by continuing to hang around them. For you part if you want to be with her, either you have to start acting deserving of her or cut her loose. Here's the thing: the truth does hurt when you dont' want to hear it. She keeps coming back knowing how you are and you keep coming back knowing how she is. It's not like all this dysfunction sprang up last week. Edited February 17, 2016 by kendahke
Author Arda199 Posted February 20, 2016 Author Posted February 20, 2016 UPDATE she is still cold to me and when i text her she always answer after 10 hours or so...so i decided to talk to her, I asked her if she still want me or not ? she said yes but there're some things that she doesn't want and also she said that we're not working out as lovers i told her i love her a lot and i still think we can solve this. she old me that she still in love with me but she's tired of all the fights then she told me that she doesn't know what she's actually saying because she's tired and want to go to sleep what the heck should i do now?????? i feel like i'm humiliating myself by begging her to change her mind. I really do love her a lot but i can't stand it anymore in the same time i don't want to do something that i'll regret later such as breaking up with her btw this is done over a text
katiegrl Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) She texted me "I'm going out with my friends see you later, love you." i just didn't feel it is necessary to reply Yeah it was. You reply "have fun, love you too." I'd be pissed off too. Gonna go against the crowd here and say maybe you should break up and learn more about women and how to be in relationship and make a woman happy. Not ignoring when they text you is a good place to start. Yes she's immature and silly, but it takes two....and I think there is way more to this story (HER SIDE) than what you're sharing here. Edited February 20, 2016 by katiegrl
joseb Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 Yeah it was. You reply "have fun, love you too." I'd be pissed off too. Gonna go against the crowd here and say maybe you should break up and learn more about women and how to be in relationship and make a woman happy. Not ignoring when they text you is a good place to start. Yes she's immature and silly, but it takes two....and I think there is way more to this story (HER SIDE) than what you're sharing here. By not replying you probably unwittingly (or wilfully) sent the message that you are pissed off she is going out with her friends. In this case, yeah, you need to reply. However I think this is just the tip of the iceberg here. She said "you are not working out as lovers"? Sounds like it's done. And not breaking up because you don't want to feel sad is the absolute worst possible reason for not doing it. Don't feel too bad though, I think half the people on here struggling in relationships are guilty of the same thing
preraph Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 UPDATE she is still cold to me and when i text her she always answer after 10 hours or so...so i decided to talk to her, I asked her if she still want me or not ? she said yes but there're some things that she doesn't want and also she said that we're not working out as lovers i told her i love her a lot and i still think we can solve this. she old me that she still in love with me but she's tired of all the fights then she told me that she doesn't know what she's actually saying because she's tired and want to go to sleep what the heck should i do now?????? i feel like i'm humiliating myself by begging her to change her mind. I really do love her a lot but i can't stand it anymore in the same time i don't want to do something that i'll regret later such as breaking up with her btw this is done over a text Clearly, it's her way or the highway. Tell her if she's tired of all the fights, to stop starting them.
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