Rejection

[Notwhat09]

My entire life I've been pretty smooth with girls, I've been rejected before and I don't usually take it too hard but it's not a common occurrence... I was a little of a player until a year and a half ago, when I decided to stop dating until I found a girl I thought i could have a future with... I ended up finding a girl last year I thought was cute... We flirted for a few weeks and I asked her out and got rejected mainly because she was taking a break from dating. Her friend told me that she found me attractive but didn't want to date yet, so I waited... A couple months later I asked her out again and was rejected again. As I got to know her better I realized more and more how much we belonged together, and wanted to ask her out again. I'm not one who lies to myself much, so I can honestly say I'm not chasing her because I can't have her, she's honestly really sweet and beautiful, and has all the qualities I want to see in my kind of woman. I decided to give it another romantic shot this Valentine's Day. We were both in Miami by coincidence so I went to her hotel with a box of pizza and the nicest rose I could find and called her letting her know I was at the pool and I'd love to hang out for a few minutes if she had time. She came to the pool and I expressed how I felt, and she told me she would think about, but that she doesn't like me like that although she does know why. As she put it I'm very nice and good looking and she really has no idea why she feels how she does. I may have over texted her for a while now, and I know that my situation looks grim but I need to somehow amend this and hopefully go out with her. I'd wait as long as I have to, because anything is worth the one you love... Before you give up on an answer, let me express my dad rejected my mom before they got married, and my grandmom also rejected my granddad many times before they got married. I'm a product of perseverance, but neither of them have been very helpful (times were different) advice please

[d0nnivain]

Because she said no for the 3rd time, after the pizza & the rose on Valentine's Day, if you keep pressing you will have crossed into stalker territory.

 

 

Your grandparents were a different generation. Your grandma was playing hard to get.

 

 

This girl just isn't interested. Take no for an answer.

 

 

Now think about the qualities she has that make her so appealing & go find a different woman with those same attributes. She is not the only sweet beautiful woman in the world.

[smudge21]

So you've gone from being pretty much in control of every situation and playing them to finding someone who isn't falling at your feet. Hmm, you sure this isn't more a case of wanting what you can't have, which always makes them more appealing. As someone who is used to getting what they want, this time you're having to put in the effort and that's new for you, so in turn it's making you work harder and think about her more. It may not be her you're falling for, but what she represents. I could be completely wrong on this, but that's just what it sounds like to me. Either way, if she's not interested then you need to back off and just be polite with her. As hard as it is, you need to give people space to either come to you, or not. You can't force the situation.

[brokengirl85]

To me it looks like she's not even playing hard to get. She's blatantly uninterested.

Yo can keep waiting and asking, maybe you'll be lucky and you catch her lonely and without other options, but from my point of view, you should consider other options at the time. I'm sorry, rejection really sucks ugh

[dispatch3d]

I'd giveup at this point. She seems not interested and its pretty hard to turnthat around, to me your better off dating people that like you already, why start off things at a disadvantage when there are people out there that are interested?

 

You barely know each other, at best you have a crush.