OoLoveoO Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 My ex and I have been broken up for about 5 months now. It's been rough but I'm healing. We had been on and off dating for 8 years. Date for months then break up for months in a continuous cycle. He was always the one to leave and I was that stupid girl blind in love holding on to hope and always letting him back in. Always thinking "this time he means it" because I wanted to believe it. I wrote this letter and I'm so tempted to send it to him. When he left I was pathetic and crying and believing it was all my fault. I don't know if this letter is for my pride. If it's an excuse to contact him. If it's closure. I realize I probably won't get a reply but I'll know he read it. Maybe by sending it I can stop holding onto the STUPID hope that he'll come back and truely heal? Or is sending this just a moment of weakness and pointless. Opinions please ..here's the letter.. Dear Chris, You didn't give me enough credit. I put you on a pedestal; I praised you for everything you did right, and even when you did wrong, I still thought you were great and was there for you. Always. You see, I know what it's like to appreciate what is in front of me. I have loved, and I have lost. And when I found you and got to know what was deep down inside you, I began to fall for that. But that's not who you were. That's the person you wanted to be. You wear a mask every day. You put on a big show for everyone around you. Well done! You have them convinced. But me? Not so much. I challenged you to really think about the person you wanted to be. The person you don't show to others. And for a while, you were that person for me. I got your best. And it was wonderful. But when you were done putting in the effort to treat me with respect and love, it went downhill. When you stopped cherishing the time spent and the deep conversations shared, you resented me. You resented how I made you think further than your comfort zone. You resented how much time of yours I took. You resented the effort it took to be a better person for me. You resented my emotional nature and the love I had. And it was hurtful. But that's what I love about myself. I am not easily won over. I don't want to settle for mediocre or half your best, I want rawness and wholeness. I want someone who isn't afraid to shout the way they feel about me. I want someone who is able to recognize I am a prize. I want someone to appreciate that I have opinions and I am a free thinking individual. I want someone to reciprocate the neverending love I have to give. I am not a brainless individual. I am an intelligent being, with opinions and thoughts on the world around me. I am a loving and giving person. My love is rare. Mostly because I love without conditions. And you won't find that just anywhere. My emotions were never yours to toy with. I trusted that you would take good care of me. I gave you some of the most precious pieces of me, but you played me for a fool. You left me unsatisfied with a broken heart and nothing to show for the time we spent together. But I have come to terms with the truth. What I had to offer was much too great for what you were willing to give back. You were not ready for what I was able to provide for you. It frightened you. I wanted to grow with you. I wanted to learn with you. I wanted to build you up, shower you in love. But then again, you showed me you weren't worthy..over and over again. I know, now, that what I have to offer is for someone who realizes just how spectacular I really am. And that was never you. 2
Satu Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 It's a very good letter. Very well written and very clear. But you don't need to send it. Read it aloud to yourself instead, because you will understand it. Read it over and over. Take care. 2
Simon Phoenix Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 Completely pointless. It's just introducing more drama to a situation which already seems to have a lot of it. 2
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 I didn't even read it. If you wrote it to cleanse your soul, writing it accomplishes that goal. Don't send it to him. He won't care anyway. 3
Brando Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 That's a great letter to write. Now throw it in a nice envelope. Light a few candles. Put on a nice black outfit and burn that mother F'er. Don't send it. Burn it and consider it a funeral for your past love. Writing is a good way to let it out. Sending is a good way to feel good for a very very short period and then regret it later. What if he doesn't care? What if he shows his people and they have a laugh? What if it just annoys him? 3
Qboro90 Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 Definitely don't send that. He won't care. You wrote it for yourself so take pride in that and prove that you are better off and deserve more than him by burning that letter and living like the girl you describe in it. That strong, independent, loving girl wouldn't need to send a "this is what you lost, this is why I'm better without you and why you don't deserve me" letter. Trust me, as a guy... Getting a letter like that would only make me think that you're hung up on me and if I ever wanted to I could say the right things, appear remorseful and promise change and it would get you back. By the way you make him sound, he's not the kind of guy who is going to be heartbroken or feel guilty by reading that. He probably wouldn't even read it past the first few lines and just roll his eyes and move on to something else. Leave him in the past, learn from it, and expect more for yourself going forward 2
Author OoLoveoO Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 I'm so glad I posted on here before sending the letter. Thank you for your replies. 2
Hoosfoos Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 Think it, believe it, but don't send it. 1
DrMario Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 I have wrote many of these that I have never sent, at one point I did it once or twice a day just to let my feelings out, she will never have the pleasure of knowing that or reading what I wrote to her, I will never give her that satisfaction, you should deprive your ex of the same satisfaction. 1
mightycpa Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 He'll see right through it, and cringe at the pain and bitterness you're expressing. There's only one kind of person that sends that kind of letter - the lovelorn. Is that really the message you want to send? If you really harbor this stubborn hope that he'll come back, this isn't going to do the job. If you really want him to believe good things about you, to think back about you one day and wonder, then don't send it.
BeFierce Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 That's a great letter to write. Now throw it in a nice envelope. Light a few candles. Put on a nice black outfit and burn that mother F'er. LOLOLOLOLOL that was brilliant Brando Anyway OOOLoveooo, that was a very nice letter, but yes plz don't send it. Minutes after I cut him out of my life, I too, wanted to send him a letter- but it wasn't as Nicholas Sparksy as yours. Mine consisted of telling him to get a cucumber and f#@$ himself. lol But I deleted it, cuz I didn't want to stoop that low. But it was fun to read. lol.
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