Guys asking for body photos OLD

February 17, 2016

you're doing nothing wrong. use this as a filter. the guys that insist on pictures should be eliminated

Then, she will be filtering anyone of quality. No one of quality would waste their time with someone who doesn't take it seriously enough to show pictures of who they really are. They are someone with one foot in and one foot out. Additionally, anyone with online dating experience will have stopped reaching out to such people after being severely burned by morbidly obese people who refused to show pictures a handful of times.

February 17, 2016

The creepy messages have nothing to do with body shots; those are just creepy guys. I'm gonna be honest, if I was a man and I saw a profile with no head-to-toe shot, I'd assume the woman was fat.

February 17, 2016

Do men get asked for full body shots too?

If I were on OLD I would. I don't want to date Santa, sorry.

This isn't a gender thing

February 17, 2016

I do not have many full body shots. I do not have many pictures of me full stop!

I had a full body shot and the "fancy a f***" messages went through the roof. So I took it off.

I am looking for a suitable, honest alternative to go on but not yet found one.

If I am asked I just say sorry I don't have one but these are my current stats. They can make of that what they will.

February 17, 2016

I do not have many full body shots. I do not have many pictures of me full stop!

I had a full body shot and the "fancy a f***" messages went through the roof. So I took it off.

I am looking for a suitable, honest alternative to go on but not yet found one.

If I am asked I just say sorry I don't have one but these are my current stats. They can make of that what they will.

Or you could simply delete/block the negative messages. Better to get exposure to everyone than to limit yourself to the desperate just because you might have to look at a few negative messages.

February 17, 2016

I much prefer profiles that include a body shot. If the person is not physically attractive (to me), then it's a waste of time for us both to later find upon meeting that there is no attraction. I will say I've made some friends meeting women with no body shot (whom I did not find attractive in person), but that's not the usual goal of dating. So I don't ask for body shots, and will meet without them, but the odds of a successful meet are greatly reduced.

In the real world, you know immediately if there's attraction, and don't approach if there isn't. In OLD, you can only "guesstimate" even with photos, because attraction is more than appearance. It's also personality and mannerisms, which don't come through online. But full body photos do reduce some of the uncertainty.

Yes, it's sad and annoying that many men will be rude. Many will be whether or not you post body shots. You can be offended and find few men worth meeting, or just block those who are rude. If you are offended by someone who politely asks for a body photo, then you may be passing up someone who could be a great match for you.

If you don't want to post a body shot, I'd suggest keeping a private photo you can send to someone who asks - politely - for one.

February 17, 2016

Then, she will be filtering anyone of quality. No one of quality would waste their time with someone who doesn't take it seriously enough to show pictures of who they really are. They are someone with one foot in and one foot out. Additionally, anyone with online dating experience will have stopped reaching out to such people after being severely burned by morbidly obese people who refused to show pictures a handful of times.

I'm dating myself but back in the golden days of AOL and such, I met two people. Looking back, I remember being wary of each of them because photos were very limited (and I think they were just head shots or like bust shots at the most)...and I was burned both times with girls who were overweight. That was enough of that for me.

Anyway, I'm agreeing. Any quality guy is going to resent being burned, and if he's already been burnt before, or perhaps if he's more savy then my 19-year-old self, he'll look at a OLD profile with no body pics and say, "Yep she's likely overweight."

February 17, 2016

But not sure having face only will end the problem either

It doesn’t…

We want to size up the package.
Most recently a woman began chatting me up via OLD. She was friendly, funny, nice, witty. She had 2 body shots and I could tell she was not small but not big either (I am fit so size does matter).
She then launched into sending me boob pics. I was trying like hell to see how big she was but the pics were hot and honestly I wasn't so focused.
Well when we met (I drove over an hour), she was huge! So not what I expected. Serious lesson learned!!

Any quality guy is going to resent being burned, and if he's already been burnt before, or perhaps if he's more savy then my 19-year-old self, he'll look at a OLD profile with no body pics and say, "Yep she's likely overweight."

There was a recent thread about OLD profile issues and many went into the many issues with photographs of women.

Most guys who are seriously looking for a nice woman and who are not participating on OLD to act like idiots will simply pass on profiles where women take these frame filling face shots because it has become a HUGE red flag because of the story above.

Many of us guys have been seriously bamboozled when we meet someone and they are many times bigger than a photograph might indicate. Call us petty of shallow but if a woman is serious and not playing games themselves they won’t hide themselves.

If they can see all of you and make the choice accordingly then should be no issue. But stuff like sunglasses on, laying your belly, extreme close ups only says too many of us that you are not serious. In addition if you have anywhere in your profile that says “accept me as I am” well there you go…

I will say NEVER reply if a man asks for one.

February 17, 2016

I much prefer profiles that include a body shot. If the person is not physically attractive (to me), then it's a waste of time for us both to later find upon meeting that there is no attraction. I will say I've made some friends meeting women with no body shot (whom I did not find attractive in person), but that's not the usual goal of dating. So I don't ask for body shots, and will meet without them, but the odds of a successful meet are greatly reduced.

In the real world, you know immediately if there's attraction, and don't approach if there isn't. In OLD, you can only "guesstimate" even with photos, because attraction is more than appearance. It's also personality and mannerisms, which don't come through online. But full body photos do reduce some of the uncertainty.

Yes, it's sad and annoying that many men will be rude. Many will be whether or not you post body shots. You can be offended and find few men worth meeting, or just block those who are rude. If you are offended by someone who politely asks for a body photo, then you may be passing up someone who could be a great match for you.

If you don't want to post a body shot, I'd suggest keeping a private photo you can send to someone who asks - politely - for one.

Only the desperate would even spend the time sending a request though. If someone can't be bothered to post a full picture, then they aren't serious. There are 1000s online. Why send a request for a full body shot? There is no way to ask that without being a little bit weird... By not posting a picture, it shows that they aren't fully committed.

Women get flooded with messages, many of which are obnoxious. That is part of online dating for women. All they have to do is ignore the bad ones. It isn't the end of the world. It is MUCH better than getting almost no messages, and putting work into constructing messages to many women, hoping for a response.

While I am in a very unique situation for my age, which affects my viability, I found that of every 10 messages I sent, I'd get 3-4 responses. Of those, I might be lucky if 1 turned into a meet up. The women that I know that have online dated(many), get their inboxes full on a regular basis. Dealing with obnoxious guys is part of the game.

Each individual has to decide if finding a partner is important enough that they want to fully do online dating in order to find that partner. If deleting a few messages is just too hard for them, they really should examine whether online dating is for them.

February 17, 2016

Yeah with mighty pen. I don't really ask for full body shots, but I just assume any woman with myspace selfies, I just assume she's not just big, but overweight AND insecure about it.

I think for me, I don't mind a girl that's chubby, just so long as she is happy with who she is and that she is smaller than me.

The one girl I met of OKC that had a bunch of face only shots ended up being larger than me and even had photoshopped those ones to cover bad acne and facial complexion.

We had a nice time, but in the end, she never got a second thought from me after the hug good bye. It just ends in disappointment for those ladies and they set themselves up for it. There are men out there who want women like that, don't believe me, google BBW. There are men out there who like the opposite, there's nothing wrong with avoiding wastes of time.

Any woman on this site has argued that point on more than one occasion I'm sure. Whether it's absolute or relative, looks matter to everyone and you're in denial if you think otherwise.

February 17, 2016

Someone brought up what it is like and real life, and that is an excellent point. When we see and meet people in real life, they are not just "floating heads" with their body hidden so we can "get to know what's on the inside." We see their entire frame. So why should OLD be any different?

Take a picture with some nice, conservative dress slacks and a flattering blouse or sweater and be done with it. Just delete the creeps.

February 17, 2016

It's gotten so bad that the only time I will meet a woman without a body shot is if her profile indicates that she's slender. "Average" is all too often an abused category, and I will only meet those women if they have a body shot. I don't expect "perfection" - I'm not perfect - but I do expect an honest portrayal of themselves, or that's another red flag.

February 17, 2016

It's gotten so bad that the only time I will meet a woman without a body shot is if her profile indicates that she's slender. "Average" is all too often an abused category, and I will only meet those women if they have a body shot. I don't expect "perfection" - I'm not perfect - but I do expect an honest portrayal of themselves, or that's another red flag.

I've also found that descriptions mean nothing. I met someone who described themselves as slender and they were at least 50 lbs overweight. Curvy means morbidly, morbidly obese. Average can mean anyone.

February 17, 2016

I've also found that descriptions mean nothing. I met someone who described themselves as slender and they were at least 50 lbs overweight. Curvy means morbidly, morbidly obese. Average can mean anyone.

I've yet to encounter anyone who has lied about being slender - at worst they had a very attractive body shape and were not overweight. Yes, average is a meaningless category. Occasionally, someone new to OLD will say they're curvy, and that actually means they have a good figure. Interpreting what is real with limited information is part luck, and part intuition based on experience.

February 17, 2016

Is this not all just a bit superficial?

OMG she may be a few pounds overweight, how could she deceive me???

People get fat, they can also get thin again, thin people can put on weight too, sometimes lots of it.

All this obsessive avoidance of "fat" people is ridiculous.

Poor Toodaloo posts a full body shot and I guess due to her upper half gets inundated with "fancy a f*ck"... Ugh!

No wonder women do not want to show anything more than a face on OLD.

February 17, 2016

Is this not all just a bit superficial?
OMG she may be a few pounds overweight, how could she deceive me???
People get fat, they can also get thin again, thin people can put on weight too, sometimes lots of it.
All this obsessive avoidance of "fat" people is ridiculous.

Poor Toodaloo posts a full body shot and I guess due to her upper half gets inundated with "fancy a f*ck"... Ugh!
No wonder women do not want to show anything more than a face on OLD.

No, it's not superficial to know what you find attractive and seek it. Initially, the attraction must exist to make you want to develop a relationship. Later, things may change (within reason) without affecting the relationship.

So, if it is superficial, then I suggest that it not be necessary for men to provide their height, because it shouldn't matter to women if the man is a couple of inches shorter than her. It may not even matter to YOU, but it is certainly a deal breaker for the majority of women. But, let's not be superficial!

February 17, 2016

Is this not all just a bit superficial?
OMG she may be a few pounds overweight, how could she deceive me???
People get fat, they can also get thin again, thin people can put on weight too, sometimes lots of it.
All this obsessive avoidance of "fat" people is ridiculous.

Poor Toodaloo posts a full body shot and I guess due to her upper half gets inundated with "fancy a f*ck"... Ugh!
No wonder women do not want to show anything more than a face on OLD.

The objectification of women isn't anything new and novel.

I think some expectations are so Barbie oriented that it makes it impossible to be the "real you" in online dating. No one wants to date people for being themselves anymore. Then they get all shocked and shaken when the honeymoon period ends and they show who they really are.

You can't tell a sociopath from a picture.

Jus' sayin.

February 17, 2016

Is this not all just a bit superficial?
OMG she may be a few pounds overweight, how could she deceive me???
People get fat, they can also get thin again, thin people can put on weight too, sometimes lots of it.
All this obsessive avoidance of "fat" people is ridiculous.

Poor Toodaloo posts a full body shot and I guess due to her upper half gets inundated with "fancy a f*ck"... Ugh!
No wonder women do not want to show anything more than a face on OLD.

Not a "few" pounds. 50-100 more. I've met women who described themselves as slender and were 50 pounds heavier than me, even though I am a foot taller than them.

Dealing with sexed creeps are part of online dating for women. All it requires is for you to ignore and delete their messages. This is a pretty easy price to pay for getting everyone's attention and getting flooded with emails. Men have it 1000x harder. I'd trade the experience for having to delete a few emails any day!

February 17, 2016

The objectification of women isn't anything new and novel.

I think some expectations are so Barbie oriented that it makes it impossible to be the "real you" in online dating. No one wants to date people for being themselves anymore. Then they get all shocked and shaken when the honeymoon period ends and they show who they really are.

You can't tell a sociopath from a picture.

Jus' sayin.

If I am in shape, and I am looking for a partner that is, there is nothing wrong with that. Asking for a full body picture so you could see who they are is completely reasonable.

February 17, 2016

Men have it 1000x harder. I'd trade the experience for having to delete a few emails any day!

This is taken from a real profile. You should try it.

Out of curiosity I made a woman's profile on here to see what you all see. Wow, bombarded by douche bags! And seriously ladies, do most of these guys do it for you??

February 17, 2016

For me, it is also just as much about eating habits as it is attractiveness. I need to be with someone that eats healthy, for various reasons.

February 17, 2016

How about using for your one body a photo of you standing with your dad, who looks like he'd take apart the first man who was rude to his daughter?

February 17, 2016

This is taken from a real profile. You should try it.

Out of curiosity I made a woman's profile on here to see what you all see. Wow, bombarded by douche bags! And seriously ladies, do most of these guys do it for you??

I have many women friends who online date. I know exactly what they get. It is cake to delete messages. Sure beats the alternative though!

February 17, 2016

Is this not all just a bit superficial?
OMG she may be a few pounds overweight, how could she deceive me???
People get fat, they can also get thin again, thin people can put on weight too, sometimes lots of it.
All this obsessive avoidance of "fat" people is ridiculous.

Poor Toodaloo posts a full body shot and I guess due to her upper half gets inundated with "fancy a f*ck"... Ugh!
No wonder women do not want to show anything more than a face on OLD.

I disagree. I'm a very sporty and fit girl and if I did OLD I would also have liked to see a full body picture of the guy prior to meeting him. It's a matter of compatibility. I could never a date a man who doesn't work out and doesn't have an active lifestyle, so being fat is a huuuuge dealbraker to me. Because I am not attracted to overweight and because while I love to spend my sundays for example on exercising/being active, an overweight person clearly does not. Sounds harsh, but that's the truth and I am sure men feel the same.

February 17, 2016

Out of curiosity I made a woman's profile on here to see what you all see. Wow, bombarded by douche bags! And seriously ladies, do most of these guys do it for you??

No - that is why we are still single and why we keep asking single men where ever and however we get the chance to please not be those douche bags...

But then you guys get women being complete *insert your own phrase as I will be banned for using mine*.

Swings and roundabouts.

We just keep our heads down and keep looking.

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