Guys asking for body photos OLD

[AMJ]

I completely understand why a man would want to see a head-to-toe photo of a woman before asking her out. Likewise, I'm also interested in what their body looks like. I don't like posting photos that show my entire body, mainly because I cannot stand all of the creepy messages that guys will send. While I understand why men want to see what my body looks like, I honestly can't really believe that they think it's acceptable to ask me for body photos. I'm actually just throwing this topic out here for more female opinions- how do you respond to this?

[d0nnivain]

When I did OLD eons ago, I was told to put up at least 2 photos: 1 good face shot & another that showed all of me. I had a head shot & one with me standing somewhere wearing a dress. It certainly wasn't provocative.

 

 

I'd be offended by somebody who asked. It would make me think he was only interested in the superficial but if you realize that when you meet people in person they already have that info so it's hard to say.

[preraph]

I agree with Donnivain. Put up one photo taken from afar of you in a respectable dress, not showing much skin and make sure it's nothing to make anyone think, Yeah, she wants it. And if they ask, that way, you already have one up and you KNOW what they're really asking.

[AMJ]

I agree with Donnivain. Put up one photo taken from afar of you in a respectable dress, not showing much skin and make sure it's nothing to make anyone think, Yeah, she wants it. And if they ask, that way, you already have one up and you KNOW what they're really asking.

 

See I never had anything provocative before, but the creepy comments still come. Me in a long maxi dress- not low cut, or wearing a shirt at a baseball game, also not low-cut. It can't be an unflattering outfit, because that defeats the whole point. I'm kind of leaning towards, if men ask for one, they just get ignored.

[LookAtThisPOst]

I completely understand why a man would want to see a head-to-toe photo of a woman before asking her out. Likewise, I'm also interested in what their body looks like. I don't like posting photos that show my entire body, mainly because I cannot stand all of the creepy messages that guys will send. While I understand why men want to see what my body looks like, I honestly can't really believe that they think it's acceptable to ask me for body photos. I'm actually just throwing this topic out here for more female opinions- how do you respond to this?

 

Can't say that I blame them. When I see all 8 photos are selfies, raised above their heads...I tend to balk at it and I probably just skip over the profile because if I ask for at least a waist-up shot...they may feel creeped out by it.

 

As if just an angle or up close face shot isn't enough.

 

Also, what's with all the side-shot selfies (selfies taken from the side)?

[SwordofFlame]

If you want to avoid most of the creepy messages, choose a dating app (Tinder, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel) that requires you to swipe right on the person before they can message you. Not posting a body shot doesn't seem like the best solution in my opinion.

[AMJ]

If you want to avoid most of the creepy messages, choose a dating app (Tinder, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel) that requires you to swipe right on the person before they can message you. Not posting a body shot doesn't seem like the best solution in my opinion.

 

Oh, the messages I got on Tinder were completely disgusting. This was with a body shot.

[SwordofFlame]

Oh, the messages I got on Tinder were completely disgusting. This was with a body shot.

 

I suppose you could report them? Not sure if there will be any consequences though.

[AMJ]

I suppose you could report them? Not sure if there will be any consequences though.

 

I mean, on the one hand, it's good to weed out those guys early. I'd rather know that they're just interested in hooking up before I meet them in person. But I'm not really able to brush it off very well, and it makes the whole process that much more unpleasant.

[Httm]

Dealing with creeps is part of online dating for women. Your messages will be overflowing. Just like not getting messages is part of men's online dating experience. I personally would prefer the former. You have no idea how much work men have to put in to get even a handful of responses.

[losangelena]

Yeah, I think it's just better to have one and field (re: delete) some creepy messages than it is to not have one and have to field the request.

 

When I was active on OLD, my main profile photo was a full body shot. I'd just lost a lot of weight, I wanted to show it off, and I wanted there to be no confusion on the man's end what I looked like. I was fully-clothed, mind you, and standing in a bookshop, so not a lot of provocative comments could be made, but still, better to include it than avoid it. Not having a full-body shot is, in OLD-land, shooting one's self in the foot.

[preraph]

See I never had anything provocative before, but the creepy comments still come. Me in a long maxi dress- not low cut, or wearing a shirt at a baseball game, also not low-cut. It can't be an unflattering outfit, because that defeats the whole point. I'm kind of leaning towards, if men ask for one, they just get ignored.

 

Well, that is pathetic, isn't it? So many losers out there. I guess those are just guys who know they can't possibly pass muster face to face so they're getting any jollies they can online. They surely can't be that stupid to think creepy comments are a turn on that will pull in a date with a woman. Lord.

 

Yeah, just say no to any that ask. But not sure having face only will end the problem either - that only leaves it to their imagination....

[Erik30]

Assuming you're not talking about "nude" pictures or swimsuit, it's because when a girl only has headshots, most guys will think she's probably overweight. I guess that's why some ask for more pictures.

[Otter2569]

We want to size up the package.

 

Most recently a woman began chatting me up via OLD. She was friendly, funny, nice, witty. She had 2 body shots and I could tell she was not small but not big either (I am fit so size does matter).

 

She then launched into sending me boob pics. I was trying like hell to see how big she was but the pics were hot and honestly I wasn't so focused.

 

Well when we met (I drove over an hour), she was huge! So not what I expected. Serious lesson learned!!

[joseb]

Oh, the messages I got on Tinder were completely disgusting. This was with a body shot.

 

You can only get messaged by guys you agree to message with. Perhaps re-evaluate your criteria to swipe right. Eg not on blank profikes. Or "looking for fun" guys. Or shirtless selfies types. Etc.

[LoveRefreshed]

I imagine that when women stop asking for face shots and height listing, I am pretty sure men will stop asking for body shots.

 

I think there is nothing wrong with asking for a photo to not waste yours and his time. If he's not attracted, it's better to not have the date.

[JFReyes]

Assuming you're not talking about "nude" pictures or swimsuit, it's because when a girl only has headshots, most guys will think she's probably overweight. I guess that's why some ask for more pictures.

 

I completely agree.

[elaine567]

Do men get asked for full body shots too?

[candie13]

Calling BS on The OP .

 

Treat yourself like a piece of meat and so Will The rest of the world. Since quality of your dates is such a big deal, go to an expensive OLD site and yes, upload not one but several full body & close up pics. Not stading there, but doing activites you enjoy, to convey not just a body image but a sense of your personality.

 

Just like women don't respond to men uploading one pic, it's only fair women won't get picked up or contacted by quality men because they also feel The need to be reassured. Paid OLD is much much better than free dating sites.

[PegNosePete]

Paid OLD is much much better than free dating sites.

This is totally wrong based on my experience.

[AverageJoe1986]

Dealing with creeps is part of online dating for women. Your messages will be overflowing. Just like not getting messages is part of men's online dating experience. I personally would prefer the former. You have no idea how much work men have to put in to get even a handful of responses.

 

Not all men...

[thefooloftheyear]

Do men get asked for full body shots too?

 

 

I dunno...but I guarantee they are asked how tall they are...

 

TFY

[Summer3]

Oh, the messages I got on Tinder were completely disgusting. This was with a body shot.

 

Married 14 years now and never did OLD. From what I've read on this site Tinder is for sexual purposes only. I've heard good stuff about Match and eHarmony.

 

 

If I was single and doing OLD I wouldn't date a guy unless I saw a full body shot and a close up of his face that wasn't photoshopped. Then I'd Skype with him to see how he sounds and watch his body language. If I had a good feeling only then would I agree to a meet up.

[lilmissjava]

I have no issue posting a casual full body shot of things I like to be doing. Isn't that how photos used to be taken? There used to be an actual person behind the camera taking the picture, not your extended arm, selfie stick or mirror selfie.

 

Before the onset of digital cameras and smart phones, photos of people were in their natural state, doing activities they enjoyed. You used to have to scan pictures that came from a roll of film to put it on the Internet.

 

One dimensional us will never be as satisfactory as the in person us. We start changing as soon as the shutter clicks.

 

 

[Httm]

Not all men...

 

On average, and I could back it up with evidence if you'd like.