Notsocreative Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Not so short story: I met this amazing girl couple of months ago. We started spending much time together, we were like made to be a couple(and our other friends I think even noticed something between us, because they even called us "lovebirds" sometimes and things like that), we were both texting and hanging out very much. But there, few days around NY things got some kind of ****ed up. See, I don't know what the hell happened but something changed. Its just I started to get a feeling that suddenly I am boring to her. I don't know how, why, or what I could've done, but we started texting less than before, and she suddenly never has time to go out with me alone. When we are with other people she acts like nothing happened, but then sometimes I get a feeling when I start joking or simply trying to start a conversation I get a feeling that she is bored with me. So that really is starting to make me feel bad. I don't know I just have feeling that one moment we have sparks between us like before, and other she completely is shut down, and that moments change rapidly. Even when I text her with simple things like asking about her faculty or something. One time she answers me and we start texting like before, another time, the most annoying thing ever: "Seen" message and not a single ****ing reply. That has happened more than once, one day we text each other like in good old days, another just sees the message not a single thing. I don't know what the **** should I do I mean I am scared to start a simplest conversation with her now, not to talk about asking out... 1
basil67 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 As much as it hurts, it's pretty normal for people to get a temporary attraction to another person. As we get to know the person better, the attraction will either increase or wane depending on how suitable that person is with us. I'm sure it's not because of something you've done, it's just because as she's gotten to know you better, she's realised that the two of you won't work. From what you write, it sounds like you were not actually dating. If so, I'd just assume she's no longer interested. Time to move on. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 You can't just much by texts. It's a horrible way to communicate. Instead ask her what's going on. Stop assuming. The assumptions you are making are probably making you act differently & she's picking up on that. 1
Satu Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 A ranking of communication methods by relative efficiency: 1. Face to face. 2. Skype. 3. Telephone. 4. Email. 5. Smoke signals or semaphore. 6. Seance or Nordic Runes. 7. Sobbing silently in the dark, cut off from everything and everyone. Not knowing anything because there is nothing to be known. 8. Texts. ymmv. 1
iphone_user1 Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 (edited) Been there. The classic fading away maneuver. You better stop talking to her. Don't be surprised if she's seeing someone else. Call her, if she doesn't pick up or return the call, say goodbye for the meantime. Hopefully there is something serious on her side going on and occupying her mind, even though she should let you know. How old is she? Edited February 17, 2016 by iphone_user1
red.velvet Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 If you really like her, call her and ask her what's going on. If she's no longer interested, seeing someone else or doesn't pick up, leave it and move on.
Author Notsocreative Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 Yeah, I thought of that, but she is very introvert person so I doubt that is the case(I mean she is not type that would go around and hunt guys), she never had a boyfriend before. And we got pretty close, everything was so great, so I don't know what is going on suddenly. She is 23 btw.
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