Just text my ex who i dumped

[cornbread103]

I just spent 6 months with a girl in Africa. They day i left i saw an email between her and her ex before me. She was asking him to meet up after i'd gone.

I hit the rood. I'm still pissed tbh. She told me nothing was going to happen and it was a friend. I was just so insulted that she would want to keep an ex around. I knew he had contacted her and she told me she was told him not to contact her again.

I dumped her at the airport after finding out and was fuming. I've blocked her on all my socials, changed numbers and not spoke to her for over 2 weeks.

She started texting me saying i was cold for dumping her, that nothing was going to happen, that she wanted to spend her life with me etc. I was jus so hurt though, i still am.

But as the weeks go on, the anger goes and you start to think about speaking to them. At least to hear their side. And see if there is a way of working it out.

 

I'm a bit hesitant about making contact though. 50% of me thinks its a bad idea. 50% of me misses her and want to see if i can make it work.

 

I was going to text and say that i am hurt still but we should talk about what happened.

 

She come back to my town in 3 months. We were supposed to move in together. I'm pretty confused. I honestly don't know if i want her back, hate her still, wether she wants to make it work. Or what.

 

Should we talk?

What should i say to initiate a conversation?

[b-Shock]

Sorry you're going through this. You have every right to be hurt. That's a pretty big betrayal of trust on her part.

 

It sounds like you've put a lot of thought into the various outcomes or responding to her. What do think was really her motivation in inviting him to spend time with her after you left? Do you think she still has legitimate feelings for him?

[cornbread103]

She keeps telling me that she wasn't going to do anything and was going to meet up as friends and wants to spend her life with me etc etc. She doesn't think she did anything wrong.

I'm at a cross point. It's been 2 weeks. All those doubts and feelings i had about breaking up are creeping in and i want to talk to see if there is anything to sort out but i can't bring myself to do it because

A) It's too painful. Opening all that up just makes me feel so sick to the stomach.

B) Its taking a chance on her wanting to reconcile. What if she doesn't.

 

Through a mutual friend i know that she is going to work in a small town for 3 months to save money and then will be back in my town, where we were supposed to be living together.

Im at a crossroads because i have a hard time speaking to her, but if i leave it too long it will fizzle out.

Im so split between talking to her or focussing on moving on, i just dont know what to do

[cornbread103]

I broke up with my ex at the airport. I found some messages on her phone from an ex. She claims they are innocent. I'd spent 3 months with her and was so furious i couldn't bare to look at her, so i told her it was over n flew home.

2 weeks of NC later and i'v gone back and forth over and over in my head. Move on, speak to her n see if there is anything to work out.

She actually still part blames me and says that it was totally innocent. But when is talking to an ex EVER innocent? Why would you even want to?

 

Anyway, iv just text her that i was really hurt and still am. But if she wants to talk we can, tomorrow. She moves to my town in 2 months so it was either move on n hope im over it by then or try n save it now.

 

Just writing it out on here. I always like looking back at the thought process.

I dont even know myself tbh. I guess im at the point where i miss her and it gets hard. And if there is a way of sorting it we should try.

 

She went NC on me for two weeks btw. I blocked her on everything first but she stuck to it. I heard from her friend last week that she was heartbroken and it made me less interested.

 

So remember that. Reverse psychology always wins