Rimbaud59 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Went out with a girl to play miniature golf for a second date. About an hour after the date she texted me this: 'Hi. Hope you got back ok. I had fun today...more fun than I thought it would be playing miniature golf! Lol?? you are one cheeky git xxx This girl is the most beautiful girl I have ever dated. She also has a high-status job. We haven't kissed yet. and I haven't really seen the signals. Does she like me? Does she have high interest?
Eighty_nine Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Yes. I can't imagine why she would text you to follow up otherwise. 1
Philosopher Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Well lets analyse the text. Firstly she emphasised that she had a lot of fun, a lot more fun than she was expecting, so she clearly enjoyed the date. Secondly she called you cheeky and put Lol in her text, this suggests she found you funny. Finally she texted you pretty soon after the date, so it seems she is pretty keen on continuing the conversation with you. So from the text at least, it definitely does sound like she is interested. Have you texted her back? 1
Author Rimbaud59 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 Yeah. I texted her back. I just said I had fun too and that I found her very entertaining. I wished her a nice holiday - she's going on a cruise. I didn't arrange a date then because I had been listening to some dating coaches and they suggested to wait for the day after the date. She then texted me to say she found me very entertaining too. She then texted about not being able to find her car after the date and a funny encounter she had with her parents. I didn't text back. Two days later I texted her to see if she could make X event on Y date and time. It's been two days and no response. She is on holiday though, so I'm trying not to panic too much. She's definitely the type of girl who would text back to say she's not interested, so I can only assume she hasn't replied because she's on holiday. But maybe it could be otherwise.
katiegrl Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 (edited) Yeah. I texted her back. I just said I had fun too and that I found her very entertaining. I wished her a nice holiday - she's going on a cruise. I didn't arrange a date then because I had been listening to some dating coaches and they suggested to wait for the day after the date. She then texted me to say she found me very entertaining too. She then texted about not being able to find her car after the date and a funny encounter she had with her parents. I didn't text back. Two days later I texted her to see if she could make X event on Y date and time. It's been two days and no response. She is on holiday though, so I'm trying not to panic too much. She's definitely the type of girl who would text back to say she's not interested, so I can only assume she hasn't replied because she's on holiday. But maybe it could be otherwise. Why did you wait two days to text her back? If you tell me it's what your "dating coach" advised I think I might puke...sorry. After only one date... she may have assumed you weren't interested and met another guy on the cruise. You gotta strike while the fire is hot dude....otherwise you gonna get burned! Edited February 16, 2016 by katiegrl 1
Author Rimbaud59 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 Perhaps. But if that's the case there's nothing I could have done anyways. It's still more likely other reasons.
katiegrl Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 (edited) Perhaps. But if that's the case there's nothing I could have done anyways. It's still more likely other reasons. No you could have responded to her text right then and there and kept the convo, bantering going. And then asked her out for when she returned from the cruise. Instead of ignoring her text when it was obvious she was trying to be playful and get something going.... leaving her to think godonlyknowswhat for two days. Oh well, what's done is done. I hate those "waiting" games guys often play. A real turn off. Edited February 16, 2016 by katiegrl 1
Author Rimbaud59 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 When she comes back from the cruise I'll ring her. She will not have lost interest because I didn't text for a couple of days. She's high-status. She's not that fickle. And if she is, then maybe she's not so great. If she's interested as others have surmised from the text, then she'll make a date with me. If she has met somebody on the cruise and that's the reason she hasn't replied, then even if I did make a date with her it would have been meaningless. It's not like she would say to her new paramour: 'oh, I like you - but I have a third date waiting for me, so I better not flirt with you.' But, that said, I will definitely take your advice and not wait to text a girl in the future because of these sort of complications.You're definitely right in that regard.
katiegrl Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 When she comes back from the cruise I'll ring her. She will not have lost interest because I didn't text for a couple of days. She's high-status. She's not that fickle. And if she is, then maybe she's not so great. If she's interested as others have surmised from the text, then she'll make a date with me. If she has met somebody on the cruise and that's the reason she hasn't replied, then even if I did make a date with her it would have been meaningless. It's not like she would say to her new paramour: 'oh, I like you - but I have a third date waiting for me, so I better not flirt with you.' But, that said, I will definitely take your advice and not wait to text a girl in the future because of these sort of complications.You're definitely right in that regard. Good idea. hopefully she is still interested....assuming she was ever interested in the first place, which it sounds like she was. I posted this on another thread...but women aren't fickle necessarily. But early on we can lose the connection we felt on the first date fairly quickly if a guy waits too long to ask us out again. Or ignores our texts when we are trying to be playful and engaging. Good luck hope it works out.
d0nnivain Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 I think it was a positive text. Why don't you? It shows concern & admits that you opened her mind (it also implies that even though she may have been uncertain about the activity she liked you enough to try). Call her & plan date # 3. Strike while the iron is hot & watch her body language for signs that a good night kiss is welcome.
Author Rimbaud59 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 Thank you for your advice, KatieGrl. From what you've said. I will never not text again. I didn't realise it was such a turn-off. I just don't text because I find it boring. I would rather hang out and talk then talk through text. But if this is the consequence, I'll text, goddammit! 1
Author Rimbaud59 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 I think it was a positive text. Why don't you? It shows concern & admits that you opened her mind (it also implies that even though she may have been uncertain about the activity she liked you enough to try). Call her & plan date # 3. Strike while the iron is hot & watch her body language for signs that a good night kiss is welcome. I will do. Based on the positive responses I've just booked an activity which is three weeks away. When she comes back on the 22nd I'll phone her that evening and arrange something fun for the weekend. Surely it must be because she's on holiday. But perhaps she met someone else.
katiegrl Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Thank you for your advice, KatieGrl. From what you've said. I will never not text again. I didn't realise it was such a turn-off. I just don't text because I find it boring. I would rather hang out and talk then talk through text. But if this is the consequence, I'll text, goddammit! I understand, many people hate texting. But when a woman texts you being playful and engaging.... it's rude to just ignore her. Next time, all you need to do is tell her you're busy (so can't continue texting)....but let her know you'd like to see her again after she returns from the cruise. If she's into you, this will make her happy, and if another man does approach her on the cruise, she will have happy thoughts about you, and perhaps not get so chummy with him. 1
Jabron1 Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 I didn't arrange a date then because I had been listening to some dating coaches and they suggested to wait for the day after the date. Mate, the dating coaches/pick up stuff should only be treated like training wheels. You aren't supposed to rigidly follow any rules. Learn the rules; master the rules; forget the rules. Agree with Katie, she was only after some banter. The problem now is that she might start closing off and playing games. Also, you're going to have to learn to like texting. I hated it for years too, but women love it. Takes a little while to get good at it though, so accept that you'll suck for awhile. After the growing pains, you'll learn that texting can actually be quite fun. 2
Maggie4 Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 More reasons to not purposely delay your reply: 1. Women know what dating coaches are telling you, so the wait 2-3 days bit is well-known and tells her you are playing games. 2. She might make you wait as long as you made her wait. You waited 2 days to text her back, so no surprise you haven't heard from her for 2 days. She might mirror you, so if you don't want to wait, then don't do onto others... Why don't you just tell her you are not good at texting. Forget the coaches, be completely open and honest. That's refreshing, and that's how you can stand out from the others. 2
Eighty_nine Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 Why did you wait two days to text her back? If you tell me it's what your "dating coach" advised I think I might puke...sorry. After only one date... she may have assumed you weren't interested and met another guy on the cruise. You gotta strike while the fire is hot dude....otherwise you gonna get burned! yeah... you didn't have to necessarily keep the conversation going, but to not add a "Haha that's funny" or some acknowledgement of her story might not have been good. Then when the conversation naturally ends, that's when you wait a couple days to text again. I think this would bug me, but not enough to not see you again. Just acknowledge what tells you in the future. But if she's on a cruise, she probably doesn't have regular phone service.
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